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OtterGirl53715th December

1. What did I learn/remember last week? That it’s good to have friends.

2. What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? Making it to both my social events.

3. Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? It was a good week with several memorable moments, most being of triumph and connection.

4.What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? Take care of my DCAF training.

5. What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? Finish my daily chores and get to bed on time.

6. What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? Financial worries…

7. What did I spend the most time on last week? Was that good or bad? Hanging out with my new groups. So good to reinforce these good new relationships.

8. Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? Financial worries.

9. What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? Mailing the stupid Eddie Bauer shirts. Christmas shopping for the boys and family. Christmas cards.

10. What opportunities are still on the table? I have a good selection of jobs to look through. There will be LM’s house warming with Mi.

11. Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? Pretty good on this during the holiday season. Need to do those pesky Christmas Cards.

12. Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘thank you’? B for listening. G for caring. My sister for working with me on the calendar. KW for sending a note on to the group with whom I was interviewing.

13. How can I help someone else this coming week? Learning the DCAF system.

14. What are my top 3 goals for the next 3 months?
#1 – Find a full time job in DC.
#2 – Complete my MSA capstone project.
#3 – Work on strength training for cycling and snowboarding.

15. Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals?
#1 – Did my second interview. Sent out the thank you notes.
#2 – Started building a plan. Filled in the calendar some more. Found a good idea for keeping me on track.
#3 – Nope.

16. What’s the next step for each goal?
#1 – Apply for some of the other jobs still available.
#2 – Talk to B about the next steps in the plan, build a research schedule.
#3 – Do my workouts this week – Monday is chest, shoulders and triceps. Wednesday is legs. Thursday is back and biceps. Friday is abs.

17. What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? The Dessert Party here at the condo on Friday. Hanging out with Mi and LM on Saturday. Flying home for Xmas on Sunday!

18. What are my fears? That I won’t have a good job by the time the money runs out in April and this temp job will disappear before then.

19. For what am I most grateful? For having the abilities needed by others so I can help them.

20. What can I do to make life more beautiful today? Get a good night’s sleep. 12 months ago


For having nothing that had to be done today.

For being able to relax after a physically exhausting week of work.

For a quick good night Skype from G.

For getting the laundry done so I have options tomorrow.

For the weather not getting as bad as predicted. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Friday the 13th

For the lovely e-mails from G to wake to

For again choosing to avoid the D.C. bureaucracy and also finding out that more info has changed on the application. Happy providence.

For packing my own lunch for the office today.

For remembering to send off a note to my job coach.

For rescuing my car from the bad parking zone and avoiding a very expensive ticket and/or towing.

For making it home alive after (stupidly) driving in rush hour traffic.

For KT knocking on the door to catch up.

For texting with KL and finding out she’ll be back soon.

For remember to call my sister.

For putting on favorite Sci Fi from my childhood. 12 months ago


For waking early and getting to roll my morning out gradually.

For skipping the DC government bureaucracy this morning because it seemed like it might be more prudent to go straight to the office… and it was.

For getting in a little Skype time with G even though the third-world internet was mostly uncooperative.

For the copier delivery guy helping me get the stuff Staples left in the hall into the office.

For being able to leave the office earlier than I expected and have some down time before the PP Happy Hour.

For being able to get around by Metro since it’s both more economical than taxis and car and allows me to enjoy a few drinks.

For hanging out with MW and NM whom I haven’t seen in over a month. Good times.

For meeting new interesting people at the happy hour. 12 months ago


Sleeping in has always been a problem of mine. I say I’m a night owl; I say I’m not a morning person. The irony of that is I can sleep almost on command at any time and wake when I have to be awake. So when I read this article in the New Yorker, it confirmed my need to do better about waking with my alarm. This is especially true since I use a sunrise simulator as part of my waking routine. I may be doing more harm than good… 12 months ago


Oh, what a cool date today has!

For waking to really lovely, open thoughts from G.

For not getting totally overwhelmed and defeated by the frustrations of the day.

For putting my needs first.

For making it to the second interview on time even after getting lost.

For meeting some really great people whom I hope to be working with soon.

For finding out that KW’s husband sent a glowing recommendation on my behalf.

For all my friends who were so wonderful in sending me positive energy this afternoon.

For finding out my nephew will be on America’s Funniest Home Videos this Sunday.

For finding B’s current favorite brew right in my Harris Teeter. It’s delicious and now, easy to find :)

For bumping into KT in the hall and catching up.

For the so many blessings that fill my life. 12 months ago


For the flexibility of my job that means I can set my own hours.

