Rolling Stone published a cover story about Tyler. That interviewer portrayed him as a vain, arrogant, fool. I’ve never quite shaken that image of him, though I’ve liked a few of his songs a little bit over the years. 9 months ago
Have you ever been in a violent conflict?
Yes, though not since I was a teenager.
Have you ever been attacked? What happened?
I’ve been in a few fist fights. Haven’t been attached since I was 15 and sucker punched at a Boy Scout camp.
Would you ever seriously consider violence to be a valid option in a situation where you are NOT being attacked? Such as someone lied to you, someone stole from you, or someone made you really angry in some other way?
Violence would be a valid option if someone I knew were being unjustly attacked by some bully or something like that. No to lying. Stealing, maybe—if I saw someone steal something that was very important to me, I might try to recover it by force if persuasion failed. Anger, no.
If not, what would you do instead?
If someone lied to me and I felt betrayed and very emotional, I might call them a liar.
If someone made me really angry, I might yell at them (though I rarely yell and hate to do it).
Are you drawn to situations that might lead to violence, like hanging out in the bad part of town at night, or going to biker clubs? Do you have violent friends or family members?
No, I avoid these situations and such people, for the most part.
Let’s say someone beat you up in a dispute. What is your response? Go to their house (or find them at the bar they like to go to) with four friends and beat the living crap out of them, or call the cops? Is there something else you might do?
It would depend on why they did it. I wouldn’t bring along four friends, but might feel the need to retaliate in some way.
Say you get into a dispute with a co-worker. Would you threaten them with bodily harm, or would you try to find another way to work things out?
I’d never threaten a co-worker. Truth is, I haven’t threatened to beat anyone up since I was a teenager. I don’t think I’ve ever started a fight. Maybe when I was a preteen with one of my younger brothers.
Do you feel comfortable with people who see violence as a valid option, such as in the situations I’ve mentioned? Would you want to date such a person?
I think defending oneself or a love one or someone unable to defend themselves is not dishonorable. I can safely say I’ve never dated such a person (and never will).
What if you were being held hostage by a gang, would you want this violent person to come rescue you?
If I were being held hostage by a gang, (seems awfully unlikely!) I’d want the police to rescue me.
Does this change the perspective of the value of their violent tendancies (as in, do they suddenly become a positive person because they helped someone?) Would you then feel more comfortable around them?
If a person only resorted to violence to rescue others or protect themselves, I would feel comfortable being the person’s friend. If the person was violent when he was angry, I’d end that friendship.
Is it always acceptable to meet violence with violence? Are there other options?
Not always. Yes, there are other options to try first.
What about socially acceptable violence, such as soldiers at war? Is that a good thing, since they are defending our countries?
War is never a good thing.
Are pacifists weak-minded fools who don’t see the world for what it is?
In general, they are not. Some are courageous and stand up for deeply held beliefs.
Any other thoughts about violence or pacifism?
I think there’s a school in San Diego that offers a master in peace studies. I’m interested in the topic. I wish one could point to instances in which a nation that practiced pacifism had thrived and could serve as a model for others. Anyone know of one? 9 months ago
of this series. I read the first one in 1997 and number among the people who clamor for the author to get back to writing instead of vacationing in Antarctica (I think he may still be there now). I can’t get enough of Westeros.
Martin was actually in our town a few weeks ago for a fantasy/sci fi convention, and I snapped a picture of him with my beautiful wife when we saw him in the lobby. Later he signed a few of my copies of his books. The following day I rushed back to the hotel so I could listen to him read a history of Aegon the Conqueror. Apparently he’s writing a long history somewhat similar to Tolkien’s Silmarillion right now, to be published next year.
Good conference, but I should admit that much of the time I was wishing he was off somewhere quiet writing the sixth book in the series. Didn’t mention this during the Q&A, because talk like that is not welcome. In fact, he seems to get really mad when someone leaves a comment suggesting he get back to it on his website. Instead I asked him if he was concerned that there might be a public outcry after Ep 9 of the tv series this year, similar to the one that followed Ep 9 in Season 1. He said, yes, he was concerned, but there was nothing to be done about it. Furthermore, he said, when the ep airs, he’d be out of harm’s way, in Antarctica. 9 months ago
on the acceptance! 9 months ago
haven’t happened yet. Apparently our subcontractors are in no hurry. 9 months ago
your take on what needs to be done to slow or end the part humans are playing in global warming. I’m ready to see the sorts of changes you suggest too.
