UAE may be an Islamic country and a desert, but Dubai is full of life at night. It turns into a party venue virtually every night. There are restrictions on alcohol and pork on neighboring emirates, but Dubai is pretty permissive, as long as people know their limit, respect the law, and the culture of the local people.
There are lots of places to go every night and events from Sundays to Thursdays. There is so much to do.
So, I have this friend who is as bored as I am and wouldn’t mind being dragged around Dubai. I plan on asking him to go with me and check out some clubs every month.
It would also be an advantage as most clubs here offer a free entry on couples, plus I get either free drinks or free shots every hour on ladies night. We both save! Hehehe 2 months ago
He is not exactly my bf (yet) but I think he’s the best person to ask out on an out of town trip or a long drive. We listen to the same music, we can talk about anything and we get along pretty well. And he happens to like long drives.
There’s a bit of a language barrier, but I think that should not be an issue. Where I’m at now, driving around is “rounding rounding”. Hahaha
I should be careful how I talk though. I should talk in a normal pace, avoid talking slow. I mean, I don’t want to put him down. I may talk better English, but he’s been through a lot more than I have.
Anyway, let’s see. I hope to hit three birds in one stone
Fall In Love
Get A Serious BF
Go On An Out of Town Trip
I know it seems quick (in terms of starting a new relationship) coz I just broke up with my ex a few weeks back (it’s not even a month yet). I promised myself to take my time in getting to know this person pretty well. So far, so good.. 3 months ago
finally! the package arrived. i told my friends it’s sort of like waiting for divorce papers. (lol) but at the back of my mind, i’m thinking, i get a break up letter and his new gf get’s a surprise ticket to cirque de soleil.
anyway, it arrived today and it turns out it’s not even for me or for our company. the name belongs to AN—- turns out to be ANTONETTE..lol and had nothing to do with him at all. so, now, finally i can breathe free and continue to get over this.
i know that it won’t be easy. i gave my everything to what turned out to be a waste of my time and my efforts. i was watching les miserables last night and fantine’s song sort of struck a cord in me..
There was a time when men were kind
When their voices were soft
And their words inviting
There was a time when love was blind
And the world was a song
And the song was exciting
There was a time
Then it all went wrong
He slept a summer by my side
He filled my days with endless wonder
He took my childhood in his stride
But he was gone when autumn came
It’s kinda like that what I’m going through. I don’t want to lose hope on true love. So, I always pray, that I find that right person for me, find true love and fall in love. 3 months ago
thanks nekoe..it’s nice to know that somebody understands..i’ve decided to stop being friends with him since we broke up. there’s just no use and like you said, he’s just not worth it. so, right now, im just trying to get busy, improve myself and get better. i’ve decided that from now on, i will not compromise my ideals in a man and in a relationship. :)
thanks and cheers! 3 months ago
It’s funny how a name can bring so much memories and bring so much emotion. I was doing OK these past few days. I cried a little over our break up, but had missed no sleep over it. I’ve been laughing again and had no hard time cheering myself up. At times, I even forget about how I feel and I feel certain that I’m on my way to just forgiving and forgetting, though I know, it would take a while.
But, when somebody mentioned his name (though not referring to him) I suddenly feel restless, like I want the day to end and just start a new one. Our receptionist mentioned that somebody had called to confirm my office address in order to deliver some documents. In line with that, she mentioned something about “A-” from—TM—. The name and the similar sounding company sounds a lot like my EX but I refuse to believe that the package is from him as he doesn’t even know where I work and what my company name is. At this late in time, I doubt if he’s even thinking about me, much less prepared a package for me.
So, here I am, brooding, bored (since I have nothing to do for work now) and just wishing that that damn package would arrive so I could finally confirm that it’s just something from work after all.
