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I haven’t really done this but something similar. Since I have broken up with my girlfriend I have got to know people much better than I did. I think this is actually a much better goal than meeting new people.

I have just realized I had a 43t account so i thought I would come and see what has changed. Since I last used it my girlfriend and I have split up (she dumped me!) so I thought I would share my thoughts in hindseight on how to be a better boyfriend.

Things started to go wrong in September. She was starting off at university and I was helping with the welcome week at my university (helping freshers get into the swing of uni life). Unfortunately this meant I wasn’t there for her. The people she was living with all knew each other and didn’t take any effort to try and get to know her. She felt alone, she needed someone, she needed me but I wasn’t there. She ended up getting rather close to another one of our friends (the guy she is with now).

After this things just weren’t the same between us. We always seemed to be getting each other upset. It didn’t really help that we didn’t tell each other our true feelings. Anyway, a few weeks later she said she wanted to go on a break…

All of my friends here at uni said that I should forget about her and move on – can I just say that this is the worse advice to give! We tried to stay friends but things just weren’t the same, we kept getting each upset still. We needed some proper time apart. I now know that what she really wanted was for me to go and say I love her. To tell her I was stupid and that I wanted her to take me back. I wanted to too, but I took the advice not to.

I hope this helps someone to not make the mistake as me. I have now got to ‘make up with my ex’. In summary:
- If she needs you be there, no matter what anyone tells you
- If she says she wants to go on a break then let her settle for a few days. You will both feel really bad and need some time to be alone. Remember why you need each other and then go and meet her. Tell her why you need her, tell her you love her and appologise for letting your relationship getting like this (even if it isn’t your fault!)

Well I have started working on my online business! I found someone in a similar boat to me at BuildV1. We are working on a top secrect app, but if you want to know what we are up to have a read of the Juvely blog.