Anya W.

Rejoined an old dating site I’d given up on before. Added new pictures every month. Took pictures with my camera for practice and kept the nice ones, replied to guys who sounded promising, and just about when I was going to give up again six months or so later…I started talking to an awesome new guy, we went out a few times, and now he’s my boyfriend :P

I’ve gone to meet with this one guy a few times now, and we’re going to the city on Friday together…but I dunno if I could count those encounters as “dates” or not. Yes, we are mildly interested in each other, but I don’t really want a long term thing with this guy.

In the mean time, there’s this online fella who can be really top notch sometimes. Our personalities jibe. But sometimes, he can be really emotionally distant, so I’ve written him off a few times now. But it’s such a shame; we can talk about pretty much anything. But he also lives two states away. Eh.

Now, besides the first guy and the internet fella, I’ve been on a dating site and have gotten convos going with a few fellas there. One was just kind of an ass, but I only talked with him once. I wasn’t impressed, though. The other guy almost seems too nerdy for me, but I kind of doubt that. (You’re looking at Ms. Dungeons and Dragons, watches Dr. Who and pretty much abuses the hell out of any internet meme that comes her way…lol!)

Then there’s this one guy’s profile that I saw today…he seems like almost a carbon copy of me, but just a guy. I was so impressed that I messaged him 3/4ths of the way down his profile (lol). I just asked him point blank in the e-mail if he had a messenger so we could get to know each other better or something. I got a good feeling about him.

BUT! Guy #1 (Friday date fella) is my sister’s friend, and our cousin, who knows him too, texted me the other day (jokingly? I dunno?) asking, “You official yet?”

I’m 21, no kids, Associate degree, and I…just kind of don’t want to be in a long term relationship yet. There are too many possibles in my life, and I don’t want to just “end up” with some guy and get derailed. So, that makes me in the “short-term” category. But what the hell is short term, exactly?

What makes this confusing is I’m gray-A – may be asexual or demisexual, but not sure yet…so it’s more awkward. I feel like every guy I talk to wants sex out of me. I’m not looking for that, exactly. I am looking for an intelligent partner who wants to do fun things together (activities, like going camping or parasailing) and cuddle.

Somebody make things clear for me!! I feel the pressure!! But it’s good to be back in the game. :)

After researching, I’ve found that my favorite option out of the two I was considering (T. Rowe Price vs. Vanguard) requires a minimum of $1000 to open. From my research, I’ve been looking for an no-load index kind of fund, and the T. Rowe Price Roth seems to have a lot more foreign investments made – which makes the fund more risky than the Vanguard. While I like that, because I would like my financial decisions to reflect my idea of being a global citizen, I’m still at a loss for which to finally pick. In the end, since I just finished my emergency fund, I can start saving at least a thousand for this goal, too. So that deters me a lot longer than June, seeing as I have a grand total of $0 saved for it so far.

I dunno when I will reach that thousand, whether it will be by the end of this year or the beginning of the next, but it’s still on my goals list. Going to make a separate bank account today to start saving up. Wish me luck!