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Tarrador"What's It Come To, Three Ways?"

Mind, body, soul

Curly, Larry, Moe

Sun, Earth, Moon

Maiden, Mother, Crone

Holy Trinity (Father, Son, Holy Ghost)

The other holy trinity (celery, onion, green bell peppers)

Lock, stock, and barrell

Yesterday, today, and tomorrow

Menage a trois

Red, white and blue

There is a strong, almost hardwired connection in our brains to relate to things that are grouped in threes.

Ear, nose and throat

Land, air, and sea

Stop, look, listen

Beginning, middle, and end

See the pattern? Artists know this, marketers know it, Hollywood screenwriters know it. Groups of three is a natural collection that allows the human brain to perceive that it has choices, but not so many choices as to lead to paralysis of analysis.

Left, right, center

Animal, vegetable, mineral

Life, liberty, happiness

Coffee, tea, or me?

One is the loneliest number, two’s company, but that doesn’t make three a crowd, not in our primitive, tribal minds. Three offers support, backup, security, intimacy, strength, flexibility, and variety. Three square meals, three musketeers, three wise men, Shakespeare’s three witches, Unforgiven’s three protagonists, Rome’s first triumvirate… History and culture manifests with powerful evidence the strength and advantage of the power of three.

Maybe there are ways for me to explore using this powerful number in my own personal and professional life. Limit my daily tasks to just three actionable things. Plan my diet around vegetables, fruits and meats, excluding more outrageous options. Three main vendors, consolidating my choices and freeing up time. Three ingredient smoothies, three loads of laundry, three options for vacations, then three activities on vacation.

It appeals to me for the strength of its simplicity. I’m an over-planner. I think to much. I wait for too much information before making a choice (unlike the work-me, who will cut the dust and make a decision – even a wrong decision – with no dallying). A three point plan for dealing with the mortgage company, the doctor, the lawn guy, my car registration… I can see this already having a more natural flow towards solution oriented planning.

Look for ways to use the Power of Three in my whole decision making process: 1. Handle myself; 2. Delegate downwards; 3. Ignore or reschedule. Keep three columns of productivity: Queued, Action, Finished.

Although using the Power of Three can streamline things for me, it does not have to limit things. With any three single-digit numbers, there are 1,000 possible combinations. Three colors, depending upon individual intensity, can produce 16.7 million color variations. Three actions, that each generate three actions of their own, that then each generate three actions of their own, result in over 1 billion actions in just 19 iterations. Amway knows this, viral diseases know this. Youtube knows this.

I should know more about this. I should learn how to maximize this. It is so ingrained into our consciousness that it should be easy.

As easy as A, B, and C 3 months ago

Tarrador 3 months ago

TarradorThis Bloomin' Month

For sure I want to see some of the seeds I’ve scattered over the last few months to sprout and come to bloom. There, I’ve done the work and have to wait for the results. Any more action from me would be over-action and an expression of a lack of faith that what will happen will happen.

Also, there are tigers I want to take by the tail. Big, fierce, dangerous tigers with a bite of crippling force. But there are no rewards for avoiding the hard things.

I want to bloom this month by doing 4 simple(!) things:

  • Purge my mind, body, and spirit. I’m spending the next 30 days consuming just veg smoothies (2 today) to cleanse my body. I’m cutting out all tv in favor of reading, I want to complete 6 books this month. I have been getting into more guided meditation, but now I want to find a way to make my guided meditations more purposeful. I’ve got ones that help me sleep and gently remind me not to overeat. But I want some that are going to mentally and spiritually invigorate me and pump me up to realize my goals.
  • Stick with my morning routine: Up at 5am, sun salutations and exercises, cold shower, meditation, work on my prime project. If I make this my daily goal for April, I believe it will yield great productivity.
  • Get back into exercise: Do my daily workouts and work my way up to “running” for 2 miles by April’s end.
  • Paint 3 pictures: That’s it, just paint 3 display-worthy pictures and get them out where people can see.

