I am in the same boat right now – when I travel home to upstate New York to check in on my mother who has early onset Alzheimer’s (diagnosed at age 58), I always make sure to take time out for me.
The last trip in early March meant a stop at the Montrepose Cemetery in Kingston, NY and then a short trip over to the New Paltz Rural Cemetery. Even though it was cold and there was snow on the ground, it was my time for me. Of course, I still was thinking of Mom but it helped balance out the trip for me.
I will be doing more of this over the next few months as we get to the final stages of my mother’s disease. Little side trips can really be a respite from all the emotions involved in such visits.