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I remember oh, so well my teenage years and the trials and tribulations that came with it! I actively used this during my parenting years. So many ‘adults’ try to demand what the kids will and will not do, and that is absurd! Kids do what they want, as long as they can do it and stay alive. It is the way nature intended it! How else do we get them to leave at 18?
I knew my boy would do those things Moms never will believe, so my philosophy was to tell them why they shouldn’t do those things, and then tell them how to stay alive if they do it anyway! The best example was not to tell my kids that police were their friends – the fact is the police as a job are not your friends, they enforce the law. If you don’t break the law, you are not their friends, you just don’t gt beat up when you smart off to them. SO I said that if they disagree with the police, respectfully explain your stand, but don’t raise your voice to them. They have the adrenaline rush going on, and would love to release that energy at your expense! Say yes sir and no sir, then argue with the judge. The judge respects those who do not get the police mad, and it works wonders in court!
SO… why this example? I got as call at 2:30 am one weekend, and my son was at a friends house spending the night. Evidently he and too many others to fit inside the ca went a few blocks when the police pulled them over. Yes, too many people the vehicle. I received a call to go pick him up a few blocks away, while many went to jail for their mouths. Evidently, my son was in the trunk. I pulled the officer over and asked him how my son’s demeanor was, and he said he was one of the politest kids he met in a while, and that is why I could take him without a booking!
So try to remember back to when you were a kid when your kid acts up! Let them know why they shouldn’t do it, but also let them know how to survive and thy will love you later! Yes, they will all hate you if you do your job right! *(No matter what they say to your face!( But come 22 to 25, they love you again and appreciate you more! (And remember you do have to spank them!) Richard DePriest in Albuquerque 8811528
