Hi Sophie! Thanks so much for your comment, it really put a smile on my face. I’m so glad that my story has helped you.
In response to your questions:
1) Definitely! My natural hair is so much softer, stronger and shinier than my dyed ends. (I think perhaps the natural hair that is immediately attached to the dyed parts is a little thinner, but not noticeably so – and I’m not sure whether this is simply due to my paranoia or whether it is really a little less healthy). But no, for the most part, my natural hair has been completely unaffected by the dyed sections.
2) Yes, I think the first ten months were probably the hardest for me (it almost pains me to read through those early posts!). It did get progressively easier, and I think that part of that was me coming to terms with my appearance, and myself in general. I have never been a particularly confident person, and trying to withstand other people encouraging me to dye my hair was what I found to be the most difficult part. Although well-meaning, other people’s comments battered my self-confidence and my determination. I got through the time by realising that I had to be enough for myself. I eventually learnt to accept that yes, I did have bad roots, but that that shouldn’t affect the way I interacted with other people. My biggest temptation was to closet myself away, and as you said – try to avoid any kind of event that I was invited to. But doing so actually just made me more upset because being with other people is what made me happy :) . So:
- Don’t avoid social situations, it’s not worth sacrificing time with people you like because of your hair. Even though it’s really hard, particularly at the beginning, it’s worth pushing through. Other people will get used to your decision and come to respect it, or at least forget about it.
- Make sure you use hair product that smells good. It’s only a little thing but it always lifted my spirits.
- Try not to focus on your hair. From your comments and my own experience I’m guessing that you spend quite a lot of time thinking about growing out your hair, but dwelling on it doesn’t speed up the process. (This is completely hypocritical because I did exactly the same thing. But try and keep yourself busy, and distracted).
3) I never cut all the dye out – hence why I still have a few ginger ends lingering around. I’ve always had quite long hair, and however much I hated my roots I couldn’t bring myself to have it cut shorter. Once you get to about 7 inches you won’t even notice it anymore
though, I promise. Just hold on in there! :)
Lastly, congratulations on your engagement! :) And good luck – I’m always here if you need a chat.