Yeah, there’s a lot more to do; I’ve got a notebook full of post-its breaking all my elephants down into bite-sized portions. And I’m going to work on them day by day. They cover child care and finances and marriage work and career and long term plans… Lot’s to do, but handled in a manageable way as long as I actually manage it.

Seeing growth and success in these areas will be how I gauge blossoming for this month. 3 months ago

TarradorBe patient with yourself...

little outward changes is exactly how it works. It is like making a 100% change in diet and not seeing pounds fall off in a few days. First the steady routine of eating… then the incremental results. Same with the steady flow of powerful water and the gradual erosion of stone… same with a large savings account and the slow but steady increase in interest… just being within sight of the mountain top is very exhilarating, but there are still many little steps to take to reach it.

Momentum is an interesting thing: even a little will go a long way. I promise you, keep you momentum up, even with little pushes, and you will see your little snow ball increase into a snow boulder. 3 months ago

TarradorBlueprint in Place

“In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower

I’ve worked and sketched and researched and planned all month long. Here and there I’ve pushed forward and experienced some success. Here and there I’ve pushed forward and experienced some pushback. Whichever the result, I had a workable plan to either proceed with or fall back on.

Blueprint in hand and in heart, I’m ready to push on more assertively on my course. The plan is to push through the next 90 days and make some measurable progress, yet still be open and flexible to the development of things not seen or imagined yet. How ridiculous would it be to remain so set on a plan that I passed up an even better opportunity?

Sun Tzu teaches that: “Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win”. I know that in the coming months, having a well-laid blueprint of what I want things to look like will be a big advantage over trying to figure out how to make things come together once I’m there. 3 months ago

TarradorI'm going to make...

number 10 my personal ethos! 4 months ago

TarradorYou might...

have to resize them. If you are linking them from flickr you can change the size in the link description. This has happened to me before and that was how I resolved it. 4 months ago

TarradorNothing says...

thanks for two decades of toil and labor and dedication like a hearty “go fuck yourself, which, by the way, I won’t authorize the company to pay for, either”.

It is amazing that you have been able to remain in a job for that long and deserve to be commended and rewarded. Congrats on your employment longevity and you vested status in the company. 4 months ago

TarradorI was struck...

from quite an odd angle from a verse the pastor once chose to teach on regarding 2nd Kings, vrs 23&24 (I had to Google them, since it has been a long time). It recounts how Elisha was being mocked by some children, and how God send a couple of bears out of the woods to kill the children. Now, I was already teetering at the time on thinking that God was something of a dick, and this kinda sealed the envelope and stuck a stamp on it. The lengths to which the pastor went to justify both Elisha’s curse and God’s punishment downright annoyed me. When I hear someone speak with such blind earnestness about how much God loves us as individuals, how dear we are to his heart, I think of bears killing children. To be fair, I also think of spirits killing firstborns, the massacre of Job’s family, angles smiting cities, God’s decrees to kill every man, woman and child in the new land the Israelites enter, a world drowned by flood, and the yet to be disclosed tortures and terrors in the upcoming End of Days apocalypse.

Another treatment of scripture came not from a sermon, but from a former rabbi who was a Kabbalah teacher and a practitioner of the Law of Attraction. Quoting Luke 11 vrs 9-10, he recounts the teachings of Jesus: “And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.” That moved me to believe that Jesus was hip to this whole “ask and it is given” philosophy, and was aware that intentions matter, and that thoughts become things.

I also took a lot of personal reflection away from Mel Gibson’s The Passion. Most of my friends found it an offensive snuff film. But to me it was very profound to see the verses I had been so staunchly indoctrinated in brought to such uncompromising and brutal life on the screen. 4 months ago

TarradorDaily Sketch Diary

6 sketches I have done in the last 6 days. 5 out of 6 started with no image in mind, just started scribbling.

