Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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realizes that maturity does NOT come with age...

I'm doing 17 things

How I did it
How to stop being a pushover
It took me
6 months
It made me

How to stop caring what other people think of me
It took me
365 days
It made me

How to get over him
It took me
90 days
It made me

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Keep losing weight till I reach my goal weight
Only stop when YOU want to.

Along the way, you will have people at work or friends accuse you of the most outrageous things like barfing up your lunch.

Or they may tell you, you’re losing too much. Too much for who? Ask ‘em how much they lost and that’ll shut ‘em up.

Keep losing until YOU’RE happy with it. within reason, and in a healthy manner Make sure you’re doing it for yourself in the first place. If you’re doing it to please someone or any other reasons that aren’t for completely for you, it won’t last.

separate myself from my mother
Moved 3,000 miles away and made a discovery

I didn’t realize that my family problems were so deeply rooted for so long until I moved 3,000 miles away from my immediate family. I received a great job offer and relocation package after I finished graduate school. I always felt some type of animosity towards me from my mom and her sisters but could never put my finger on it. I always felt like they were all angry at me for something but could not figure out why. My mom’s divorced from my father due to an abusive relationship, for good reason over 25-30 years ago. I have had to play the whipping boy for the things my father said and did to them while he did live with us, some things I was aware of, but I think there are things that I’m not aware of I was young about 5 or 6 yrs old.

Since my physical resemblance is so close to my father I have lost my identity. In my mother eyes, and also her sisters, I represent him so I have been treated as if I was the one who treated them this way or somehow support or condone the things he’s said and done. Any time I don’t agree with something my mother says or don’t conduct my life the way she would, I have to hear “you’re just like your father”

I’ve heard this all of my life, all through childhood. Throughout my life I notice that when things are going REALLY sour for me, like I go thru a bad breakup or lose my job, no support or encouragement is given. Just silence. It’s acted like it’s an expected thing. I feel like they are secretly enjoying it because they are silent about it. When things are going pretty steadily, not necessarily spectacular but just okay, and positive, I hear more criticism from my mother. Example, the first year I moved to CA I lost 40 lbs after I’d learned I was diabetic so I worked REALLY hard in the gym to lose it and I thought she’d be proud. She said, oh that’s just your diabetes getting worse, that happens when you become diabetic. So in other words, you couldn’t possibly have achieved that through hard work.

To be hated so much, you think it would be best to remove myself. I find out that they are pretty much sitting around stewing waiting for something bad to happen to me so they can celebrate my failure. I really think that my hurt, pain, or failures serve as some sick type of revenge towards my father. I didn’t realize it until this year, it’s all starting to make sense now. Last family visit on Labor Day weekend went horrible and I ended up coming back 4 days early and spent extra money to do it, but I didn’t care. I was so miserable that I wanted to just come back home to detox from all of the bad memories from my mom’s failed marriage, which she also has blamed me for. She basically says that she would not have stayed in her marriage if it weren’t for me.

So. This is why I am separating myself from my mother. I deserve to have my own life and I did nothing to cause any of these events to happen. I’m carrying a lot of guilt when good things happen for me and for the longest time I never knew where it was coming from, now I do. That’s something I have to work on very hard. I say I’ll never go back to visit, maybe one day I will, but it won’t be any time soon.

think positively
... a work in progress

Well for awhile now I’ve been listening to positive affirmations podcasts and online coaching sessions such as and to give me some encouragement and helps to ward off negative thoughts.

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