I want to continue my healing and get this over with…. 3 months ago
i have this blank wall near my bed which i’d like to set up as my vision wall or wall of goals. i’ve already made a collage of pictures which i’d like to print and put up at the center. and everytime i achieve something, i would put up one more picture, until i have a collage of goals and achievements. 4 months ago
i had the same experience with online dating sites..the ones i like seem interested at first, but then moves on to someone else after a while, and the ones i don’t like are the most keen..hehe..weird, right?
anyway, keep trying.. :)
cheers! 4 months ago
I WILL TAKE BACK ALL THE NICE THINGS I SAID ABOUT HIM. i’ve just confirmed that he is player. he has been playing me all along. the REAL reason he broke up with me was that he has already been seeing someone else. he has been hiding me all along. he probably has been together with this girl long ago, during our relationship and has just gone public with it. it’s a shame that i have to find it out at FB. so, that means i should not hope for a proper break up, face to face, ‘coz we never had a relationship at all in the first place. i was someone he just played around with, FOR A YEAR. i was stupid enough to let it go on for so long, to let him play me when all the signs was there.
and i ironically, even after we broke up, i’ve continued to pray for him, to ask God to bless his business and all that he is doing, when he DID NOT DESERVE IT AT ALL. he deserves NO GOOD THOUGHTS from me. he lied with his mouth, his eyes, his kisses, his intentions, all of it were ACTS, UNTRUE from the very beginning. 4 months ago
so, as of january, i have no bf. yes, we broke up :( and i am torn up about it. well, some relationship does not work out, some does. i still hope i find the right one, thus i am keeping this goal in my checklist.
i actually have a place in mind, the banyan tree at RAK. it’s a romantic place, worth saving up for and going with the right person. 4 months ago
i like what you said about meeting people who create more light than heat. i hope you would meet someone like that eventually. 4 months ago
i know it will not be easy to move on..i won’t be easy getting over him. i mean, i love him and i don’t think that would change, but i still hope to find that right person for me, true love. so, i know this break up is a good thing.
it is official, by the way. he tried to break up with me via text yesterday and i had a major fight with him over that. i told him i deserve a real break up, face to face. not in a text message! we did not have some meaningless fling which he could break off with a text message. so, he agreed to meet up once he’s back in dubai. actually, we settled it quiet well. we were teasing each other again.
we might end up as good friends but i don’t want to put too much hope on that. i’d just see what happens.
nic (thanks nic) commented that i might need to respect myself more. it had happened twice to me already. so, i should set boundaries and expectations and not just go with everything, which i did with both of my relationships.
i’ve also set a moving on party (yey) for me next month together with my closest friends. it will also be my birthday party. so, im getting myself about a month or so to move on and start giving love a chance all over again. 4 months ago
thanks nic, since you mention it, i’ve been thinking it over, maybe i should respect myself more before i go into a relationship so i can set boundaries and expectations rather than just going along with everything..
i’m slowly learning to move on. i cheered your goal to throw a party! love that idea. i will throw a party on my bday next month, as a celebration not only since it’s my birthday, but for moving on with my life as well :) maybe i’ll get to meet someone and i’ll give love another chance :)
thanks and cheers! 4 months ago
thanks for all the good comments and cheers at my last entry
so, i’ve decided to give an update as a sort of catharsis for what i’m going through right now. it’s been more than a week since i’ve heard from my bf and i just saw something that i should consider as our official break up. he didn’t know that i could view his personal facebook profile and i saw him put up a picture of him and another girl. i should have considered it as a sign in the first place that he did not add me at his personal facebook that he had something to hide. but i did not take it seriously.
true, it did not say that the girl is his current gf, but why put up a picture of the two of you in the first place? i texted him and rang up his phone, but i’ve no reply whatsoever from his side. i’ve gone to my friend and had cursed and ranted coz i cannot believe that someone would do this to me! again! for the second time! i guess, I AM THAT NAIVE, after all. i should not have believed that he would fall for me. he did seem to be a player….BUT then again, he showed such a sweet and good side. i know all of those were true, the year we had together is true, i cannot believe it otherwise. maybe, he just feel for someone else and had no way or had no idea of how to let me know…..
it does mean though, that the more i break up with the wrong guys, the closer i get to the right one for me.
anyway, i need opinions and advise please. does it mean he is really with someone else? does it mean anything when a guy puts up a photo of a girl with him in their profile pic? if i don’t hear from him today, after my text and missed call, should i consider it a break up?
i am torn right now. i wish i didn’t have to go through all of this…. 4 months ago
thank you..i decided to go out and just get busy with my friends instead of counting the days until he comes back or until he decides to talk to me (can’t help it sometimes though)..