I have not been diligent in practicing my art over the last 6 months. One of the things I have been doing with my early mornings has been to do a quick digital sketch every day. I want to have a daily routine of sketching ideas, objects, concepts… whatever. Just to keep the basic fundamental physical skills up, and to improve just by doing.

I have Sketchbook Pro on my Ipad, which is a program with a fair amount of capability for simple sketching. It is like having a portable studio because I can easily generate sketches that look like pencil, pen, marker, ink, or watercolor, depending upon what I want to do. Something I create may be the jumping off point for a more detailed piece, or it may forever be a raw sketch with no purpose other than practice. If they start to take up too much room on the Ipad I can off-load them to Dropbox then to a computer folder, keeping an ongoing record of my discipline and my progress. 4 months ago

TarradorLove, love, love...

and love to you. Such a perfect and heartbreaking poem. 4 months ago

TarradorCold Shower Therapy

Sometimes, when you find the dragon of Resistance hiding in your closet, you can’t shoo him out, you can’t coax him out, you can’t negotiate him out. Sometimes you have to take a rock and bash in his head.

My new morning routine is going fairly well. While I have yet to accomplish the entire routine, I have succeeded in performing it in bits and pieces. Since I think this routine is going to be the foundation of my productivity success, it is important to bring all the components together as soon as possible.

The biggest strain on simply getting up is the lure of the nice warm bed, draped in nice warm blankets, and filled with nice warm bodies. It is so easy to sink back down into the mattress of doom and surrender.

I’m going to fight against this with cold shower therapy. For 21 days (up to 30 if that is what it takes) I am going to jump into a cold shower for progressively longer amounts of time. Cold water will not kill me, and there are indications it is actually good for you. I got the idea from my polar bear plunge, knowing that if I could start every day like that, sluggishness and sleepiness would be immediately banished.

I also know that if I can do this, I can do anything I set my mind to. For me to get into a cold shower is no small feat. Maybe for you, but not for me. Yet I know I can do it if I try. I tried to convince myself that the hardest part of the day was just getting up, and once that was done, everything else was going to be easy. But that affirmation hasn’t stuck. I need something a bit more bracing.

I’m starting with very short bursts. 30 seconds, total immersion. From there I will work up by degrees (of time, not temperature) until I reach my ultimate goal, which is 8 minutes. From there the fear and the trepidation is over. From there it is daily discipline. 4 months ago

Tarrador6. War of Art/Do The Work by Steven Pressfield

Less of a book and more of a manifesto, War of Art is Steven Pressfield’s take on what causes us to fall short of of our best achievements. While aimed at the struggling writer, the lessons he offers work on a broad level because they are deceptively fundamental.

The main culprit blocking our path to success is an energy he defines as “Resistance”. If every action produces an equal and opposite reaction, then Resistance is the counter action immediately produced by our efforts to move forward. Resistance comes in many guises, but it is important to note that it is always internal; it comes from within our own minds.

Pressfield describes the many ways Resistance sets out to clobber our best intentions, the little ways, the big ways, the cruel ways, the kind ways. Resistance likes the status quo, and will fight tooth and nail to keep us where we are, or to counter to the extreme our attempts to raise up. This is why we gain weight on diets, crash and burn upon unflattering criticism, or fail to follow through on a project at the 11th hour. Resistance is fear, anger, sloth, all those other vices interfering with our attempts do fulfill our higher destiney.

Having run the gamut of how wicked, evil, mean and nasty Resistance can be, Pressfield offers a blueprint of sorts to combat Resistance with greater force, like a rocket leaving the Earth’s grip. This part is deceptively simple, too. It seems obvious that proper preparation, organization, patience, endurance, and acting in the face of fear and failure are avenues to success. But in their simple format, you begin to see that the reason you don’t use the treadmill daily is because it has laundry hanging on it. You don’t go to your desk because you are defeated before you get there by the prospect of the imbalance between in and out boxes. You get off to a great start, but you don’t do it daily, like a job, to bring things to completion. Something comes up and you attach a priority to it and it causes you to put off and put off your task until what you have is a loss of momentum, resulting in an unrealized dream. What Pressfield offers is a campaign plan of the professional; at attack plan to defeat Resistance whatever form it comes in.

