I'm doing 17 things
We are really great together. I was listening to a couple on christian radio who do marriage counseling and that type of thing together. No I’m not married, but all relationships have room for improvement and I learned somethings from it. They were saying that one of the most important things to a man is success, not just in their career but at anything they attempt (fixing the car, trying to be romantic, etc.). They told a story about a man who wanted to do something romantic for his wife; so he picked flowers from the neighbors yard and then bundled them together with duct-tape. Of course his wife could have laughed in his face or gotten angry and felt insulted by this (and there are a lot of women out there who would have reacted that way!), but instead she appreciated the thoughtfulness and effort. And guess what happened, their relationship got better and he continued to do romantic things for her (he also got much better at this).
As for women, they said one of the most important things to them is security. Not as in the big manly guy will protect her, but being able to feel secure that he is in it for the long haul. In-other-words she doesn’t fear that he might leave her because she is majorly PMSing or having a bad hair day etc. I can only speak for myself, but as for me that is absolutely true (I know it sounds a little insane, but I think most women worry about this constantly in the back of their minds). I guess the best way for a guy to fulfill this need for security is to provide reassurance often (a sweet text message, telling her what your favorite things about her are, planning a picnic at the park, have you noticed that these things are all free or inexpensive). Many man would say that she should just know without him having to say or do anything, but women DO NOT work that way. If you withhold those reassuring/sweet gestures, some women will bitch out loud about how you don’t care and others will just keep it inside until it all boils over.
Now I am working on ways to show my guy that I think he is very successful and ways to help him feel successful for himself.
