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Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous Sufficiency

2014 is My Year to FLOURISH! Thank you, Heavenly Papa!

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Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyThank You

I appreciate it, Todd. And you have been a wonderful pillar of 43T for me, and have taught me a great deal with your tact, and kindness!

God bless you and I am also glad to know you! 4 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyLIGEMS

I’m going to use the acronym of my name here on 43T. It’ll also be LIGEMS on PopClogs.

Just went there and will request.

Thanks! 4 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyFeeling Sad

Let’s stay in touch on PopClogs or FB. 4 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyThank You

Sorry, I didn’t see this until now. I appreciate it. 4 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyVery Good Points

I like that.

Yes, usually I am a good customer – giving great tips, sometimes even writing a letter to the company for really good service, giving good surveys, or I’ll sometimes even call back and tell them so.

I give good/great detailed reviews also on Yelp and 78% of my reviews are praising the companies, the people I’ve had to deal with or other things along those lines.

12% are really not good and for those that I write bad reviews for, they were given multiple chances to make things right.

As a customer, because I was brought up in the service industry, I’ve learned how I don’t want to be treated.

Sometimes despite being a good customer, some people really just don’t care about giving good service.

But, I agree with you post. Thank you! 4 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyEnd

Well, our vacation is coming to an end and most of it compliments of my mom. We have been staying at my mom’s house for the last part of our vacation since late Sunday night. We were supposed to leave tomorrow but we are opting to leave today, a day early.

It’s just too much of a cost for us. My mom at every opportunity finds fault to complain and criticize. It’s just way too much for us. All the way from “Good morning. How are you?” Seriously, how can you complain about that? But, my mom finds occasion to criticize and telling me that common sense would dictate that that’s the wrong thing to say.

Then, later as we entered the house and I said, “Hi, mom.” That was the wrong thing because I should have waited until I saw her. Well, I saw the car was in the garage and I figured she was home, so I didn’t need to actually see her as her house is kind of big and I didn’t want to go searching the house.

Such simple little things and she can criticize for those things. Can you see how she might be on bigger things. My sister and her are very similar, more so than her and I, but I do share some things similar to my mom and it just really hurts.

Actually, if you put everyone in my family together, she is more negative than all of us times 5-10. It’s just too much for us. My husband had to finally admit it was too much. It was him that wanted to stay here because my mom had a bed for us to sleep in, but it would have been better to stay at my brother’s and sleep on the floor for a week to have peace.

She’s made comments and jabs that my husband is not a good husband. Such as, she saw my brother grilling for our dinner last night. Well, that is the only time he helps with the cooking. The rest of the time, my SIL does all the cooking and prep, buying the stuff work. My brother is an awful disciplinarian and their kids are disrespectful, though we love them immensely.

They do have a really nice family, but their kids lack good discipline. I’ll have to admit, I’m not the best at consistency when it comes to discipline, but I am learning. My husband is very consistent and the kids are way better than they ever have been, though we have a ways to go.

If I would write everything my mom has complained, criticized about, I would be sitting her all the day, but we need to get ready to pack to head back home.

I love my mom and appreciate everything she has given us and done for us. She seriously needs counseling. I think interacting with her, I need counseling, but it’s not in our budget at this time. So, I will just have to make myself do EFT and pray, seeking God. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyFun

We visited Yellowstone for 4.5 days this past week. We stayed in Bozeman, MT, which was 89 miles from the west and north entrances. It cost us about 1/3 of what it would have cost us if we stayed in Yellowstone or near the west entrance. It was ridiculously priced.

We stayed at the Super 8 and it was pretty good except the bathroom fan never worked, despite me asking for it to be serviced. They said there was nothing wrong with it, but I beg to differ.

The breakfasts were decent at this Super 8. Most mornings I had biscuits & gravy, an egg, and yogurt. I would fill up for breakfast so I wasn’t as hungry during the day. We would eat sandwiches for lunch we made with food we would buy on sale at the store.