The third part dwells on the higher realms of inspiration and what the real motivation of an artist has to be. It also speculates on what our roles as creative beings are: Are we actually creating or just putting to form something that already exists on a higher plane? Here the book is less helpful and more esoteric, but still interesting. The end is an invitation to realize the destiny each of us was born for.

Do The Work is a follow-up folio on using the advice from War of Art. While most of the pages are lifted in whole from WOA, there are also some exercises to put pen to paper and make a plan, chart a course, or generate momentum toward reaching your goals. And for Pressfield, the goals are not “lose 20 pounds”, or “Watch all episodes of Fringe”, the goals are realize what your life calling is, and be about it consistently and every day. He also makes no secret that Resistance is a dragon you have to sharpen your sword against and re-defeat on a daily, even hourly basis. It is a a war you will never win, no matter how many battles you gain victory in. Resistance never gives up, never accepts defeat. It only retreats until it sees a new opening for attack.

I enjoyed the pair of books (so close in content that I can only consider them one book), and they have already inspired me to work the principles into my daily achievement routine. Recognizing the dragon and having an arsenal to confront it is a big advantage. Like training, like a muscle, I can only get better and more successful from fighting Resistance. In little ways and in big ways. Battling the dragon will keep me honed and toned and fit. Allowing Resistance to flow over me and defeat me will only keep me weak. If I want the prize that comes with winning the purse, I have to get into the ring and do battle. Resistance just keeps me fit. Resistance just makes me hard. 4 months ago


on your progress. Sometimes changes can be difficult to see over time, both losses and gains.

“He kneads my body regularly”... snicker-snicker-snort…4 months ago


so is your perfect partner… 4 months ago


That would be my third choice. 4 months ago


the finalists are selected, the voting for the winning design is open to the public via an online link. I cast my vote, for what it is worth. 4 months ago

TarradorThe myopic view...

taken by most nay-sayers of climate change (tagging it as “global warming” has, in part, lead to these denials just by its name) will probably be the epitaph on the gravestone of Western culture in the coming century. When climate is measured not in years, but in decades, when the preponderance of data continues to indicate the direction this planet is going, when the history of the planet is replete with examples of the dramatic results of climate change, short term views are like looking at a sunburn and saying “so what? I don’t see how this is going to cause skin cancer…”

Combine shrinking resources with a human population anticipated to hit 11 billion by 2100, and the damages to the environment being wrought by raking nations and corporations and the potential for apocalyptic disaster is not just possible, in seems ineluctable. 4 months ago

Tarrador5. Crimes Against Magic by Steve McHugh

I bought this book when I first downloaded the Kindle app to my Ipad. It had a overall positive review and looked to be an entertaining read. It was enjoyable and quick and a more fitting style for me after the last novel. There were bursts of action and a masculine narrative. The plot was thin, but then what isn’t these days. It revolves around a centuries-old sorcerer who lost his memory due to a curse. He now works odd jobs as a thief in the employment of a vampire. Life takes an interesting turn when he is charged to steal an ancient book, and it seems that people (and things) that know about his past life start turning up.

The novel switches between his adventures in present day London, and flashbacks to adventures in 1444, France. This is both to fill in the reader on the sorcerer’s abilities and powers, and to give insight into his character and sets up the role of the main villain. It is also, probably, to thicken the book, since each story on it’s own would not make a compelling novel. The switches back and forth try to function as cliffhangers in the story. They really are kind of a distraction, to me anyway.

