zoëtrix

I found my father when i was 18.
It was a terrible experience, and as a result i’ve “lost” him again (my choice). I went into it with all these romantic ideas of how wonderful it would be; it wasn’t, he’s a very unpleasant person, and now that i have my own child, i keep both our whereabouts and my son’s existence a secret.

But.

It was worth it, because truly, no matter how terrible an experience it was, i know now. There are no more questions (or fantasies). And it made me grow up, made me a little wiser, and a stronger woman.

So, if you’re going to do it, just keep your eyes open and be ready to learn some things you may not want to know.
Whatever happens, it’s better than never finding out at all.

I’ve had some poetry published, as well as photography.
It just takes submitting your work until you’re blue in the face, really.

An old teacher once told me, “quality work will find its way into print”.
That’s my mantra.

I began photography after a serious accident which permanently injured my spine – right around the time i left the abusive father of my child. I walked with a cane for over a year, and wear a backbrace; i haven’t seen my son’s father since the day we left. My writing and my photography is something that keeps me going through the physical pain – and keeps my spirit strong. I’ve shared my story and my work in photography and have had men, women and aspiring kids who are getting into photography write me to tell me how much my work inspires them.
It’s always a bit of a shock, but it’s made me look around and realize that the way we deal with adversity, and express ourselves through art can be a source of inspiration and strength to others…which makes us stronger as well.
Funny how that works.