I even got a Smith’s card so I could get discounts and I also got a discount on gas, too. Yay. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyFun

We visited Yellowstone for 4.5 days this past week. We stayed in Bozeman, MT, which was 89 miles from the west and north entrances. It cost us about 1/3 of what it would have cost us if we stayed in Yellowstone or near the west entrance. It was ridiculously priced.

We stayed at the Super 8 and it was pretty good except the bathroom fan never worked, despite me asking for it to be serviced. They said there was nothing wrong with it, but I beg to differ.

The breakfasts were decent at this Super 8. Most mornings I had biscuits & gravy, an egg, and yogurt. I would fill up for breakfast so I wasn’t as hungry during the day. We would eat sandwiches for lunch we made with food we would buy on sale at the store.

I even got a Smith’s card so I could get discounts and I also got a discount on gas, too. Yay. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyLimit

I love Wall Street and the stock market world wide. Definitely not perfect and where you have huge money, you can bet there is corruption. I love watching movies about the stock market and though I hate profanity, I know most of the movies about the stock market contain a lot of profanity.

I mean, why is that? Is it because you handle and trade lots of money that that gives you some entitlement to every few words use the f* word or does that make you cool? I have occasionally used a swear word here and there and it’s totally unacceptable. My error and it’s out of insane anger when I do it, never out of just for the heck of it.

Maybe in cases where you’re life is being threatened or you’re in war, I can see it. In fact, I even went to a concert with Foster the People and I did not hear one swear word. I found that to be pretty cool and awesome.

I think one’s life is so much richer when it’s not riddled with profane words. I mean, the English language is very rich and there are so many better words to convey feelings. But, I find when people loosely use profane words, it really says to me that they really aren’t as intelligent as they think, nor are they cool.

I had borrowed the Wolf of Wall Street from the library. I thank God I did not pay money to rent or buy this DVD. I think it was within the first 5 minutes or so there were so many f* words, that I believe every other word was the f* word. Is that cool?

They were well dressed men and some women in suits, but it just made me think of trash. I’ve watched the Die Hard movies and they have way too much profanity in them, but the Wolf of Wall Street makes it seem like a Walt Disney movie.

If that wasn’t bad enough, Leonardo DiCaprio (sp?) was the Wolf and let me just say, he is among one of my least favorite actors in Hollywood. It was before this movie, but this one just clinched it that though he may consider himself talented and many too, I think he lacks good judgment and has poor character.

In one of the first minutes of the movie, it just shows him living it up and how great he is, how he spends his money on hookers, despite being married. In one scene, it shows this woman’s butt in the air as she’s bent over and he’s blowing drugs into her butt.

Seriously, was that necessary to even show that in the movie? It was rated R but that is WAY beyond R. Hollywood is always pushing the limits on things and I’m thankful that my son wasn’t around to see that.

Heck, I didn’t even know stuff like that existed and because I have a semi photographic memory, I am just asking that God wipe that from my memory. It is incredibly disturbing.

In fact, the movie I saw before that, which was Margin Call, one guy made 2.5M that year and he spent $76K on hookers.

I like the technicality of the stock market and the level playing field. But, maybe one of the reasons for so much corruption on Wall Street are people like these people who make tons of money, but have absolutely no morals.

You can openly cheat on your spouse, or be heavily into prostitution, drugs and you’re entrusted with millions, maybe even billions of dollars? These people can’t even have integrity in their own life, how can they be trusted with all that money?

Destroying lives is not cool. I’m going to think twice about watching any other Wall Street type movie because that Wolf one made me almost want to puke. The vileness of that creep.

Before he made it rich, he must have been a super creep. All that money just made him a rich creep. He makes me sick. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyFeel You

I can understand what you’re talking about. I gave up watching TV probably about 7 yrs ago when I was sitting with my then 3 and 6 yr old watching prime time TV and I don’t even know what show, but it showed something that I felt was not only against my morals, but had to flaunt it during prime hours.

That day I gave up TV just like that and I haven’t missed it. I am on the internet daily, but most of the time it is to work and aside from my blogs, 43T, PC, some FB, Pinterest, I don’t really even have time for all that usually.