The novel follows a predictable three act set (again, what doesn’t these days?): Introduction to the character and his world, the instigation of the mystery; Friends and lovers drawn into the conflict and held hostage to force the hero to do the will of the villain; Superhero crashes forth and defeats all foes with powers he only regains at the last minute, when all seems hopeless. Captives saved, evil-doers dealt with. Sort of happy ending. I will say that saving the ultimate dispatch of the villain for the epilogue was a particularly satisfying touch, since it looked like he was going to make a Darth Vader-style getaway and return to torment our hero in future novels. How dull and predictable that would have been.

In the end I would say it was a worthwhile read for entertainment, and it moved quite quickly. I was able to knock out 377 pages in about 6 days, which is good for me. This being the first book in a series, I would read more of the series for pulp fun. 4 months ago

TarradorIn Like Flynn

I entered the annual lottery for a race position in the 2014 Peachtree Road Race. Got my confirmation today, so I am in for my 9th consecutive running of the race.

So, come July 4th I will be claiming the t-shirt with the winning design from the five finalists pictured above. I have always been disappointed with the final choices in years past. I’d like to see either the one on the far left rear win, or possibly the Captain America inspired design in the center rear. The one on the far right rear will probably be the winner… yeech… 4 months ago

TarradorVery little news...

and very little detail of what I do look over. I have found it harder and harder to sort the propaganda-laced yellow journalism from the real fact and figure based information.

I watch the Daily Show and the Colbert Report, but that is not really news. I skim headlines on Flipboard and read an article if it catches my interest.

I pay attention mostly to major world news and anything that affects my industry. I skim celebrity news, and I don’t care for sports or political mudslinging. 4 months ago

TarradorThe Rise and Shine Protocol

I’ve decided what to do, and I’m not going to like it.

I’ve been fiddling around with a “blueprint for success” for a couple of months. I realize what I’ve actually been doing is looking for a way to make it easier. The weak and fearful side of me is resisting change. As usual, it is going to require me to draw from deep within my inner well to accomplish what I want to do.

The first step in my blueprint is a daily routine. Just one hour of the day. Problem is, it begins at 5:00am.

  • Get up at 5:00 am, hydrate
  • Perform 5 – 10 Sun Salutations
  • 10 pullups (I have a pullup bar already in place)
  • 1 minute of weighted squat jumps
  • 1 minute of plank pose
  • 1 minute of Swiss Ball rollouts
  • 1 minute of burpees
  • Sit for focused, guided mediation – 15 – 20 minutes
  • Layout my action plan for the day – 10 – 15 minutes

That is about the size of it. In roughly one hour I can jump start my day and put my head in the game instead of running to catch up. A start like this gives me from 6 am to 9:30 or 10:30 depending upon the day of additional free time where I am more energized and focuses, and becomes the perfect “found time” for special projects.

Why 5:00 am? Two main reasons:
  1. It is indisputably early and there is no good reason for it. I’ll be honest; right now my day starts with a backwards countdown of exactly where I have to be and when, and how much time I need to get there for that. I settle myself in to warm covers and useless tv until the magic second when I can literally wait no longer. Then it is up, rush the morning chores, jump in the car and arrive in the nick of time. By getting up super early, there is no rush. I am poised and prepared to launch into the day, not struggling to pick up the pieces.
  2. I am hoping to find adequate “me” time in the early morning to do the things I need/want to do without being distracted. Without going into laborious detail, I have a lot of irons in a lot of fires. My attention is constantly diverted. At the end of the day I end up with a list of things I wanted to accomplish for me and my benefit that just never got done. Buying a couple of hours each morning might help me break that cycle.

Of course this is not the first time I’ve tried this. I’ve tried and failed many times to carpe deim, only to negotiate my way out of responsibility. I’m adding a few new elements to help me overcome past failings. I have an “accountability buddy” whom I will email promptly ever am and inform them of my rise time. I have a “bed-time” when I must be done reading, internet surfing, and tv watching(to help with this I have a guided meditation app that is putting me to sleep in about 15 minutes). I drink a big glass of water before going to sleep, to make sure I have an additional urge to get up. (Of course, if the baby wakes up around 2 or 3 am and it is my night for feeding and changing, chances are I will relieve myself at that time, so I have two water glasses standing by)

I have a few other tricks as well. Mostly it is just going to have be about a month of struggling through it, until the habit begins to deliver the rewards I’m looking for.

