It’s less about knowing when it’s completed than it is about feeling confident in yourself. :)

I forgot about my 43Things goal for a long time and when I came back to look at it after a while I realized it wasn’t a goal anymore, so I checked it off.

I agree. There’s really no objective measurement to this goal, it’s more how I feel. I used to have a really hard time speaking up for myself or what I believe in for fear of what others would think, but this was hurting me even more. Now I feel more confident, and especially feel that I give 100% into my work and social interactions by not holding back. Of course, there’s the whole art to editing yourself so you don’t sound like a jerk :)

I checked this goal off as soon as I realized other people’s negative feedback didn’t bother me so much. I guess I “grew a thick skin”.

best of luck.

It’s completed when you don’t need to ask anyone when it’s completed. Practise more.

I used to worry what everyone thought of me. I made myself realise who the people that matter are. I listen to them. I don’t have to time to make everyone else happy. Once I realised I was “good enough” for my partner. I stopped caring about the girls at work, or whether or not my old high school friends wondered what I was up to and whether my Dad was proud of me or not. Now all I care about his my partner, a few select individuals and that my clothes match.

When it happens, you’ll know. It’s like a weight has been lifted.

One key is to KNOW who you are and be confident in that and soon you will find that you are concerned way less about what others think about you. While it may be our automatic response to care (what people think), we have a higher-self that can CHOOSE to override that inclination. As mentioned above, it’s quite liberating once you learn to do that. Try not to worry too much about ‘getting there’ and constantly remind yourself to be in each moment. It is an ongoing process, just like Life, but the more you practice it, the easier it becomes. Also take into account that everyone has an opinion and just because someone expresses an opinion, doesn’t make it TRUE… it’s just an opinion. Don’t let what others think about you define you, only you can define Who You Really Are.

I hope this helps…

If the choices you make are based on what YOU truly want and not the opinion or judgments of others, then you can check this one off. Examples are dating who you want, wearing what you want, etc. It is one thing to seek the opinion of others for the sake of input, but an entirely different thing to live by those opinions when they go against what you want, or worse, what is best for you. Good luck!

When ur truely freely YOURSELF!