“I didn’t mind getting old when I was young. It’s the being old now that’s getting to me.” 8 hours ago
I hold it all in. But I want to talk about it. Most of the time, I can’t find someone to listen.
But here, yes, it does feel like there is someone who is there to listen.
And everyone here is real. 3 days ago
I was actually on 43T when the Ending Banner was posted. I went to a new screen and BOOM, there it was!!!! It startled me when it came up. After reading it, I clicked on the FAQ and seeing the no new content part, I panicked. What no new goals!! So I quickly added this one, mainly as a placeholder. I guess it meant after August 15, no new goals.
Then a couple of us were talking about how 43T is secret in our lives. We don’t really discuss it in Real Life. It is secret with me. Two people I am close with do know about it, but only in that it exists and I use it. The day after the banner came out, I was at work and my one friend who knows, saw me and asked, “You look down. Is everything OK?” Being down had a little to do with our site going away. Do I tell her? Most of the time when this question is asked of me, I just say “oh, nothing” and that ends it.
Well, I told her. “You know that site I go to, 43Things? It is shutting down in a few weeks.” She did say, “Oh, that is too bad.” I could have talked about it more, but the conversation quickly changed. I tried once to bring it up again, but that did not work. It was then I realized that unless you are a part of this community, you don’t know. You can’t understand the implications, the upcoming loss. What 43Things means to us.
So in this final goal, I am going to tell those left a few of my secrets. A few of those things I hold so close and hidden, Things I don’t and can’t tell anyone here in my real life. I can tell you because you will understand. You know what it feels like to have secrets. 4 days ago
I hope you had a super Birthday.
One Million Cheers to you on this day!!! 4 days ago
I have looked at the PC site few times, and that is as far as I have got.
Nothing WILL ever be the same as it is here. And we are the only ones that can understand that.
And do go on about it. Get it out of your system. People here do understand. 4 days ago
Today I am grateful for:
1. Good appointment at the chiropractor
2. I now have a plan
3. My foam roller
4. A call from a friend
5. The vegan zucchini cake I made actually tastes pretty good! 5 days ago
If you ever do find you have some to share, maybe we could trade some. I have some (another secret of mine) and I don’t let people see mine either. It would be a nice even exchange. 6 days ago
on your being able to talk about 43T with people on the outside. That is a big step and I hope they show the love and compassion warranted such a step. You are a brave person and I commend you.
I agree we are blessed to have so many like-minded people here.
Also, I tried to talk about the closing of the site with one of the people in my life who know I am active here. It did not go over too well. I think I’ll keep 43T my secret. People on the outside really do not understand.
Thank you for sharing so much and bring joy to so many. 6 days ago
called me this morning. She will call every so often, most of the time it is right out of the blue. We had a nice talk. We made plans to bike together this weekend. We bike good together. We used to run together before she moved away. We had great runs; talking away the miles, in all kinds of weather. Great races too. We were each other’s best cheerleaders. God, I miss those runs.
Talking with her today made me think of songs, songs for her. I have given her a lot of music as we both like to run to music. I’m not sure I have given her these songs. These are my songs for B.
Passenger – Let Her Go6 days ago
in knowing others out there hide their secrets.
It has taken a long time. I finally was to the point where I was actually thinking of revealing some of them. I know those here would understand better than anyone in my RL. I will miss that understanding we have here.
I will miss you also FGR. Are you going to PopClogs? I will likely go there at some point. I will look for you there.
Plus, we found each other here. Out of all the millions of places that exist, we connected here. What are the odds? Let me know where you will be going after 43T. 1 week ago
for I see you both are trusting by nature. You have had bad experiences, but you have learned from them. You read people better now. But by trusting; you take the leap. From there you separate those you can trust from the untrustworthy and the jerks.
I, on the other hand, who do not trust anyone, become paralyzed in inaction. I question everything, only finally doing something after a long agonizing period of doubt.
We all have good and bad experiences. How do we go off in so many different directions? Is it just because we are all so different. 1 week ago
on the trust. There is a risk there. Maybe a big risk.
But the greater the risk, the greater the reward.
I’m not much of a big risk taker here. I wonder where I would be if I was?
I don’t think you interrupted. Just joined in. 1 week ago
Have something here. I could certainly use a few tips.
I trust you would give some very good ones. I may even have a few for you. Maybe. 1 week ago
I do not trust anyone. I firmly hold to the view trust has to be earned. But once that trust has been earned, I would do anything for someone.
But betray me, and you have lost me forever.
I’m not sure which of us has the better outlook? In some ways I wish I was more trusting. Guess I have been hurt too many times. 1 week ago
I am much the same. There are times I have been told things in confidence.
I never tell. But I never tell others things I want kept secret.
How about trust? Do you trust others? 1 week ago
It would be an interesting question.
I take it from your response it is a secret place also? 1 week ago
It made me sad to see it today. Finally, we know. I felt like I should tell someone. But there is no one here I can tell. And I thought of this. I wrote it some time ago, but never posted it. I think now is the time.
Yes, now is the time.
I have a few secrets in my life (nothing bad or criminal or such, just things I don’t share) and 43Things has always been one of them. I have only talked about 43Things with two people in my life, and even then it was somewhat only as a passing remark. No one, not even my family members, know the extent of what I post here. Or the time I spend here.
This is my place to come and just be me. I can be honest and show how I feel. No one here gives me any grief for that. It is nice to not have to hide feelings for fear someone may be offended, hurt, dismayed, etc.
One can’t help the way they feel. After all, you just feel the way you feel. People need to be able to express that.
This has been my perfect place to share all those thoughts. The encouragement and support has helped me in so many ways.
The picture here is one of my most hidden secrets. I have wanted to post this several times in the past, but just never could. I keep my secrets close. And after all, once told, they are not secrets any more. But I feel those here now will understand. I do consider all of you my friends.
Thanks. 1 week ago
My hip has been giving me more trouble over vacation. I was limping around a lot. It hurt to walk up hills. It made the vacation a little less enjoyable not being able to move around the way I am used to.
We have a lot of medical type people there. I was talking to one friend who is also a PA and she made the observation that it might not be totally arthritis, but that I also may be injured.
She suggested a chiropractor or PT type person to have look at me and see if they can help. Well, I need to do something. So I called my chiropractor today and made an appointment. Let’s see where this goes. 1 week ago
makes it sound simple, but it really is not.
There is a lot of misinformation out there. How does one find the truth?
And most people do not embrace a plant only life style. I have to take a lot of teasing and mocking for the foods I prefer to eat.
I have one good friend who is vegan. She has taught me a lot and is very encouraging. I owe her. She has likely saved my life.
So yes, you have to make it a priority and stick with it. It does get easier once you make the commitment. 1 week ago
Today I am grateful for:
1. Everyone home safe from vacation
2. Lots of play time with little Grand Dude
3. Some relaxing time
4. Nice dinner out
5. Surprise note from a friend 1 week ago
Today I am grateful for:
1. Vacation Week
2. Fun times
3. Bike Rides
5. Beer. 1 week ago
Doesn’t everyone love Styx???? 2 weeks ago
Today I am grateful for:
1. Hawaiian shirt day
2. Sharing some music with a friend
3. Cheering up a co-worker
4. Getting everything done, and done well
5. Vacation time is here!!! 2 weeks ago
a giant conspiracy.
If this is the case, we have to be smart and not fall into their traps. Only give kind, supportive, encouraging posts. Have a sense of humor. Show compassion.
If you don’t feel this way; then lie.
(Most people post this way here anyway. And I don’t think they are lying when they do.) 2 weeks ago