I have been with my fiancé for about 16 years now. We have 5 kids together and we wanted to get married, but there have been many obstacles in our lives which have stood in the way of us getting married. I have been sick, birth of children, relatives passing away, loss of jobs, too many to explain. We were teenage sweethearts; we started dating and fell madly in love. He was my first and only love. Life happened and we didn’t get the chance to get married. Now as I am getting older and so are our children, we both really want to get married.
We were planning on getting married next year, but he was laid off last year. It is not an easy task to plan/have a wedding when there isn’t any money to contribute to it. He went through a period where he was insecure and feeling down because he did not have a job. Plus, I have health issues and it has not been easy being in pain all the time while trying to work. I take days off of work due to the pain being so overwhelming. He is a good man and wants to give me the wedding that I want, but with the lack of funds, it is not possible. He feels that he should be able to provide for me and our kids, as well as give me a wedding.
I know it is tradition for the family of the Bride to pay for the wedding, but my mom is a single mother. My father passed away when I was a teen, so she has raised us all by herself. She is not able to contribute to our wedding because she is in a financial bind as well. I know she would if she could, but she is not a position to be able to help. His family is in the same position, where there is no money to help out. Money is really tight right now, so it is up to us to pay for everything. My family expenses come first, our kids need to eat, have a roof over their head, etc. We tried to save money for the wedding, but what we did have we used to cover expenses when he was laid off.
Thankfully, my fiancé recently started working again, but we are trying to get caught up on bills, plus the costs of daily living get in the way as well. Plus now he is a bit scared with the economy the way it is to put so much money towards a wedding. He wants to wait until everything is more stable, which I can understand, but life got in the way before, I don’t want it to get in the way again.
I know that it would make our children happy for us to be married; they have always wanted us to get married. We were considering just getting a marriage license, but I always wanted to have an actual wedding. The dress, walking down the aisle with my oldest son, the reception and I especially envisioned our first dance as a couple. I know it is ever girl’s dream to have a beautiful wedding and be a princess for a day. That is something that I would love! Right now, it doesn’t look like it will be a reality in my life, but if I won, then my dream would come true. I would love to win as it would make my family and me very happy. Please help to make my dream wedding come true.