mrsrad

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I take a combination cal-mag-zinc. 1000 mg cal to 500 mg mag + whatever the zinc combo is. I take it at night, helps me relax and sleep. B-6 is found in many multi-vitamins but I would take additional, I think it was around 200 mg. I don’t remember the dose of evening of primrose oil, but it was usually just one capsule a day. I would also take chromium since I always had cravings for sugar 200 mcg/day. And a really great multi-vitamin.

Good luck! 1 day ago

to the OC. The meeting went well, the personalities are a good fit. But the position is one that isn’t well defined and I’m a little leary about such a situation. I’ve been in that situation before and its not worked out well. I’m not sure this is the exact right fit for me. A major part of the position is doing something that I really struggle with—business development. I’ve got the connections but have a hard time with reaching out with that goal in mind. Although I do have good market strategy skills, which they also need. If nothing else appears it would be a job, although not one that I would think of long term. I’m going to keep up the conversation and then see what happens. 2 days ago

And won’t be the last. It’s called pms. I had a severe case. I used nutritional supplements that made a dramatic difference. In particular calcium/magnesium/zinc, oil of primrose, B-6, and a few others. Made a world of difference. 2 days ago

For a day trip to Orange County for an in person interview. While this is not my dream job, and it would be my last choice of the three that are in the hopper, it would be a job. I’ve resigned myself to the fact that as an older unemployed adult I have little to bargain with and I need a job. I’ll take this one if it is the only one offered. It probably wouldn’t be a long term job but would be a way to be reemployed. I’m trying to tell myself that there is the right job out there for me, but my doubts are creeping in. 3 days ago

5 days ago

Did you enjoy it. I spent my senior year of college in the Petit Ecuries 6 days ago

1 week ago

3/4 of the way done and its only taken me 17 months. Hopefully I can accomplish it this year

1 week ago

I’ve been invited to an interview in Chicago (not that I have to move there) for the first week in June. I am in the process of scheduling an interview in Southern CA for sometime this month (again, not that I have to move there). I’ve not heard back from the interview I had two weeks ago. They said they still had first round interviews last week so who knows if they are taking forever (which my experience might lead me to believe) or I haven’t made the cut. Either way, I’m letting it go and trying to focus on the next thing out there. Hopefully something will work out. Well, actually something will work out. All in good time. 1 week ago

1. What was the last beverage you had? Coke Zero
2. Are you in a good mood? I’m not in a bad mood. I’m sure if I went to the gym I would be in a better mood.
3. Do you believe in psychics? kinda. There is so much more to this world than what we can grasp, so I don’t rule it out.
4. Is your current hair color your natural hair color? It similar with lovely red highlights
5. What’s the first thing you notice about people? their smile
6. Do you believe in love at first sight? NO! I you see someone across a crowded room and think that’s the person for me, run as fast as you can in the other direction. The attraction isn’t most likely for the healthiest of reasons.
7. What is your favorite brand of shampoo? Loma
8. 3 things you like about yourself?
my sense of humor, my drive, my spirit
9. Tea or coffee? either, it just depends
10. Do you make wishes at 11:11? Not really. I’m lucky if I notice. 1 week ago

I am also asthmatic. My developed with age. It started as exercised induced asthma and then progressed. If I get any type of respiratory infection I get myself to the doc pretty quick. I developed pnemonia once. I believe that mine stems from the fact that I lived with smokers for the first 3 decades of my life. I now use an asthma controler medication (dulera) so I only need the rescue inhaler when I’m sick or the allergens are really bad. I’m also now sensitive to scents-they can set off my asthma. I don’t understand why people insist on bathing in perfume to come to the gym (or at any time for that matter). Its tough to take even when I’m not breathing hard during my workout.

I hope you get better soon. 1 week ago

1 week ago

In-laws and outlaws.

