My life is dedicated to this. I think pretty much everything I do is related to this purpose.
Veganbeth's Life List
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1. see the Democratic Party reinvent itself and take back America!
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2. Reduce human and animal suffering
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3. Enjoy being single
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4. volunteer at an animal shelter
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5. Take better advantage of NYC living.
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6. help advance progressive causes
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7. finish my thesis
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8. be in politics one day
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9. help create a more effective progressive media system
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10. take dance lessons again
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11. stop obsessing over imperfection
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12. meet someone who has inspired me and then inspire them in return
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13. be a media visionary
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14. go to the gym at least 5 days a week
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15. expand my vegan cooking
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16. stop missing my ex
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17. get a job in activism
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18. love myself for who I am, be loved and give love
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19. create and stick to a budget
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20. read all the books I own
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21. learn how to use photoshop
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22. see more dance performances
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23. Take a vitamin pill every day.
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24. read foreign newspapers more often
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25. Hike more
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26. help get a Progressive President elected in 2008
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27. eat more raw foods
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28. only eat when I'm hungry
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29. eat more locally grown food
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30. party with the olsen twins
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31. attend a taping of the Daily Show
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32. Cuddle
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33. wake up when my alarm clock goes off
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34. See a new and revived progressivism beat back the market fundamentalists
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35. get straight A's
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36. keep up with the dishes
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37. visit Seattle
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38. find inner peace
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39. stop procrastinating
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40. defeat the republicans
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41. Keep my house clean and neat
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42. Figure out what I'm going to do after I graduate
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43. reduce stress
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This goal is more complicated than it seems. Rather than avoiding stress over little imperfections, I should be paying attention to why I am stressing over these imperfections. Sometimes, stressing over little things just distracts me from more painful or complicated causes of anxiety, and this just continues a cycle of stress. I had this epiphany yesterday. My mom came to visit for the weekend and we went shopping. As I was trying on clothes I became pretty upset that I was a small and not an extra small, which I now see is ridiculous. I realized that being upset about my size was really just distracting me from the issues brought up from seeing my mother again. ugg… but who wants to deal with that?
So I found out my ex is moving in January to a remote region in India for at least a year. He wants to find himself and teach under-privileged kids English in the process. Noble cause, and if he were any one else I would applaud this. So, why has this made me so upset? We are so over, but him leaving is just too dramatic an end. This is too final, and it made me realize that in some ways, he still is my security blanket. Just knowing that he is near, and that he is there for me just in case something bad happens, makes me feel more safe and less alone in this crazy city. Well, hearing this news drove my right back into his arms. I know I am torturing myself by getting reattached before he leaves. I feel as if I should soak up as much of him as I can before he’s gone- before it is really, and truly over and before the time when us ‘being over’ is finally out of my conrol. I am scared of life without a possibility of him. Somehow, I think that if I see him and sleep with him again, I might still hold on to this comfort in his absence. I know life doesn’t really work this way…
