43 Things: Recent Activity by Deni H

get a masters degree

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Tue, 02 Apr 2013 14:35:53 GMT

Deni H completed this goal (worth it!)

Amen, Todd!

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 12:20:20 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

Agree 1000%.

The simple answer to this...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 12:18:49 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

is no. But, I strive to overcome these flaws continually. I realize I’m human, but I also believe in the golden rule. So, there are definite times when I’ve screwed up when I’ve used manipulation or back-biting due to my own insecurities. But, there are also times that I have been a really wonderful friend, too. Most people tell me that I’m a good person, I just have very high standards when it comes to relationships and I don’t exclude myself from those standards, either.

Totally agree with you...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 12:10:33 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q22. Why are you, you?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

on this one. I think who we are never majorly changes, but I do believe we go through a series of microevolutionary changes throughout our lifetimes.

Given the two choices...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 12:05:17 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

I’d go with “worried genius”...but I would prefer neither option. I tend to prepare for the worst, and hope for the best, as well. I love to be able to figure things out, so I’d be miserable if I had no intelligence to work with.

I need to let go of several things...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 11:59:10 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

in my life. I won’t go into all of them here, but I definitely need to let go of a certain unrealistic expectations for a relationship I’m involved in. Aside from that, I need to let go of my self-doubt and complacency.

Stubbornness and/or self-doubt...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 11:53:43 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

are the main things that hold me back from any goal.

I have not gotten a doctorate yet because of both of these factors.

I am continually working to overcome these negative traits in my life, however, so I have not given up yet.

Complete!!!

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 09:24:29 GMT

Deni H added an entry about get a masters degree:

This past Friday, I got this done! I’m still in a dream state that I’ve finally done this. Really the marathon analogy is pretty accurate about grad school from what my friends and family tell me about marathons. You just have to keep moving on and moving forward. Time management, study skills, sacrifice, determination, and sharp focus are all things one needs to complete this.

And good news I get to transfer to a new position with the new year.

Less than one week!

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 19:07:43 GMT

Deni H added an entry about get a masters degree:

and I will have completed this goal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m super-charged excited about this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just have a few more things to do for assignments and I am possibly done with homework for ever…at least at the master’s level…still leaning toward a doctorate degree, but we’ll see.

3 months and two days...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 01:24:45 GMT

Deni H added an entry about get a masters degree:

Away is graduation. I’ll have 66 semester hours of classes behind me and I’ll hopefully be looking at a new exciting job in the new year! If I can just keep afloat in this turbulent river of adventure this semester I will do so well. So far I’m doing much better with time management this semester. Miss being on here with you all, but Todd has been right…sacrifices have to be made for things such as this goal.

Summer 2011 results

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 19:54:55 GMT

Deni H added an entry about get a masters degree:

I got an A in my child counseling class and an A in my first practicum class. Relaxing and not thinking about school for a few days then planning will begin for the second practicum class and full steam ahead for Fall 2011 semester. Then Dec 16 I should be able to add a M.S. to my name! Is it crazy for a 34 year old to be this excited Guess not because this is the longest standing goal I have on 43T.

Thank you, Ruth! :)

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sat, 11 Jun 2011 21:49:39 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Deni H titled "Comprehensive exam update" regarding get a masters degree:

I am so very thrilled still today!

Comprehensive exam update

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sat, 11 Jun 2011 12:53:53 GMT

Deni H added an entry about get a masters degree:

Well, I got my results back, are ya’ll ready?

Drum roll, please…

The lady who called said I “passed with flying colors.” To say I am excited, ecstatic, or elated is kind of way too understated to describe how I feel. I am basking in joy knowing that this degree will be mine by the end of the year…THERE IS NO QUESTION IN MY MIND!!!

YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes.

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 21:51:40 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

However I realize the irrationality of this action, too. LOL

Hmmm...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 21:50:48 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

I’m having to move AGAIN LOL

I don’t know what state I’d move to, because I usually am able to find something I like about every area I visit. Three states I’ve visited but don’t find really appealing are Ohio, Arkansas and Kentucky, but I wouldn’t say never. I like Texas, Alabama, South Carolina and Missouri, though.

As far as countries go, I’d love to return to Italy, where I was born. I would consider the U.K., France, and Spain, too.

I agree with your statement...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 21:18:13 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

about individuality. I embrace differences in people, though. I consider Todd one of my most fun friends, but there are TONS of differences in our personalities, political preferences, and other things, but there are very many things that we see eye-to-eye on, too. I value him as much for our commonalities as our differences.

So, stuff that makes me happy (if everyone was made happy by it, too) would make the world a completely dull place to be.

Bowling

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 21:11:49 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

Most people when sending the ball down the lane cradle the ball in their palm on the underside of the ball until they release. I start out that way, but by the time my hand releases the ball it’s on the top side of the ball.

I would answer yes.

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 21:09:49 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

I have seen one person’s solution to a problem that I did not agree with at the time, and later saw that it was an “outside the box” way of dealing with the particular situation. It has made me try to not jump to judgement about things/people as much since I started realizing that.