So, how well do you get along with your in-laws?
My mother-in-law and father-in-law were already dead when I met dh so I never knew them. My brother-in-law is a strange bird. When we told him we were getting married he said “do what you gotta do” When dh and I were first together we lived in a 2-flat that he had inherited with his brother from his parents. We lived upstairs, he lived downstairs. We shared living quarters for 5 years before me moved to California. We’ve been her for 16 years. In that time my BIL has never come to visit. In the 24 years that I have been with dh, he has never sent me a birthday card or given me a gift. But having said all of that, I know that he loves me because I love and care for his brother. He has a good, but guarded heart.

How well does your partner get along with your parents?
DH got along well with my parents. When we moved to California, my mom and brother and his family was here so he was able to spent significant amounts of time with them. He helped me take care of my mom, he took her on her errands and he was there with me, holding her hand when she died. My mother adored him.

Do you freak out and try to clean the house for them?
I never freak out about house cleaning.

Do you feel inadequate, or do you fight (Or, do you really love them?)?
I love my BIL, he is a good man.

Do they do anything that drives you nuts (or something that really endears them to you)?
I wish my BIL would come to visit us, dh would love to have him here.

Was it always like this, or was it different when you and your partner were first together?
We’ve all grown closer as a family as time has gone on. 1 week ago

I know it will be a difficult day. I tear up just thinking about it. But through the grief of losing her I want to celebrate the incredible woman she was and how she shaped me into the woman that I am. 1 week ago

to find out the results! 1 week ago

1 week ago

I have only a few notifications to deal with—dmv, election, aarp. The money has been distributed. It was not necessary to file a tax return for her. It is essentially done, but I’ve just not done the last few items yet. Can’t bring myself to do them, and there is no rush. 2 weeks ago

If your house was clean and organised? If it already is, then I hate you.
~Don’t hate me because I’m OCD (not really). My house is always clean, at least clean enough by my standards. We have someone come in every two weeks to clean. It is money well spent. I hate to clean weekly but I love doing big deep spring cleaning. When I lost my job we kept our cleaning person on because 1)I know I will eventually go back to work and don’t want to lose our space in her schedule and 2) she still needs a job and if we can help keep her making money then its worth it.

What if your closet only had clothes that were nice, fit you, suited you, and were appropriate to your lifestyle?
~Pretty much. I try to keep only things that fit, but I do keep a few of my favorite pieces which are a larger size “just in case”. Thankfully I haven’t had to revert to those. And when I was heavier I kept my skinny clothes. As I lost weight I could shop my closet and it felt like a whole new me. Most of my work clothes are pretty classic so I don’t have to worry too much about styles.

What if they all fit neatly into your closet, without laying on the floor, or being so tightly packed that you can’t move them around to look at them?
~My clothes do all fit in the closet and drawers that we have. Mrrad recently cleaned out his side of the closet because I couldn’t stuff another item into it and things were just getting wrinkled. He donated his clothes to an agency that gives clothes to those in search of a job-nice professional clothes. Mrrad saw one of the shirts that he donated on one of his clients a few weeks later. About 8 years ago I had my bedroom closets outfitted with some really nice custome organizers. I can now put stuff in them neatly so that I know where stuff is and can find them. The closet in the second bedroom isn’t for clothes but other stuff, like suitcases, craft stuff, travel things, and one very special section design especially for my wedding dress which is, how shall we say, fluffy. And I so love that dress that I want to be able to see it whenever I want.

What if your kitchen table and kitchen counters were clear, and all of your dishes fit neatly into your cupboard?
~They are, although my cupboards need a good cleaning out and there are a few things that I will be donating.

All of your tools were in good repair, organized, and easily accessed?
~Yep—our place had a lovely workbench in the garage with peg board. I have most of the stuff that we regularly need up there right where we can see them. I recently cleaning out the cupboards and drawers and organized. It hadn’t been done in a very long time.

Your basement/attic/spare room wasn’t full of stored stuff?
~ We recently cleaned out the storage room and brought up a lot of stuff that needed to be gone through and gotten rid of. Those boxes are still sitting in the garage but I have gone through a lot of them and donated a lot, and took a lot of paper/receipts/stuff to be shredded last weekend. Our second bedroom usually became the place to stuff junk and then I would have to clean it out when someone came to visit. It has stayed pretty darn clean over the last year.