This is the foundation of my blueprint. 4 months ago

Tarrador4. His Majesty's Dragon by Naomi Novik

I read the first book of this series at the behest of my sister, who really enjoys the series. The alternate history plot of the book is very simple: During Europe’s Napoleonic Wars era dragons are used as weapons of war. There is an Aviator division like the Navy or Army wherein riders are matched to dragons, they train them to fight aerial combats against other nations, and bonds form between dragon and rider. The dragons can speak and are as intelligent as humans, in some cases even more so since they can live for hundreds of years.

In the book an English warship commanded by Captain Laurence overtakes a French warship. Among the booty is a dragon’s egg, ready to hatch. Since the hatchling dragon must be bonded with a rider from the shell, or become wild and unrideable, Laurence and his men are forced to draw straws to see who will present themselves to the creature for bonding. Despite best laid plans, the dragon bonds with Laurence. This means an end to his Navy career and ignominious acceptance into the disreputable Aviator Corps. He names the dragon Temeraire and they form a very close emotional bond.

The book is basically broken up into three distinct and predictable acts: 1. The acquisition of the egg and the hatching and the bonding with Laurence. His subsequent personal turmoil at having to give up his captaincy and become an aviator (which he does in the most British of fashion). 2. Training camp, where Laurence collects a crew who will serve on the dragon, and where Temeraire learns how to fly, fight, and cooperate with the other dragons. 3. The plunge into battle, where both dragon and rider are tested against hostile forces.

The book is well written in regards to historical details, and the author has created a fictional back history of the dragon corps so that it reads like real history, too. Not a lot of words are wasted on ornate explanations of things regarding dragons and dragon training that make it seem like the author is trying to convince the reader that this alternate world existed. By being simple and brief, we get the feeling that this is something people who knew a little bit about the early 1800’s would already know.

I was not, however, excited about the book as a story. Laurence’s character is stiff and unyielding in his righteousness, nary making a moral misstep. Temeraire is a sweet, good-natured, intelligent, yet self-possessed dragon who thinks Laurence is just the bee’s knees. They get along without strife from Day One. The plot line was very predictable, to the point of being a pulp plot. Most of the book was kind of boring in it’s day-to-day details of training and human-dragon bonding. The few action scenes, the few fight scenes, were well done and engaging, but still lacked emotion. Laurence is a fearless hero without fault, and Temeraire is (predictably) discovered to be one of the rarest dragons in the world: A Chinese Celestial. It also turns out that such dragons are exclusively hatched for kings and emperors and that Temeraire’s egg was actually headed to France as a gift to Napoleon. All ends well for rider and dragon, Laurence more than overcomes his misgivings about being an aviator, and brings some much needed British Navy spit and polish to the ragamuffin corps. Of course, if he called one more person out because of a gentlemanly affront, I would have hoped to see his tight, upper-class ass given a good kicking.

It is unlikely in general that I will read the other books in this series. I certainly won’t read any more as part of my 52 book goal. By being kinda dull and unengaging, it took me a long time to get through it. And that puts me behind on my goal in general.

I’ve got several other books lined up to read, but they are all in the 350+ page length. That puts me in the position or reading about 15% of each book per day to complete it in a week. I believe my reading skills will come back, the more reading I do. That will make me a faster reader, and also not so prone to fall asleep while reading. That is not just the fault of the subject material, it is also a result of my eyes being out of practice in reading. 4 months ago

TarradorOh, Yeah... We Have A Nursery

Skipped over this goal numerous times. In truth, we haven’t done much with the decor or improvement of the house. We talk a lot about what we want to do, but it is not translating into action.