I doubt you will miss the TV as there are tons of things to do and even there are times after I’m finished working that I haven’t even done any social stuff or it’s been many hrs.

I love personal interaction with people. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyElaborate

Can you elaborate more on this? 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyAgain

The last time I used HTTrack, it took many hrs and I couldn’t find any of my entries. I am waiting for a response from CandC because when I try to download Lifeboat, it says it’s malicious software.

I already had HTTrack and I followed Cora’s instructions on how to change things to get what I need, which is more than what I originally did because I didn’t know what I was doing when I ran HTTrack.

Thanks to CandC for the instructions.

Not sure what Ru is talking about 4 and 20 deep, etc, but I guess I will find out. I’ve been delaying doing this, but I need to get this done before I go on vacation at the end of next week.

So, hopefully all goes with the HTTrack backup and I don’t have to do anything else after that. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyTune Out

Can you just tune it out? My brothers seem to do this well, and even my sister, but I seem to not.

Guess I gotta learn. Thanks, A.

I’m a mom and I hope I don’t nag. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyThe Right Thing

I need to find the right thing to back up the things I want and I just haven’t had time. I hope that someone finds a good, easy way.

I know someone suggested HTTrack, but that hasn’t worked for me and takes me hours, so maybe I don’t get how to do the settings.

To do one goal at a time is just way too long.

If you find something that’s easy, please let us know. 5 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyLast Night - Dinner

We invited my mom for dinner last night. It’s her normal mode of operation to find fault and nitpick, while at the same time offering something good. It’s very confusing.

I know my mom doesn’t want any of her children, grandchildren, our spouses to have any stress, but honestly that’s not realistic. She wants to have no stresses in her life than the occasional thing. Okay. Not that I want to be overwhelmed in stress, but when you have kids, husband, obligations, you naturally have stress.

It doesn’t help that most every time she sees me that she says I work a lot. I know I work a lot. Most weeks, I work 7 days a week and many hours for little pay. It’s what I have and can get right now, as sad as that may sound. Often it’s not even minimum wage.

However, the plus side is I can do this work wherever there is my laptop and internet connection and though daily I have deadlines, I can choose when during that deadline to get it done. I can work in my jammies and I have no commute. So, those are the plus things.

I accepted the terms of the conditions to work for this pay and I do work extra for extra pay. It’s not much, but for now, it’ll have to do. I don’t constantly think about it. I’m reminded when I’m up until midnight working, like last night again.

However, I got to be around my husband and children for the day and when I took short breaks, they are around. So, I get to interact with them. Usually I try to look at the good side, rather than keep bemoaning what it is not, as that doesn’t help anything but put me more in a bad mood and attitude, which happened last night.

My mom is a CONSTANT nagger and I mean to the nth degree. It’s hard for me to take. I know the weight I gained earlier this year was because of her nagging and saying things that emotionally I couldn’t deal with it and just began eating. Last night after she left, I ate a Kit Kat bar. I wasn’t hungry. I just wanted to eat something.

I have a large stash of Kit Kats for my husband, which he loves and I hide in different places that he’ll stumble upon for sure, like under his keyboard. I asked him where he got the Kit Kat as he was enjoying it. He said his keyboard laid the Kit Kat bar. That made me laugh, which I needed.

Since I’ve been buying little treats for my husband for the past few months, I’ve not eaten ONE bar, until my mom. I almost started crying.

My mom is always so worried and concerned that I work too hard. Okay. I got it, but stop placing that on me. I already have enough stresses to deal with, I don’t need her stuff on top of that. That really, in comparison to everything else, is just too much for me.

My mom offered to send us on vacation of our choice (within reason) all expenses paid by her for however long we want. She assumed that I would get paid for my vacation from my subcontracting work and I said I am not their employee, rather a contractor. If I don’t work, I don’t get paid. However, since most days I don’t even make $40, taking a week off is $200 and the loss of that $200-$300 is more realized by the gain I would derive (as well as my family) from the refreshment I would get on the vacation.

