I'm doing 36 things
It has been much easier as of late to embrace the wonder of singledom. No snark! I’ve spent a great deal of my life as a singleton, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. In the meantime, I’ve been focusing on paying attention to my needs – working out, eating healthy, talking to my therapist, going out and dancing like a fool with friends. I’ve also been reading “Communion: The Female Search for Love” by bell hooks and “If the Buddha Dated” by Charlotte Kasl. Both marvelous books – approaches love in a healthy and conscious way. Being single is a gift, and someone who will make a good partner for me will come along when the time is right.
upallnight's Life List
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1. Take better care of myself, after all I am my most important asset and the person I will wake up to every single day of my life
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2. Celebrate being single while I'm single
2 entries . 21 cheers36 people -
3. love and be loved
8 cheers2,652 people -
4. lose weight
13 entries . 4 cheers40,804 people -
5. find a career that I love
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6. improve my Spanish speaking ability
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7. Have a totally different life by this time next year
1 entry . 4 cheers989 people -
8. stop procrastinating
1 entry . 1 cheer30,012 people -
9. Payoff my credit card debt
1 entry . 8 cheers7 people -
10. stick to a budget
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11. Learn to be less critical of myself and others.
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12. visit the smithsonian
1 entry . 2 cheers61 people -
13. follow a cleaning schedule.
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14. live life fearlessly
2 entries . 5 cheers45 people -
15. decorate my apartment
3 cheers271 people -
16. get my credit score to 800
43 people -
17. kiss someone at midnight on new years eve
3 cheers19 people -
18. 20 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Sunday
75 people -
19. Do something...anything in the fight against RACISM
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20. make real friends that share my interests
2 entries . 8 cheers263 people -
21. go to museums in Chicago
1 entry . 5 cheers7 people -
22. Put my photos in albums
2 cheers102 people -
23. stop homophobia
8 cheers118 people -
24. Be a better friend
1 entry . 1 cheer6,313 people -
25. stop worrying so much about what i look like
3 entries . 22 cheers43 people -
26. go hiking
3 cheers659 people -
27. stand up for myself
1 entry . 14 cheers996 people -
28. learn world geography
3 cheers18 people -
29. have interesting conversations
2 cheers12 people -
30. brush my teeth twice a day
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31. Read all the books that Rory Gilmore has read
1 cheer567 people -
32. try out for Jeopardy
1 cheer12 people -
33. Leave flowers on Zora Neale Hurston's grave
1 entry . 8 cheers7 people -
34. experience 'magic'
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35. travel overseas
1 entry . 2 cheers294 people -
36. complain less, flirt more
1 cheer2 people
How I did it
It made me 
How I did it: I talked before about "stalking" this person on various social networking sites. So, imagine my surprise when he found me, and requested to add me on one of these sites. I accepted his request, but then immediately regretted my decision. Why move backwards, you know? I have no interest in keeping in touch with him, it seems. I wish him well, but this experience made me realize that I'm over him and over being "friends" with someone who tr… Read how I did it…
Recent entries
So, I have a wonderful new roommate whom I adore. She recently started dating a seemingly wonderful guy, and I am really, truly excited for her. However, being in close proximity to someone experiencing a good relationship has not been easy. So, I really need to revisit this goal and try my best to be content with where I am romantically.
So, I randomly joined a book club in November of last year via craigslist. Through said book club, I’ve made two new wonderful friends, and I’m so very thankful. They are both lots of fun, sharp, open-minded and nappy headed. Salt of the earth they are, and I’m still amazed that I met them.