What would you do with your space? How would it feel?
~I always feel better when things are clean and organized. If they aren’t, it bothers me until they are. I am one of those people that like organized drawers and closets. Organized on the inside translates to organized on the outside.

And while things are pretty much organized you won’t find any photos of my closet in Real Simple. Now its time to go clean out some kitchen cupboards. 2 weeks ago

I hope to hear that George is improving soon. Being in the hospital is just not good for your health. From what you described it sounds like he overdid it on Friday and was very tired the next day, which meant his reserves were down, which meant he was more prone to catching an infection.

You are doing the very very best you can in very difficult circumstances. Perhaps once George is home you can tell your step daughter how grateful you are that she was able to be there so much which eased your mind while you had to work so you could be home when he comes home. It might be a kind and subtle way of letting her know what the plan is. Work is more important, it is a necessity to pay the bills. 2 weeks ago

I usually have smooth jazz on and don’t pay a lot of attention to it. If I am at a performance, I try to experience the music, sometimes wondering in my mind what the music looks like on paper. My brain works like that. I have to see the music on paper before I can play it. Mrrad, however, can play from just listening to it. He is now learning how to read. Maybe it is just a product of how we first learned music. I learned to play the flute and the organ and read music to play. Mrrad just listened and then played. I have a friend who is also a musician who first learned keyboards and when he was learning drums he need to have the charts to play. 2 weeks ago

Now that I’m in the hunt for a new job I want it now. Its been 10 months since I lost my job. I never thought I would be unemployed for so long. Of course, I didn’t expect that I would lose my mom in the middle which is why I’ve been taking a while to get back in the hunt. I am so grateful that I’ve had this time off. I’m still healing, but I’m doing so much better. But I want to get a job NOW even though I don’t really want to go back to work now, but soon.

Patience . . . all in good time. 2 weeks ago

2 weeks ago

Since my mom died. I’ve wanted to ignore the fact that Mother’s Day is coming this week. But my grief counselor suggested that rather than ignore it (which won’t really work anyway)that I find a way to honor it. I’ve been thinking about what to do. She was cremated and her ashes scattered in San Francisco Bay. There is no grave to go to. I thought about going down to the Bay but Sausilito on a nice Sunday afternoon will be crazy busy. I am going to send an email to the members of my grief group and see how they were planning on honoring the day since all but one had lost their mom, and of those, this will be the first Mother’s Day without our mom’s. But I learned today that the brick that I purchased to honor my mom at our city hall has been installed. It was a place where she spent a lot of time as a volunteer and advocate, and I will go there and leave a flower. I am also going to make a rubbing of the brick, and one for my brother, to have with me always, particularly since my brother no longer lives here. Then I realized doing a rubbing for my brother to give him is exactly like something my mom would do—give things to others that were important to her and she hoped were important to them. I just had a good cry. I’ve got a major migraine today, but I feel like I’ve found a way to mark the day on Sunday. 2 weeks ago

Exciting and terrifying all at the same time. One step at a time and breathe through it! You’ll be great! 2 weeks ago

North bay 2 weeks ago

meant to say Gavin Macleod rather than Gavin Newsom—the lt. governor of California and the the former mayor of San Francisco. Of course he does look like an actor, and some say that politicians are actors. But he was only 10 years old when the show went off the air. 2 weeks ago

kind words. I feel like things are on an upswing and am feeling pretty positive. I’ve always known that things work out exactly as they are supposed to, even if it isn’t what we think we want. I’ve seen it happen so often for others, why wouldn’t it also happen for me. It is so much better to accept the process, ride the roller coaster and have faith, doing the footwork that is required rather than fighting it every single step of the way. That is just too tiring and doesn’t change the outcome. Being in god’s grace and accepting it is a joy for the soul, even in the midst of the upheaval. 2 weeks ago

in Hilton properties, I know they have GREAT beds. Almost as good as home sleeping. Enjoy your first night on your new matress! 2 weeks ago