:) 4 months ago
thanks for the advice. i will try to be more optimistic. and yeah you are right, if it doesn’t work out ( i hope it does), i will meet someone who will be much suited for me.
thanks :) 4 months ago
thanks for the advise..im trying to do that..so i guess i’ll just keep busy and enjoy what i have for the moment. :)
happy new year! 4 months ago
i think everyone comes to a point in a relationship where one gets a bit paranoid. it applies to me especially since my relationship with my bf is not exactly typical. i rarely see him and i rarely talk to him even when he is just a few miles away. it gets especially difficult when he goes out of the country and i don’t hear from him for days.
he has this bad habit of disappearing, especially from people he wants to avoid. he had walked away all of a sudden from a girl he used to date just because she won’t open up to him. so, i’m afraid that he would one day just walk out of my life without any explanation.
so, here’s why i’m suddenly falling apart:
he had gone home for christmas and new year and won’t be back until 2nd week of january. so, i’ve told myself to be prepared for a long break from him-no calls, no instant messages, no text messages. before he left, we were fine. we had just spent a night together, i had spoiled him as much as i could and the last time we chatted, we were fine. i assured him i’m all right with our situation. he greeted me merry christmas on YM and i greeted him back. a few days after that i checked his facebook profile and it was still up. so, i had no worries. i was busy, so 5 days without talking to him or hearing from him wasn’t much of a worry. we had gone without talking for far longer than that. i was carefree until last night. he is no longer in my friend’s list, he deactivated his facebook account and he hasn’t replied to any of my messages on YM and skype last night. i know it might take a few days before i hear from him, but i am starting to get really afraid and a little bit paranoid. (ok, A LOT paranoid). is this the start? is he walking out on me? is he slowly purging me from his life?
Please, someone tell me I’m over analyzing this….
INSTANT UPDATE: he just sent me a message and he wants us to talk when he gets back. so, i should be hopeful that he wants us to be serious, but knowing our history, it’s probably a prelude to a break up. BUT i want to have faith in my prayers to God. I had prayed during our 9 days novena mass that we will get to spend more time for each other next year and that we will get better. I’ve gone for days fantasizing about raising kids and starting a family (PSYCHO tendencies here). hai…but I guess, I’ve just fallen for him that hard….Maybe, it might be a good thing if I stand back and assess everything? Maybe he wasn’t that into me after all.
Prayers and advise please.
Thanks :) 4 months ago
maybe, im focused too much on what i don’t have that i don’t appreciate what i already have. my work environment is not exactly crazy or as bad as i thought it was. we treat each other as friends or even as families here in the office. somehow, everybody tries to look out for each other. most of my bosses are my father’s friends, or knew my father in some way. so, they see me as an extension of my father and treats me as family.
i know my bosses likes my professional ethics so, i can always ask for whatever i want and they can give it. ive asked to be transferred to business development department, and the management is doing just that. i will be transferred there as soon as they hire a replacement. i already know one of my new bosses, the nephew of the CEO and another new guy. i met the new one just last week and he seems like a really nice person. i look forward to transferring. at least, i won’t have to worry about delivery dates, wrong supplies, indecisive managers with nil planning sense…
i actually like where i am, could i be content with it though in the long run? 5 months ago
If my love life is a book, then this chapter of my life would be called “Waiting”. I have often heard true love waits, but I thought that only applied to singles waiting for the love of their life to arrive. Or for virgin couples, waiting until they get married to get into bed together.
Waiting is always difficult. It needs a lot of patience, hope and sometimes, when things get so bad, it sort of borders on desperation and despair. I don’t want to go to that end, though.
My BF has been so busy with his work lately that it’s been 7 days since I’ve last heard from him. No calls, no text, no IMs, not even emails. I have no idea where he is too. He just dropped me a short line saying he’d be gone and he’d be back “next mon”..that could either be “next monday” (today) or “next month”. I’m hoping it means today.
We often go for days without talking, I think 10 days had been the longest. He often explains that his work is his top priority and I understand that. I’ve always been supportive, understanding, patient. But, I don’t know. It’s so hard to wait…
I told him, it’s OK for me to wait, if I had some assurance that we have a future. I’ve always been sure that we have one, but he’s slowly thinking maybe we don’t.
I hope this chapter has a good ending. 6 months ago
i had a fight today with my boss for the nth time this week. he’s getting more and more disorganized and it is so obvious that his head is up in the clouds. he has no focus at work so my friend and i end up clamoring around the office, trying to finish his last minute demands.
i know nobody is perfect, but is it so hard to expect some sense of planning from your boss? Instead of shouting at everyone, getting across last minute orders, couldn’t he have asked and listed down everything he needed from the very beginning? He had a week to prepare for the project and he failed, HE FAILED to get everything he needed until the last minute. And UNBELIEVABLY, he blamed it on everyone and ON ME, when I HAD NO IDEA what he was doing. I thought he was handling it, he never even let me take over. If he had asked me, from the very beginning to help him arrange the project, i would have organized everything. BUT NO, he took it on himself to coordinate the whole thing and then blamed it on everyone when ALL FAILED.