For the lovely snow that fell for hours yet didn’t disrupt my day.

For getting internet in the new office so I could do more than I expected.

For a lovely, filling lunch that I knew would keep my from being too hungry later.

For a Christmas card from Mr. Obama and his family. What a lovely surprise.

For having enough time between work and the holiday party to restore my energy reserves.

For meeting new lovely people and catch up with other acquaintances T the holiday party.

For being able to set boundaries on how much I drank and how long I stayed out so that I could do well tomorrow. 12 months ago


For not having to go out today at all in the bad weather.

For feeling good and on track.

For not having a very demanding day.

For a Skype call with G before he went to bed.

For making pasta caprese for dinner tonight.

For hot chocolate to unwind with while working on my inch-pebbles. 12 months ago


Yesterday, I discovered an very interesting an inspiring article on Facebook, a NYT’s article on Britain’s Ministry of Nudges%. It’s about how to get people to things that are better for them and is based in a lot of recent behavioral studies. This article led me to more things from which to learn: the book Nudge and the TED talk by David Cameron, the current Prime Minister of Britain. One can watch it here: David Cameron: The next age of government. I have since picked up the book and am looking forward to getting better at nudging myself, and perhaps those around me, into better choices. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Success for Last Week

1 – I went to my dental appointment. I drove (which was a DC rookie mistake) but I made it and it turns out that the toothache had to do with a poorly reshaped crown rather than something more serious.

2 – I skipped the networking event after the dental appointment. My elephant was exhausted and hungry so I was kind to myself and didn’t try to do more.

3 – I got up on Friday morning to do the tires even though I was dreading it: driving into the outlying area during morning commutes, trying to get all done before having to be in the office at 10, rain. I did it though and then ended up not being able to get into the storage facility because I lost the code so most of my concerns were moot.

4 – I got up on Saturday morning to make sure the tires were done before the winter storm arrived on Sunday. The weather was much better and I had the whole morning free. I still just find it annoying to change out but I also now have a tire thing because of the accident. The best thing was that it was much less than I had expected.

5 – I had a long debate with G on Facebook, disagreeing with his stance on the minimum wage. It was hard for me to do because there are times I worry about scaring him off. However, this worked out in my favor and we ended up having a more private discussion with deeper sharing. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Just Realized

that part of my problem with completing this goal is that I have trouble defining what success is. I’m often too glib about what I do and don’t think of these events as “successes.” So I need to have some sort of definition for success. I’m thinking this:

initiation of action by OG + taking care of OG’s part of all requirements + action completes + beneficial outcome for OG

Where beneficial outcome can be anything from earning money to gaining knowledge to enhanced fitness, et al. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Week 50 of 2013

Wow. There’s nothing to put things in better perspective than to see that there are only 3 more weeks in this year. That also means that cold weather and dark early mornings have arrived which are the biggest detractors for me and my workouts. They have been for over a month. So I need to figure out how to overcome these.

This picture just hit home on how I feel when the alarms go off in the mornings. I’m not a happy camper and I’ve spent years honing that. Now it’s time to change it and of course, I’m picking the hardest time for me to do that. Fortunately, the building does have a gym with lots of aerobic equipment so I can workout in comfort. Now for the plan.

Monday – Elliptical (30 min) + Chest/Shoulder/Triceps workout
Tuesday – Swim (2000 meters) + Leg workout
Wednesday – Bike Ride (4 laps of Hains Point)
Thursday – Run (30 min) + Back/Bicep workout
Friday – Swim (2000 meters) + Abs workout
Saturday – Bike Ride with B 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Four Times Last Week

Monday through Thursday, I got up and did one of Tara Stile’s routines followed by 5 minutes of meditation. Then I had to take care of the car tires early. That killed me. I really didn’t want to mess with the tires, being they are out in storage and then there was the weather and forgetting the storage unit code and… and… So I delayed getting out of bed until the very last minute. That meant quick showers and breakfast and no yoga and meditation.

I really want to get this going. It’s been hit or miss all this year and now I’m hoping to start a full time job soon. If I don’t get this going now, it may slip away into the dustbin of “OG just can’t find the time” and this stuff helps me in so many way. Especially the meditation’s effect on the ADHD.

