I was reading a bit out of a book of his, and was pretty taken back by a couple of paragraphs about women.
I always thought he was pretty ironic, that most of his asshole act was just to bring to light how awful people can be, and that HE wasn’t like that.
Now I’m not so sure.
He made some statements about basically women should stay home if they have kids, or go hard and pursue their career all the way (the way a man would). So, women would be in that terrible position of have kids, or a career, but not both. He made it sound like the world shouldn’t be expected to change, so that work could be more flexible to allow women to have families and still do something else with their lives.
He said he was open to women working and getting equal pay….but made it clear that he thought women couldn’t do the work a man could….because we handle stress differently..and cry.
He made it clear that if a woman couldn’t handle the cut-throat world, and the way that men harass each other (what a jerk, men don’t sexually harass each other and make fun of their period, or call them sugar tits, or hate them if they’re ugly or call them sluts if they’re beautiful) they should just go home.
Basically, he just felt they should take their crying, sensitive, menstruating asses home, or do jobs that they are suited to doing, like being nurses or teachers. You know, jobs that are good “woman” jobs.
I wonder if it has ever crossed his mind, ever, that he is describing that narrow asshole world of straight, able-bodied, Christian, privileged white men. That world that lets almost no one else in, unless they act like a straight, able-bodied, Christian privileged white man.
I wonder if it has ever crossed his mind that that hard-core, dog-eat dog world doesn’t have to be that way. It doesn’t have to be competitive, it could be collaborative. Inclusive. It could use teams, not just individuals.
Or, that women can be strong, intelligent, and competitive.
I just think that the world needs to find a place for everyone, and society (or maybe just Dennis Leary) needs to change it’s view of what success is, so that it isn’t about destroying or dominating everyone else.
Maybe it IS wrong to call your co-workers “sugar tits”, and then hate them for crying or hate them for demanding respect.
I also feel kind of sorry for Leary, because obviously his own identity is somehow wrapped up in his limited view of what being a man, and being a woman is. If he feels so insecure about women just going out and doing whatever they want with their lives, he must have almost no sense of who he is without a rigid role. Maybe he is really shaky on being a man in the first place, and is scared shitless of not having a really clear definition laid out for him.
It’s all sad, really. Sad that anyone feels like they have the right to tell people to just put up with “everyone in the work world” being insensitive and cut-throat. Sad that someone is put out that they can’t “joke around” freely with people (or, to call them racist, sexist things and treat them as second-class citizens that should never have real jobs).
If there’s any justice, he’ll come back as a woman. Maybe a black or Asian woman, with a disability, maybe a lesbian. 4 weeks ago