Instead of just asking like a normal person and letting us figure it out, or asking if I could take time off, she went into nitpick that if I went and worked as a receptionist, I could be making more money. Well, yes that is true. And, I have applied for quite a few receptionist jobs. However, they require that you fill out a job history on the app and when they see my employment history, I think that already has them put in a pile of not to consider, because it’s really low level from what I’ve done.

I’ve applied at jobs as low as stocking shelves to being a high level technical manager and what I have right now is what I’ve been doing for the past year plus. I am happy that I can at least make money and to provide for my family.

Yes, we do shop at Goodwill, or we do take things that people give us, or I buy super inexpensive, or when people bless us with stuff, we are incredibly grateful, or we simply do without and just be grateful for what we have.

My mom kept harping that I bought too much tuna. Yes, we had like 40 cans of tuna. However, we do eat tuna several times a month and usually that will last us about 2-3 months. I would have bought more had I had the money, so we wouldn’t have had to buy for like 6 months.

I don’t buy a lot of things that are canned, but tuna, coconut milk, some Asian stuff, vienna sausages, tomato sauce/paste are basically what I buy canned and if they’re on sale (I know what are good prices), I’ll stock up.

My mom is a minimalist and she doesn’t cook anymore. She doesn’t need to. It’s just herself and if she’s in LV, my SIL sends food home for her to last for a few days. If she’s here, one of her 4 children will have her over and send her home with food. Or if she’s playing Mah Jong, then they have food there, so 2-4 days a week, she plays MJ. So, she has no real need to cook.

I have a family – 1 teenager and 1 tween.

When I wasn’t doing this job, I had less money and it was just child support. Yes, my dad does help out so much by providing us a place to live and that is super huge. We do pay rent, but not a lot. Our major expenses are the kids’ schooling & stuff associated with that along with extra curricular activities, gas, and car maintenance. We do eat out some, but not too much.

The first year the kids went to their schools, I wasn’t able to pay all the stuff and so the schools kindly helped us out. Last year we were able to pay for most of the stuff because of my job.

It’s because I nitpick on price and watch the sales/ads and take advantage of good opportunities. For about $16, I was able to buy 8 pairs of almost new khakis at Goodwill for my son for school. Unless he has a HUGE, HUGE growth spurt, this should last for this school year. Someone is donating to him the polos he needs to wear.

Our daughter, unless God sends someone to sell us used polos or give us polos, we will have to pay the new price, but I will negotiate a discount with the store as I did the year before for her sweater.

We pick up every penny (or any money) we see anywhere and save them. This has probably equated to over $300 in the past 7 years. We consolidate driving trips to run errands.

Like Albertson’s had cereal for $1 a box and the kinds we like. I haven’t bought cereal in over 2 yrs and the kids and my husband love cereal, so that’s our little treat. I bought 10 boxes of varying kinds. Yes, it’s an off named brand, but who cares?

It’s what I have to do right now and I am. It’s almost like a game to me. And believe me, I am incredibly grateful for her and others generosity. There are ways I can pay it forward, like we’ll be donating all my son’s school clothes to a family that can use it. I’ll be taking his clothes over next week to the school and asking Mrs. T to find a family or two that can use S’s clothes – from sweaters, vests, pants, shorts, polos (long and short sleeved). Some were given to us and others we bought used.

I think my mom is embarrassed that we shop at Goodwill, but we are not. She doesn’t say anything there as she knows that we cannot even afford Wal-Mart clothes. It’s okay. Because I find things that are better than WM clothes at Goodwill.

When she treated us to Red Robin the other day, I saw that my son was wearing a Ralph Lauren Polo pair of shorts and a nice dress shirt. I think I probably paid $2 for the shorts. I don’t know how much a boy’s Polo pair of shorts costs, but I’m pretty sure new is more than 10x that with tax. I’m pretty much NOT unhappy that I only spent $2.