To mark this as complete, I want to do 21 days in a row of both yoga and meditation. It doesn’t have to be long (in fact, Tara Stiles videos are mostly less than 10 minutes); just first thing in the morning and every day. Eventually, I want to work the meditation up to at least 30 consecutive minutes. For now I’ll be happy with just 15 minutes or so while my coffee brews. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537 21 months ago

OtterGirl537Just A Regular One

This is hard for me. I love my fellow patrollers; they are an awesome group. I also love teaching. However, I live too far from a good ski area and have a new focus in life so I think it’s time to say goodbye to patrolling and instructing and just be the happy-go-lucky snowboarder out with friends for now. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Week 1

This is the scariest most frustrating thing for me right now. I have 4 months to get it done and I. CANNOT. GET. STARTED. It’s the easiest thing to set aside when other things don’t go according to plan. I did okay with getting the note book and then printing out some guidelines about plans for writing research papers the previous week. This week, though, I neglected it night after night in favor of other things, especially reading The Moon is a Harsh Mistress. Now, I’m faced with another week of no progress. It echos June, August, and September. It’s harder still, knowing that I have the graduation extension and it’s likely to be the only one.

The hope this week is that I will get the job I’ve been interviewing for. That would mean one less distraction for me and perhaps help my focus on the research and writing. Moreover, it would be a win for me given the year of feeling beat up in job hunting, looking for love, and writing this thing. Getting the job would be a huge morale boost and I think that could get me through some of my anxiety on this.

This week I’ll have Monday and Wednesday evenings free as well as time on Friday and Saturday. I need to have the pebble-inches figured out by Friday morning and then start doing my research over the weekend. I should probably drop a line to the professor as well (although I’m struggling with what I should say). He’ll probably be helpful to talk with; he always has been. I’m just feeling a little ashamed of all the struggling and this being my third attempt…

Here’s to week 1 of ??? 12 months ago


For waking early.

For the joys of showering indoors with hot water.

For coffee with B to start the day.

For the innocent love of small children.

For making it home before the storm hit.

For watching the snow fall.

For a delicious baked potato for an early dinner.

For figuring out how to get my bed to stop squeaking. 12 months ago

OtterGirl5378th December

1. What did I learn/remember last week? That all is not hopeless; one just needs patience and preparation for when the lucky break comes.

2. What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? Having a successful job interviewing.

3. Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? It was a good week with lots of small good moments: job interview, easy fix on the tooth, game night.

4.What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? Lock in the job at the interview on Wednesday.

5. What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? Finish prepping for the week and get to bed early.

6. What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? Doubts about my abilities.

7. What did I spend the most time on last week? Was that good or bad? Taking care of getting my life in order. All was good and productive.

8. Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? Nerves at the next interview.

9. What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? Still, the thesis, the job hunting, the stuff I don’t know how to do but need to get done.

10. What opportunities are still on the table? The second interview on Wednesday, several holiday party.

11. Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? I want to send out holiday cards and it’s already the 8th!

12. Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘thank you’? KW for helping with all the interview stuff. B for being there for me. KT for having me to dinner. Mi for hosting Game Night and letting B & De come with kids in tow.

13. How can I help someone else this coming week? Helping with the WR Holiday Party next Sunday.

14. What are my top 3 goals for the next 3 months?
#1 – Find a full time job in DC.
#2 – Complete my MSA capstone project.
#3 – Work on strength training for cycling and snowboarding.

15. Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals?
#1 – Knocked the interview out of the park. Set up second interview. Talked with KW and JT about ways to help with tremor in voice.
#2 – :( Nope.
#3 – Nope.

16. What’s the next step for each goal?
#1 – Visualize positive outcomes for the next interview.
#2 – By Friday, have a pebble inch plan in writing for having my thesis completed for an A by 1 April.
#3 – Do my workouts this week – Monday is chest, shoulders and triceps. Wednesday is legs. Thursday is back and biceps. Friday is abs.

17. What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? The next job interview. DCAF holiday party.

18. What are my fears? That I won’t be able to make the necessary adjustments and close on the interview.

19. For what am I most grateful? For B always being supportive. For having G in my life.

20. What can I do to make life more beautiful today? Enjoy the first snow of the season. 12 months ago


For waking on time this morning.

For getting the tires taken care of before the arrival of the first winter storm.

For getting a day with B, De, and their kids.

For another fun game night at Mi.

For Mi’s willingness to let the kids come having never met them.

For a wonderful game of Cards Against Humanity. 12 months ago


For waking on schedule and almost taking care of the tire (forgot the storage code password, sigh).

For getting paid to wait 6 hours for a delivery. Love that particular labor law.

For being able to take the Metro to and from work today and not driving in the rain.

For finishing up the Christmas calendar with my sister today (and they had serious snow and snowmen).

