Had a huge fight with my mom. We haven’t spoken for weeks. I’m freaking out because some guy she’s been dating for the past few weeks proposed to her. They don’t even know each other. Eveything’s happening way too fast. I think they’re being childish. To make matters worse, my mom thinks I’m “acting up” because I miss my dad. “Yeah, right”. I don’t even talk to him either. Things like this are the reason why I’ve wanted to leave home for years, but I still can’t afford it. I’m not a kid anymore. I feel helpless and I’ve been crying a lot. 1 month ago
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Just wanted to say I truly understand the feeling. It’s taking me ages to get my BA because of depression and my heart’s not it it even though I love my major. I wish I could do other stuff but I can’t afford it (everyone says I’ll be an “starving artist” if I don’t get my degree). I can’t take a break either because my family would freak out. Time does go by way too fast. I hope your dreams come true and I hope you get to find yourself, grow as a person and be happy. 1 month ago
I should just delete this goal. Don’t believe in it, don’t think it’s worth it. BUT…. The only reason I keep this goal in my list is because I feel I owe it to the people who gave me cheers. Thanks btw. 1 month ago
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Thank you for this. I totally agree. Gotta love Thoreau!
I am all for self-improvement, but I won’t change just to please someone else or find a guy. That doesn’t make sense to me and it annoys me that some people think of me as the “poor little troubled girl” just because I’m single and not available. 2 months ago
Just wanted to say I went through a similar experience and I truly understand what you’re going through. Pain is still fresh and so his name can trigger a lot of stuff even if you consciously know it’s not him. I’ve just read your entries about the whole FB and text message issues too. That was so low of him and a person like that is not worth your time. My suggestion: please do not hope/try to “stay friends” with players. They don’t even know the meaning of the word “friend”, since you can’t trust them at all, and they might try to take advantage of that so called friendship even if you’re not “together” anymore. I don’t believe time heals anything. You need to work on this and on yourself so that you can overcome the pain and grow as a person :) Best wishes. 4 months ago
Yesterday I had to do a presentation for some class in uni and the weird thing is I didn’t feel that nervous. This has happened only twice in my life (a few weeks ago in a different class). Like I said, it’s weird since I always freak out because of my stage fear and my shyness (and no, I don’t have a problem with shyness. I’m happily shy). 5 months ago
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Happy bday! Good to hear you had fun. 5 months ago
Congrats! :D The idea of focusing on a benefit (like being able to play guitar) is just great. I remember thinking I might accidentally hurt myself with my bitten nails and that helped me with this goal. It can be a matter of health as well so it’s very important.
PS: I’m sorry I have no cheers left. WIll cheer this ASAP lol.
I knew this was going to be difficult. Most info (books, online articles, magazines, etc) is focused on improving X thing about yourself so that you can find someone afterwards. I’m not saying that’s wrong. Just saying that’s not what I want! I don’t care what strangers think about me, but I find the whole “people won’t judge you if you’re single because it’s the 21st century” thing annoying. It’s not like that at all. 6 months ago
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I’m sorry I’m so late. Didn’t see your comment before. Thank you for your support. 6 months ago
Hi there. Sticking to the “no contact rule” is really hard but it’s so worth it if you want/need to get over him. Good to hear you’re doing self-work and grieving. That was truly helpful for me. Sending positive energy your way! :) 8 months ago
I’m currently attending an acting class at uni. Hope it helps with this goal lol. 8 months ago
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Aug 29 2012: Finally managed to organize my university schedule so that I can work half-time shifts, 3 or 4 days a week. Thanks everyone for your support :) 8 months ago
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I’m starting in June. However, I might have to change plans (summer clases at uni in order to save time) and that’s why I’m not marking this as “done” yet. I believe this is more important since it has to do with my health. I’ve been having psychotherapy sessions for a while because of anxiety and depression. It’s key that I attend at least twice a month so that’s why I need the money. Therapy is not that expensive, but my parents are getting divorced and I don’t want these ‘extra’ expense to become a burden for them. Besides, asking them for money kinda hurts my pride lol, even though I know I can’t get a full time job because I’m still an undergraduate. It may sound stupid but I worked part-time for a few months before uni and I felt more secure and responsible. I miss that. 13 months ago
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I don’t believe in love anymore (I mean “couple love”), but even if I did I know I need to do this. 13 months ago
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Hey, JF. Thank you for your comment. I’m having psychotherapy sessions once or twice a month for now, but mostly I’m trying to work on these issues by myself. I keep a diary, try to exercise and eat right, make an effort to have a laugh whenever possible. I was crying non-stop just a few weeks ago and I don’t feel the need to cry that often anymore, so I guess I’m feeling a little better overall. I’m not where I want to be emotionally speaking but I think I’m getting there. Thanks again. Best wishes for you too. 16 months ago
I can’t even french braid someone else’s hair and I’ve heard you need to master that skill before you try french braiding your own hair. However, my sister has just learned how to do it. I’ll ask her to teach me. 16 months ago
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I’ve been thinking about this goal for a few days and I’ve heard a lot of “happiness comes from within” kinda stuff lately, so I figured I’d put it on top of my list to see what happens. This is not easy for me at all. My grandpa got ill over the summer and died a couple of months later. My parents are getting divorced. Uni and therapy are making me emotionally exhausted. I know both of them are good for me on the long run, lol, but still. 16 months ago
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This is too annoying for me. Last semester, one of my teachers said we had to do another presentation and I couldn’t help saying “Noooo!” out loud, in front of the whole class. This guy that was sitting next to me laughed sympathetically, though. lol. I wish I didn’t need this as a uni skill. I’m shy and aside from that I think I have some level of social anxiety. 16 months ago
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Jan 14 2012: I wanted to wait a couple of weeks in order to be 100% sure that I could mark this as “done”. lol. I’m not angry at him, I don’t wish him bad, but at the same time I don’t wanna talk to him and I don’t feel like seeing him. It’s taken years, but it’s worth it. 16 months ago
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I think I’m failing this one so far. Today I had to e-mail my teacher about how I haven’t attended online classes at uni for a few days because I had a horrible migraine last week and I was supposed to use the computer as little as possible and also stay in bed in the afternoons, but I accidentally e-mailed the whole class because I’m using a slow connection and the pop-up “write new message” window wouldn’t show up right and the two reply links have very similar icons and are located next to each other. I feel like such an idiot. I swear I’ve had an e-mail address for years and this has never happened to me. I forgot to make it clear that I did go to regular classes at uni (even though I had to turn in some homework late because I wasn’t supposed to use the computer) and I wrote that I was a little worried because the class had no prerequisites whatsoever but then I only found out like a couple of weeks ago that this subject was for people majoring in Architecture and I chose it as an elective. To make matters worse, we’re having a holiday next week and most people travel and I wrote that I’d stay home to catch up with schoolwork. I’m so embarrassed. I know it’s not like I was writing a personal e-mail and I know it’s the first time this happens to me and I know it was the Internet connection’s fault because it made the pop-up window load incorrectly, but still. This is awful. Besides, I’m a very reserved person and I don’t like people to know I’ve been indisposed or that I’ll stay home for the holiday or stuff like that. lol I’m sorry, it’s just that I’m obviously terrible at letting go of embarrassing moments like this one. I’m stressed out and this just made my day a lot worse. 17 months ago
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I have a specific set of websites that I like to check and I grew tired of forums and the like. Internet is good but it isn’t all there is to life. I’ve spent a couple of days without it on occasion and I’m ok. 18 months ago
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