And, even when we’re making good money, we’re still going to shop at Goodwill not because we have to, but because we want to. I was so incredibly happy that my daughter got to go to her graduation party looking beautiful and cute in a gorgeous dress and dressy shoes for how much? $7. Well, to be fair, it was really $6.98. No complaints here.

Yes, I get that my mom doesn’t want me to have to work so hard. Okay. Thank you, mom, but that’s what I need to do right now and I’m doing it. You’re constantly sarcastic and biting remarks are not helping. She could either say nothing at all, which really would help so much, or she could say she’s proud of me for being resourceful with my finances and providing for my family on such little money.

Her reaction always is shrouded in negativity. Today I’m not working out because I had a hard time sleeping. I need to do some EFT or something. I can’t function like this – when there is more personal interaction, that I eat to soothe, can’t sleep, etc.

God bless my mom. I love her, but I’m allowing her to make me an emotional wreck. It also caused an argument between my husband and I as he usually has empathy for my mom and saying I’m really defensive. My mom knows just all the right buttons to press to emotionally upset me. 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyCooling & Easier

So much easier for my dad to keep his house cooler and the electric bill better if he didn’t leave doors and windows opened. Instead, he cranks up the temperature of the thermostat to pretty high. Then, when it comes down, there is a HUGE temperature variance and the A/C is running for nearly 2+ hrs straight to try to bring the 8-10 degrees lower.

When he bought the house 5 yrs ago, it had some really big trees that helped shade the house, but he had them cut down. Sigh.

Guess he’s 85 and he pays the bills and he doesn’t have to make sense there. 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyYum

It’s been awhile since I’ve been to Thai Rama and awhile since I’ve eaten Thai food. :) 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyThank You

We’ll check into the stuff you suggested. Thank you so much! 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyWrong

What is wrong with people?

I’m so sorry about all this. I know how much you love all your dogs and I know it’s been a hard year for you in all this.

Hugs to you, HC! 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyOops

I wrote it down wrong. It is the D.G. Burger and they spelled it out on the menu in the restaurant. I believe it’s on the front cover. The D word is the same, but the G stands for Good. 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyBurger Name

G.. D… Burger.

My little niece is really a good reader. I think everyone in my family is a good reader and could read at a young age.

Movies weren’t even allowed to use swear words for such a long time until Gone With the Wind that started it.

Now, some movies have almost every few words foul language. I’m not saying that I’m perfect and have never used a swear word, but it was usually done when I was super mad.

So, I’m thinking some 5 yr old, 6 yr old that can read that starts using that at school and then gets punished for it or at home or says it out and about.

Who taught you how to say that? That was on the menu of Red Robin. Do people, companies not have any sense of decency and be a good role model? 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyDelete

Wow, I posted something to Red Robin’s Facebook page regarding them having a burger on their menu that was profane. It wasn’t a bad post, just a post expressing that my 10-yr old son and our family did not appreciate that. After all, it’s supposed to be a family friendly place.

I could see if it’s strictly a bar and no children, but it isn’t.

Anyway, they deleted my post, maybe because I listed the number to their corporate office. I don’t know, but why can’t people have the number to their corporate office?

I mean, what if they had a burger called “F* You” Burger. Yeah, that may be funny to some, but would you want to take your minor children there or have someone take your kids out to Red Robin and for them to learn that at Red Robin and then start saying that to everyone?

Yeah, that’s real good publicity, right?

Well, we did like Red Robin, but the fact they deleted my post, I don’t like that. They are in my DO NOT PATRON anymore. If they can take a stand for it being okay to give your burgers profane names that you don’t want your kids saying and censor those who disagree, of course they can.

And, of course, we don’t have to spend our hard earned money there. I’m sure last night my mom spent over $200 there, maybe closer to $300 there to feed 4 families. Well, next time, maybe we’ll choose Fuddruckers or some other burger joint. 6 months ago

Living In God's Exquisite, Miraculous SufficiencyPraying

Praying that your transition is totally smooth. If you were nearby, I’d carve out some time to help.

Packing when the weather is miserably hot . . . is not fun. 6 months ago

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