I remember thinking how for so many, conversation is very little listening and a lot of waiting for an opportunity to speak. Have you ever had one of those conversations – where the person you’re talking to is barely paying attention, but jumps in animatedly as soon as you’ve finished your thought with their often lengthy ‘contribution?’ I’ve always found that so exasperating. Lately, I’ve noticed I’ve become one of THOSE!
Back in my school days, I was the one in the group everyone called a good listener. It was one of my better qualities. I would listen, understand, internalize. The other day, in conversation with my sister, I realized I wasn’t really focusing on what she was saying, then when it was my ‘turn’ I became quite wordy. I then realized it wasn’t the first time I’d realized this. I don’t know if it’s something that’s come with age, or if maybe I’m bored by the people I hang out with? All I know is I do not like this at all. Not focusing on what a person is saying is making a statement: they and the words they speak are not important enough for me. That’s just not someone I want to be.
