There are sometimes people in my life, often only acquaintances, that live such strange lives. They are so unstable. Yet, they don’t do a lot to make different choices.
A girl I was very good friends with in high school has basically gone from one abusive relationship to another. Her first serious boyfriend (who became her husband) was very scary and dangerous. I told her so the first time I met him, and the stupid thing is, she knew it too. She already knew he was abusive and controlling, and they had only been together for a few months. At that point, she could have walked. They didn’t have any kids, nothing was at stake, she could have left him no problem.
Instead, she had three kids with him, and went through years of physical and emotional abuse. Her kids are just fucked right up, and likely going to either be criminals or just welfare recipients. Her daughter already has two kids, I think she just turned 20, and doesn’t seem to have any interest in working for a living.
She’s now married to a different guy, who doesn’t sound any better. He has a “bad back” which is asshole-ese for “trying to get on long-term disability”. Sorry to sound like such a cynic, but I’ve noticed that over and over again, there’s a certain kind of addict that will just keep using their bad back as a way to get pain killers, go on disability, and never work again.
This friend posted something on Facebook the other night, something like “Oh my God! He’s drinking and trashing everything!”. Then she posted that she was going to a friend’s, and calling the cops.
However, my Mom, who lives just down the street, doesn’t think that she kicked him out. It all looks like business as usual.
I also talk to a woman here, who works at the school where the library is for our town. It’s kind of unavoidable. She’s told me a number of disturbing things about her son, who is just over a year old. Like he bites her, and bites their dog on the penis (WTF?!) and craps on the floor and rubs it all over the place, and so on. It makes me think that something very weird is happening to that child.
Then she tells me about her husband’s back surgery, how he can’t do anything for 16 weeks, how hard she has to work because he can’t do anything….and then he somehow wraps the truck around a tree, he’s not wearing a seatbelt, he was deer hunting and the gun hit him in the head (hey, at least it wasn’t loaded, even if he was). He’s working on getting long term disability, too, I bet.
Then, today she runs up to me, sobbing, saying she has to get rid of her dog TODAY because it bit her son. I had a hard time feeling bad about that if her son was biting the dog on the penis.
What the Hell is wrong with these people? 1 week ago