When I’m stressed, I become introverted. There are so many instances where talking to someone would have helped. I feel that as soon as I do this, I’m starting to tackle the problem. And especially at work, my managers are more forgiving if they are taken on my journey than if they are kept in the dark and I eventually fail to deliver. Often, people present solutions I have never thought of. A problem shared is a problem halved.
Lately I’ve noticed little things that make me stressed or anxious. Passing people in the street, or driving past cars at junctions, or checking my calendar for meetings, my level of anxiety rises – something I’ve never noticed, but now that I do, I know it was always there. So I’m practicing managing my emotions with the small things; hopefully this will give me a better sense of wellbeing and energy to tackle the bigger things.
I just had my end of year appraisal at work. Interestingly, I’ve always felt that delivery is the most important aspect of the job, but most of the criticisms were about my relations with other people. I guess that says something about my focus in the job. It almost seems that they’d rather I delivered less and was better with people. Whilst I’m good with customers, I’m less good with people in my local team – although most of my work is done in collaboration with other teams rather than my own due to the nature of the work. It’s difficult when there’s so much pressure to take the time to socialise with others on work time, but it seems that culturally, this is important. It’s ironic, because I come to work and think how unsociable and miserable my colleagues are. Maybe what I’m seeing is a reflection of myself.
Lately I’ve noticed that the little obligations, tasks, requests, etc can have a huge impact on wellbeing and energy. Having lots of small things looming over me is worse than one big thing. The solution? Get them out of the way. Keep the bedroom tidy, don’t let the washing up pile on the counter, reply to emails straight away. Then I have a much better idea of how much time I have to attend to the big tasks, and the concentration to do them efficiently.
I’m watching Elbow at Glasto 2011 and can’t believe that after so much time in Bristol, I’ve not been to the festival once!
Here’s a list of the things I’m trying out to get more energy:
Nutrition – make sure I get my full RDA of vitamins, minerals and calories. Eat dinner 2-3 hours before bedtime. Take a multivite and fish oil supplements.
Water – drink more
Sleep – go to bed and wake up at the same time each day.
Exercise – swim, stretch at least twice a week (or more if my body is up to it). Go for a morning walk at weekends.
Emotional – love myself, and look on stressful situations as life experiences, seeing the positive side to things and accepting that not everything goes my way. Think about the things that have gone well this week rather than dwelling on the things that went wrong. Set things up so I always have something to look forward to.