It’s tough, because even small changes can bring about radical loss of jobs, and making the sort of voluntary changes the various world governments are willing to make hardly slows the rate of global warming.
Thanks for your responses. 9 months ago
and it feels as though someone is listening. Not sure if I believe in God or not. I think if there’s a God, he or she probably doesn’t care much if we believe. 9 months ago
for sharing this. I like to think that when we dream about people we’ve known and loved and maybe even when we think about them, they know it and are with us. Yours was a wonderful dream, really. How great to have experienced them all gathered together. 9 months ago
I don’t drink nearly as much as I used to. Yesterday, we’d gone out to dinner though, and I probably had four big glasses of iced tea.
Caffeine does keep me up at night, and I should just stop drinking it altogether after 2 pm. 9 months ago
some news report not long ago that said someone had concluded after research that you will get better mileage if you roll up the windows and run the air conditioner than if you drive with the windows down, no air. I don’t know how legitimate the study is, but it might be worth checking out. We have a Honda Accord and both like it a lot, but I gotta say, there are times almost every week that I wish I had a pickup to haul stuff.
Thanks for playing. 9 months ago
are so wonderful! Where did you get a trainer for them? Did you go through your vet? What has the trainer taught them? (No doubt our dogs would benefit enormously from some training.) 9 months ago
this goal seems elusive. It doesn’t sound particularly difficut, but trust me, I’ve struggled and can’t seem to do it. Last night, for instance, I planned to go to bed at 9. Didn’t sleep until 12:30, and then the dogs woke me up at 3:30 for a while and then again at 5:30. I got up for good at 7:15 and rushed off to work, just barely in time. Have been fighting to stay alert all morning. 9 months ago
researching my wife’s family. Her ancestors on her father’s side of the family were tenant farmers and mechanics. They barely scraped by. On her mother’s side there appears to have been quite a bit of wealt at times. But generation after generation, the families tended to be huge, up to 12 kids, so everyone had to go out and make their own way in the world. 9 months ago
We should have new carpet on the stairs and new, more secure front and back doors. Am pretty sure these will get done as scheduled since we’re having the pros do it.
As for our kitchen cabinet refinish, we completed it last weekend, only about two months later than we’d planned. The cabinets look pretty good, and the whole project cost about $1000, instead of the 10k the pros would have charged. 9 months ago
on a trip to Arizona to see my family. It’s got me a little better motivated to improve my physical fitness. A 9-year-old nephew is confident he can beat me in a set of tennis. He may be right, but then again, if I can drop twenty-five pounds before the trip, I just may have enough left to take him. 9 months ago
What do you suppose it would take to reverse the global warming process and are you for or against taking these steps now?
When was the last time you were good and lost somewhere? Where was it and how did you solve it?
If you could vacation anywhere in the States, where would you go and why?
Have you ever parachuted out of an airplane? If not, would you like to do it someday? If you have, how did it go? Would you do it again?
Do you like to fish? Do you catch and release or eat what you catch?
Could you imagine a future in which there was only one democratic government and all people on the planet were citizens, sort of like on Star Trek? Would a system like this be better or worse than what we have now, in your opinion?
How many times will you go the beach this summer? Will you body surf, surf on a surfboard, dive into the waves, find a good place to sit and stare at the water and listen to the surf?
Do you expect this to be a summer of romance for you? A summer where you spend much of your time alone or with family or friends?
Ideally, what temperature, C or F, do you prefer in the hottest months of the summer?
What is the biggest city you’ll be in this summer? For business of pleasure or both?
Have you ever driven across the United States, from coast to coast? Would you like to do that again? 9 months ago
Never until the mankind making
Bird beast and flower
Fathering and all humbling darkness
Tells with silence the last light breaking
And the still hour
Is come of the sea tumbling in harness
And I must enter again the round
Zion of the water bead
And the synagogue of the ear of corn
Shall I let pray the shadow of a sound
Or sow my salt seed
In the least valley of sackcloth to mourn
The majesty and burning of the child’s death.