So, i do need a new job, or at least a new boss. Last week, I’ve just confirmed with the COO that I want to transfer departments and they said they would once I have a replacement.So, good luck with that and I hope my new boss is better than MR. URGENT-URGENT. 6 months ago
So, it’s after the holidays here and unfortunately, I didn’t end up going out of town with my bf. I went and did the next best thing, went out of town with my family. :-) which was really good coz we drove through the mountains, checked in our suite, lounged at the pool and pigged out at the buffet..hahaha
but, seriously, i wish i had some time to go out with my bf at least once.i’m still hoping for that. we did went and spent a night at a really nice hotel downtown. we had dinner at Shakespeare & co, then stayed up most of the night in our room. he really enjoyed, i could tell coz he keeps bringing it up. and he plans to book another room some time next week. it may not be as good as an out of town trip, but at least it’s just as better. we do need some quality time. 6 months ago
yeah? why don’t u say hi and find out? :-) i hope he’s single and interested..that would be so nice
actually, that’s what’s so weird..i have no prior friendship with him before we got together but when we met for the first time, we felt as if we’ve both known each other for a long time. after a few days of seeing each other, we decided to make it official-from dating to being bf/gf :-) 6 months ago
I have a friend who is really supportive about my dream to write a novel. He thinks I’m a good writer and that I have potential. So, when we went out last time, he surprised me with a brand new laptop. He knew I didn’t own one and he said that it would be a good way to launch me on my writing career. Plus, he gave me my first commission! Yeah, he knew I am NOT COOL about taking money from anyone, but he insisted. He said it was so I can get my place hooked up with internet connection. So, I will be doing just that.
We are co-writing a novel together (under pseudonyms) and now that I’ve accepted the laptop and the cash, I have no excuse to not start writing. Let’s see how things will work out. 6 months ago
im all out of cheers..but i’m cheering you on :-) 6 months ago
What is the sweetest thing anyone could have told you? For me, it was having my boyfriend tell me, at 6 in the morning that I’m a blessing, God’s blessing, God’s gift and that I will be blessed. I know, it’s corny for some, but for me, it sounded like a revelation. At the church group where I belong to, we call our boyfriends/girlfriends, GG or God’s gift. I haven’t told him that, so, when he said that I was God’s gift, I felt like it was a sign. Maybe, He is really God’s answer to my prayers.
You see, I was leaving for work and we’ve only spent about 2 hours awake together the night before. I had reached his place at 12 mn and we drove around for an hour looking for a place to hang out when we finally decided to just go to his place, talk a bit and get some sleep. It’s our first time to see each other after about a week or two. He’s been busier than usual, with work and all. So, in those two short hours together, we had no time to talk about the state of our relationship. We just updated each other on what’s going on, shared two packets of granola bar while sipping tea (he made me a cup) and reading newspapers on his kitchen counter. It was really domestic, and sweet (in a way). I can’t get it out my head, how homey the scene is and how it feels right. Then we spent the rest of the night sleeping since we both had work the next day.
What he said to me at 6am, before I leave for work, was somehow his way of making up for our lost time together. He knew I was frustrated that we can’t spend time together. He kept saying how “I’m perfect”, “Just fantastic” “How patient” I’m being over our relationship. I keep shaking my head and telling him that I’m not all that. In the back of my mind, I was saying, you don’t know how I am when you’re not around, how frustrated I get, how I wish I could just leave you (but I can’t coz I want it all to work out). That’s when he said all those stuff about me being God’s blessing. And after that, I just cant stop smiling. I am hoping, praying, that he is The One. 6 months ago
there will be a holiday soon and i was thinking of asking my bf to take some time off from work so we can spend some quality time together. we’ve both been so busy that our quality time is reduced to a mere few hours each month. i know work comes first (for now), but we still need to spend some time together, right?
so, i was thinking of inviting him to go on a camping trip with me or we could book a hotel somewhere outside the city for a night or two.
i really miss our time together… 7 months ago