My pat answer would be...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 20:23:03 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

NO! But, when certain elements of a situation are taken into consideration, it’s not a simple answer of no for me. I would not do any of the thing Todd has mentioned.

The only thing I would do definitely that would be illegal without hesitation is follow my faith should it ever become illegal. And would do so unapologetically.

I cannot think of any other thing that would make me even consider illegal action. However, I’m willing to admit that there are a lot of things I find that I have not considered before.

I like your answer, Todd.

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:45:03 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

For me, I’d say something to the effect of:

Find out what really is important to you and make plans to focus your life on that. Be willing to encounter obstacles to those plans and make adjustments to those plans. What ever happens: 1. Don’t ever give up; and 2. Entertain the idea that there is always something that you may not be considering and you don’t have all the answers in life.

Again...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:39:33 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

Todd’s answer is very close to my own. I try to peacemake when I can, but I’ve learned that it doesn’t always work or is not always possible in every situation.

I would say both...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:32:34 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

if that is allowed. I work with kids who have become involved in the justice system, and the long term goal that we use with them is “To do the right things for the right reasons…” So, I want to do the same. I want to do things correctly, but I also want to do good activities as well.

I guess the answer to this question...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:27:38 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

for me is very similar to your answer. Until a few years ago I had not realized that I had been allowing others to control where my life went, what activities I was engaged in, etc. I wasn’t taking time for myself and doing what was important to me unless others wanted to do that, too. A friend I had made through this site, who is no longer here, pointed that out quite bluntly to me during one of our conversations. It made me sad to realize that At age 30 something I had not steered the course of my life more than I had to that point. Now I try to balance it out better. I also always keep the Serenity Prayer in mind, too, because there are both things we have control over in life, and things we don’t. It is beneficial to us when we know the difference between the two!

Dead at 40!?

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:20:24 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

Well, I’d be very quickly approaching death at this point in my life, so I will say, I WOULD DEFINITELY do things differently.

I would definitely have gotten through one specific relationship A LOT more quickly than I did (took me about 16 years to completely move on).

I would have pursued my graduate degree a lot sooner than now.

I would hope that I’d learned to set boundaries with other people a lot sooner than I did in life. This has made a huge difference in the quality of my life.

I would immediately not worry about retirement any more, too.

I struggle with that question...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:12:34 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

every day of my life, because I want with all my heart to be able to say I believe in what I’m doing. Part of “not settling” is pursuing this master’s degree. However, for a while I’ll settle for that after I graduate. People say I’m capable of doctoral work, but I’m unsure about this and burned out on the idea of more school. I’ll also have to figure out what doctoral level job I’d be interested in, too.

I believe in the concept of my profession…”people have the ability to change”...so I will stay in the mental health field and do what I can for people.

Wow...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:07:36 GMT

Deni H commented on an entry by Todd Schoonover titled "Q6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?" regarding Answer the "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind".:

I’m way behind answering these questions, and this is the first one I’m having to answer in a while! It’s not easy.

But, I think I’m in the profession where I would be the happiest for now. (Well working toward the profession where I would be the happiest, I should say.) Helping others with their lives is one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever been a part of. Especially since I don’t think I’ll ever be able to become a parent, this is the next best thing.

Five: My values, as a Christian, and as a future counselor

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 18:53:50 GMT

Deni H added an entry about Note 43 things about me that boost my confidence and make me feel good about myself (but hopefully don't make me sound big headed!):

Of my Christian values, the most important is not putting myself above others and being a good steward of my faith to others. People have recently been telling me that I am doing this and they see it. Huge boost of confidence when I know things are going the way I attempt for them to go.

Of my ACA (American Counselor Association) values, I think the not doing harm to anyone and respect for a variety of people/backgrounds makes me feel good.

Four: Intelligence

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 18:48:49 GMT

Deni H added an entry about Note 43 things about me that boost my confidence and make me feel good about myself (but hopefully don't make me sound big headed!):

Okay, people have told me this for years, but I didn’t believe them about it. I finally feel like I have a little more than I originally thought, and it’s been helping me in several areas. So for those of you out there that have told me that I am intelligent and you’ve perceived that I haven’t really believed you…it’s probably the case…so I apologize and now think that I am “fairly intelligent”...not MENSA material, but definitely have a decent amount of it.

Comprehensive exams...

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 19:21:40 GMT

Deni H added an entry about get a masters degree:

were this morning. I’ll have one more chance to take them if I did not pass them today before when I plan to graduate. I don’t feel like I completely bombed them, but I don’t feel super good about the test, either. They said that it’d be about 2-3 weeks before I’d find out, too. I HATE waiting for results, but I guess I have no choice. I’m so nervous about this!!! I hope to report positive things to ya’ll in the next few weeks. Meanwhile, pray for my patience. LOL

move

nobody@43things.com (Deni H) — Sun, 29 May 2011 05:06:46 GMT

Deni H completed this goal