I shall not murder
The mankind of her going with a grave truth
Nor blaspheme down the stations of the breath
With any further
Elegy of innocence and youth.
Deep with the first dead lies London’s daughter,
Robed in the long friends,
The grains beyond age, the dark veins of her mother,
Secret by the unmourning water
Of the riding Thames.
After the first death, there is no other.
Dylan Thomas 9 months ago
Good to see you!
By the way, I had a big long-furred golden-eyed black cat once. His name was Ninja, and boy, did he live up to it. Periodically, he’d attack our window blinds, our knees, and always with great panache. I’m allergic to cats, but I took meds so we could keep him as long as possible. My wife may disagree, but for my money, he was the best cat this world has ever known. 9 months ago
(or sit as the case may be) accused of not answering these random questions with the seriousness they require. How do you plead? 9 months ago
would love to see Angkor Wat & all the other places you’ve chosen as goals as well. Has been more than a year since we traveled to a new and exciting place. 9 months ago
luck! Sorry you’ve had to deal with this and hope you’re right that the throbbing is a sign of healing. Makes sense that it would be. All best. 9 months ago
think Obamacare will be a good thing for our country and be reshaped and improved as time goes on?
have a handful of favorite tv shows to recommend? What are they?
the effort to investigate the circumstances behind the death of the U.S. Ambassador to Libya should continue instead of a return to focusing on legislation by Congress?
have a spring garden? Any favorites in bloom now?
have a favorite pro sports team? Are they having/did they have a good year?
feel relieved to see the U.S. economy growing stronger?
think there will ever be a peaceful end to the violent conflicts in Israel/Palestine, as there apparently has been in Northern Ireland?
spend some time each week trying to create art? If so, what kind of art?
get caught up on sleep on the weekends or tend to stay out late partying or stay up watching TV or doing something else?
think the firearms laws in your country are reasonable and effective at decreasing shootings?
hope the spring lingers into July? 9 months ago
to recycle, in most cases, are the most potentially harmful to the environment. CFLs contain mercury, but often end up in landfills when people don’t know what else to do with them, as do household batteries, print cartridges and so on.
I’ve found online that some retailers (try Lowe’s & Home Depot to start) will accept these items for recycling, but they certainly don’t advertise it. 9 months ago
parties and gatherings of acquaintances are something to look forward to. Some people excel at making small talk and working a crowd. For me, making small talk with acquaintances at a party is an uncomfortable, nerve-racking experience, to be avoided at any opportunity. It took me years to accept the fact that this was never going to change. I wasn’t going to learn to enjoy the experience or become better at it. Large parties like these would always make me feel self-conscious. When unavoidable, I endure them the best I can.
It’s funny because if there were just me and one or two distant acquaintances at coffee or whatever, I’d enjoy getting to know them, even the boring ones, because trying to figure out what motivates a person and what they’re passions and ambitions are and how they’ve ended up where they are in their lives always interests me. 9 months ago
love our dogs! We look forward every day after work to rushing home to be greeted by them. We have a 12-year-old golden retriever and a 2-year-old chihuahua jack russell mix, both females. They are affectionate, fun-loving, high spirited and apparently always hungry. I’ve done a poor job of training them. For the most part, they have the run of our house, and walking them requires great patience. We take them every day.
Am looking forward to hearing about your spitz already (or whatever breed you settle on). I’ve often thought I’d like a spitz, especially an American eskimo dog or a samoyed aka sammy. 10 months ago
Never Let Me Go
The Secret History
Lit: A Memoir
How I Live Now
An Experienced Mistress
Season of the Witch
Once Upon a River
After Long Silence
Wild: From Lost to Found
Half Broke Horses
Bastard out of Carolina
Dress Your Family in Corduroy & Denim
A Widow for One Year
I should admit that my wife wrote two of these books, but I remain objective. 10 months ago
that had little bits of paint in it yesterday. Picked some of the flecks out of my teeth. Yuck! Oh well, hope it was all latex. 10 months ago
is adopting a Zero Waste to Landfill initiative. I’m glad because I’ve always wanted to do a better job at recycling, and now there is lots of info available at work and multicolored tubs have replaced our trashcans. I’m not going to be the person who doesn’t know what goes where. 10 months ago