For officially having a second interview next Wednesday! Yay me :)

For a nice call with my mom and dad. 12 months ago


For a long chat with the shrink today. I don’t know that helps me more than talking to friends yet it does.

For an open debate on FB between G and me. First time, since we’ve started talking again that it’s been public.

For resolving some sticky items at work.

For figuring out the weather is going to be awful by Sunday and so making plans to get the winter tires on the car in the morning.

For getting the good news that I have been approved to graduate in May of next year without having to retake any of the expired course work.

For a lot of good articles to read today across many topics.

For the sadness of loss as one of the giants of my lifetime passes out of life. RIP, Nelson Mandela. 12 months ago


For making it to the office in time to meet the project architect so we could discuss some key issues.

For the blue paint color being right this time round.

For making it to the dentist’s.

For the tooth discomfort being a matter of inflammation rather than infection.

For the fix being just to feather-touch the crown at the cost of $68 and then taking Advil for the next few days.

For being kind to myself and allowing the skip of my networking event since, although a minor procedure, the driving and then the dental work had taken a toll.

For getting sweet potatoes and cranberry sauce to go with the left over turkey from KT. 12 months ago


For waking to G’s flowers still looking beautiful and reminding me that he finds me amazing.

For waking only a little later than I wanted given asleep me has found a new way to disable the alarms…

For a really good job interview which has already locked in a second job interview.

For a note from G, waiting when the interview was over, saying that he was 90% there and still safe.

For getting through the shopping list finally and being ready to buy.

For not having gotten the call for the freight delivery that would have had me at the office for no reason since they had issues.

For a call from my sister checking on the interview. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Successes for the Last Last Three Weeks

Because this has been a while, I’m going to do it no particular order.

I went to to the Linking Leaders dinner on the 14th. Networking events always are hard for me to do so going was a really big deal. Meeting KM was a HUGE deal.

I declined a volunteer opportunity with BSF to do the bike maintenance class I’d signed up for. I knew the volunteer thing would be stressful and I was really looking forward to the class so I put me first.

I didn’t bail on AP’s visit. I was feeling blah and really didn’t want to. However, it did work out somewhat when we switched to her visiting me instead of vice versa.

I stayed an extra night with B and De. I was happy to do it but sometimes I feel like an outsider. Regardless, being with them rejuvenates me.

I decided to push myself and B to do 40 miles on the bike. It was exhausting yet a huge achievement.

I scheduled a lunch with KW and then went to it. I was worried that it would be awkward given the months since we last talked. It turned out she’d had her own issues and was very kind to me in not broaching mine.

I traveled all the way to SLC for a “date” with G. It was (and still is) a bit nerve wracking. I do feel we bonded even more and it was worth the traveling and exhaustion to catch up and see each other.

I finally wrote and sent the résumé for KW on an interesting job she forwarded to me. It worked! I got the interview and now I may have a second one.

I was honest with Mk, twice. It sucked HUGELY. Now there is only relief that at least I was honest and I know his responses.

I completed my request for extension on my Master’s course work so I won’t have to retake any of the courses. It was hard for me to justify that the course work was still current, but that’s about $3,000 of justification so I hope it works.

I finally Google’d a way to find dentists about my stupid molar and got an appointment. It’s further away than I’d like it to be, yet the initial consultation is free so here’s to starting. 12 months ago


For waking to flowers in my home.

For getting through all of my morning routine quickly this morning.

For walking over to the cleaners instead of riding the metro.

For being greeted as “hello, beautiful” by a random stranger.

For all the people who smiled back or said hello.

For a quiet day at work.

For the minor emergencies being easily fixable today.

For KT asking me to dinner.

For getting to catch up with KT and An. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537I love

Malcolm Gladwell! His books are so much fun to read. 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Alles Gute zum Geburtstag

Hope you have a most wonderful day! 12 months ago


For waking to the flowers in my home.

For not setting the house on fire while reheating the cinnamon rolls.

For having cinnamon rolls to go with breakfast.

For gorgeous sunshine all day.

For the kindness of friends checking in on me.

For getting the house cleaned a bit and some laundry done.

For the call from G as he waits for his flight back… 12 months ago

OtterGirl537Some times

It usually a friend going, “Can you spot me for lunch? I’ll pay you back after I hit the ATM.” Just small amounts like that. Family might give you a bigger loan to cover things you need but can’t necessarily afford. It depends on how those people think about money and owing others.

I prefer more of a “you get me this time, I’ll get you next time” thing for covering friends expenses and I’m always honest about what I can afford. 12 months ago

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