One room that has gotten a makeover is of course, our nursery. Even though little Universe doesn’t spend a lot of time in there yet, we’ve gotten it painted and decorated. We still want to lay new flooring (carpet or laminate, we haven’t decided), and we need to paint the dresser/changing table. The walls are a pleasant Riesling green, the ceiling is sky blue with a sun-shaped light fixture in the center, and the closet is daffodil-yellow. S. has put numerous Circo stickers on the wall featuring all kinds of animals and bugs. We have put up two shelves over the rack that holds diapering supplies and bibs, we have a glider with a foot rest, an open-faced shelf unit for toys and stuff, and a mini-fridge and bottle warmer in one corner. Eventually her bassinet will migrate from our room to the nursery, along with the required baby monitors, spycams, heart-rate monitors, motion sensors, and alarm systems. The nursery is in the room right next to ours, and I suggested we take down part of the wall and add French doors to connect the rooms. S. said the was over the top and to get a hold of myself.

The main theme for the room is ladybugs and owls. It is a relaxing space and I think our baby is going to enjoy it for a number of years. 4 months ago

TarradorThe I'd's of March

“I’d like to get a new job, but it’s so hard to find anything right now.”

I’d like to lose some weight and get into shape, but there’s so much to do and I’m so tired.”

“I’d go to that play, that show, that movie, that network meeting, that meet-up, but I’m so busy with things I don’t want to do.”

The I’d’s of March are upon me. All the things I’d like to do, or wish to have, or need to get around to. They are swarmed by the rush of things urgent but unimportant, things unexpected but disruptive, and things completely useless and exhausting. “Et tu, Tivo?” I cry out as yet another day slips away with the lists of “must-do’s” still accusingly unfulfilled, building impotent reinforcements with the next day. I’m the one putting out so many fires that I fail to notice the dragon I should be slaying. Slay the dragon, and the kingdom will be safe, and the fires will burn out on their own. I move from “crisis” to “crisis” like a Whitechapel whore looking for a gentleman with a farthing, and at the end of the day, none of my real chores, the ones that are supposed to set me on a more purposeful and permanent course, have been accomplished.

I’m not a complete failure, you understand. I just don’t have my blueprint laid out quite flat and free of wrinkles and creases. I’m fighting with the permit guys and contractors instead of building my foundations and footings and walls. I’d like to get moving on my big projects… but there it is: my I’d’s of March.

Lately I’ve been trying a new means of keeping those “must do’s” at the forefront of my attention. I’ve frankensteined a couple of productivity methods including Kanban and Priority Matrix, and I’m using multi-colored post-it notes to identify my most important chores and tasks. It works as a tiny, hands-on reminder of things I need to make a priority on any given day. I keep all my post-its on a large foamcore board, and when I decide to work on a chore or task, I pull the post-it down and carry it with me, tacking to my car’s dash, or my phone face, or my notepad. When I get it completed, there is a physical satisfaction in either putting it back on the board in the “Done” column or just crumpling it up and tossing it away. It is harder to sit and watch mindless tv while a pink post-it waves at you from your wine glass, reminding you to get to that particular task (harder, I am learning, but not impossible :( )

As a get-things-done methodology, it is an on-going experiment, but it has been helping me, especially with short term tasks that just required me making a phone call, or paying a bill, or placing an order online. I’m looking forward to making it a more holistic process. I am thinking of adapting it to cover affirmations, idea flows, and task delegation. I know a lot of people use post-its to improve their productivity. I just don’t know the whole mental process they use to apply it.

I’d better learn, though. 4 months ago

TarradorIt might be funny...

Or it might not. We’ll only know after it is told. 4 months ago

TarradorThere's a 50/50 chance...

I’ll laugh at #16 from the first link, but I haven’t looked at it yet. 4 months ago

TarradorHi back...

C’mon back, dear friend. Love to be found here everywhere. You have been missed. 4 months ago


to and them for making such a great choice to renew your contract. Great news! 4 months ago

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