So I have not gone back to my initial weight (Thankfully) but I have been going up and down a couple of kilos since before Xmas. I think that’s mostly due to stress. I’m making this a priority again. My plan is to pretty much continue what I was doing before and avoid binge-eating chocolates and other stress-related eating. Maybe next time I’m stressed I’ll make some plain popcorn to chew on. 2 months ago
How I did it: The reason I started this goal was to try and build more internal strength and resilience to deal with every day parts of life. This is how I did it:
- Began to give more attention to my ideas and intuition, recognising my own value and self-worth. This was a journey in itself which required:
- Voicing my opinions to others and vocally standing up for my beliefs. You have to become your own supporter. I find the best way to assert your own value is by showing outwardly who you are. Some people will reject you - that's good! For every person who rejects you, 5 others will admire and relate to you.
- Often fear of rejection is a big hindrance to self-confidence; you might think that everyone is likely to reject you but in my experience (and I'm a neurotic and worrisome person at times) when you do speak up the overwhelming response is very positive and reaffirming.
- So what I discovered is that a lot of inner strength is tied with social interaction. This might seem paradoxical, but there is no clear distinction between internal world and external world- they are connected.
- This is why it is so so so vital that you don't spend much time around negative people. Someone always making sarcastic comments about your ideas? Dismiss them. Always finding a negative thing to say about the (neutral) things you do? Give them the boot.
- It is instantly easier to feel happy and strong if you surround yourself with positive people. These sorts of people reflect back to you positivity; you make an effort to look nice one day? They mention it. You have a quirky idea? They laugh and appreciate it. You bare your soul about something? They listen to you. I'm not saying they have to agree with you on everything, but it's easy to be positive even if you disagree with someone's ideas.
- It's better to be alone more often than to be with negative people. Good friends come over time and they are worth the wait. Bad friends are not worth the sacrifice of your own well-being.
- I also started taking practical steps; it was a lot easier to feel mentally strong when I started looking after the physical; making sure I ate healthily, dropped a bit of weight, felt clean and looked after my appearance. Taking control over your own health and appearance makes you feel stronger by itself.
- Books; unlike films, books offer you a real journey of exploration into your own mind through the author's world. Intellectual stimulation, while perhaps more about self-exploration and growth than strength, can help you feel invincible.
4 to go :-) But now I’m increasing the ambition to another 4 after that 7 months ago
I dropped this goal for a year (eek) and just took it up again about a month ago. Since then I’ve lost about 5 kilos, and I want to lose 8 more!
I’m more determined this time, myfitnesspal is great :) So is general research. 7 months ago
But I’m also incredibly grateful for the opportunity. 13 months ago
This internship has been incredibly stressful, but luckily it will be over by the end of the week, and I can finally relax!
The best thing about it is that it has been challenging, but sometimes the challenges have been quite stressful – dealing with passive aggressiveness, managing people (I really don’t like being a boss to anyone), being beneath a manager who can’t help me (because they are almost as new as me). It’s been… challenging. But okay. Very good hopefully for my CV, helped me gain a lot of insight into this sector.. but enough is enough, I’m ready to GO. 13 months ago
The good: Experience, both the good and annoying stuff is all a learning experience.
The bad: bosses who change their minds about what they want 2 weeks after you’ve started doing something completely different which you had both agreed on.
The good: Working for kids
The bad: not working WITH kids
The good: Bonding with colleagues
The bad: patronising CEO
The good: constant supply of tea and coffee
The bad: Sitting at a desk all day
The good: Money to pay the rent
The bad: going home in the dark
The good: leftovers for lunch
The bad: ...
The good: a massage chair in work!
The bad: repetitive strain injuries
The GOOD: knowing a little more about what you want to do with your life, and a little more about yourself 15 months ago
It’s taken me 2 years to complete this goal… I think something about counting my blessings every day irks me. Perhaps it’s the lack of original things to say; I’m grateful for my family, friends, love, sunshine, home, life, health. It’s the same each day, but for this I will put down one thing I’ve been grateful for each day.
Friday: I’m grateful for snow
Thursday: I’m grateful for my French teacher
Wednesday: I’m grateful for lovely leftover food and the people who make it
Sunday: I’m grateful for the invention of buffs
Today: I’m grateful for haggis, kind people and good friends 15 months ago
So I graduated this summer and I expected to find SOMETHING, however mundane, to do with myself while I figured out the next step. I found a part time canvassing job which I found daunting but enjoyed parts of. I started to get sick of the targets though, and working evenings became problematic when it started to get dark at 7. Then I fell off my bike and hurt my knee and can no longer cycle (which is integral to this job). In a way I’m glad, because I have time to actually think about what I DO want to do and I have the time to apply to interesting things, mostly internships, because those seem to be the only way to work within industries that interest me and develop skills that will get me somewhere someday. I’m still looking for a job, but I think I’m going to be a bit constricted by my crutches no matter where I go. I’ve also started French classes, which provide further purpose. Oh gosh this sounds depressing, but actually I’m doing alright. Still applying to jobs, usually to no avail, I’ve had two interviews which didn’t lead to anything. It’s not easy, it’s often lonely, and to any other graduates out there or anyone else currently unemployed, I know what it’s like. I’m a graduate with a good degree from a good university with four languages and plenty of voluntary work on my cv, and I’m struggling to get work doing basic admin work. Maybe shooting higher is a solution… or having patience. 18 months ago
How I did it: I spoke to a professional who told me to wash my face twice a day -morning and evening. This alone made a huge difference.