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And by that I mean being faithful to the agreed-upon terms of the relationship and not being deceptive or manipulative or coy. If the agreement is that you have an open relationship, fine, so be it. But if the terms of that open relationship are “No one from work and not on Mondays,” and you’re screwing the person in the next cubicle every Monday coffee break, then you are an a-hole.

I know people that have traditional marriages, people that are balancing relationships with more than one person, people that enjoy going to sex parties with their partner, etc. I am into strict monogomy, but you know, fine, whatever floats your boat. But you have to honor the boundaries of what your partner is comfortable with.

_{And anyone who cheats is also putting their partner at risk for STDs – even condoms don’t protect from everything!}

So, no. His ex is a jerk and I’m surprised he’s defending her. 3 weeks ago

the video for you – cool story premise! 3 weeks ago

Would you date someone or have you with political beliefs entirely opposite of yours? I would find it difficult.

Would you or have you dated someone who had poor knowledge of whatever the language you speak while you not knowing their language? I have dated a Russian, but he spoke English very well, though with a very heavy accent. That’s about as close as it’s gotten to language difference.

If you are a vegetarian, would you date a cannibal/if you are a meat eater, would you date a lettuce eater? I would date a red-meat-eater, as long as he didn’t expect me to cook it for him or cook it inside my house. (BBQ is OK.) No full-fledged cannibals.

Would you/have you dated a convicted felon (one who was NOT in prison during dating!)? I have not, to my knowledge. I would be inclined not to, but it depends on the felony.

Would you date an emu and if yes, what is wrong with you? No. I prefer my dates featherless.3 weeks ago

For those who are or have raised children, how would you describe your child rearing style? Protective, but not insulating. The goal has been to give him responsibility and freedom in corresponding doses – when he shows that he can handle increased responsibility, he is given increased freedom. Pressure to do his best (which is a bit of a battle), but not a tiger mom who expects constant perfection.

Do you prefer an annoyingly nerdy kid who screams out countries’ capitals in its sleep or a chaotic child who dislikes hw and rides a Harley? Um…neither? I like a smartass, but one who knows where the line is between smartassery and disrespect. My child is attentive to old folks and kind to animals, I think that says a lot.

Do you discipline/did discipline your child? Via cane or execution? Via torturous withholding of those things he desires the most. Gotta use whatever leverage you have, trust me on this.

Do you/did you let your offspring run nude with the wolves or do/did you have that beast chained to you 24/7? Chained to me, but it’s a long leash. He can run with the pack as long as I know the who, where, what, and when of it all.

Before you got knocked up/knocked up your wife/co worker, was your attitude towards children that of virulent hate or divine adoration? Ick. Neither. I just wanted kids.3 weeks ago

Love it! 3 weeks ago

space cakes?

And how does X make it easier to handle stupid men?

Curious minds… 3 weeks ago

...because I made the yummiest mushroom stroganoff tonight! I used to make this when Mr. Peabody and I were conjugated, but hadn’t made it in years now. Then I saw Alton Brown do his version on tv, and it triggered a craving. I did a few things differently:

I used finely minced yellow onion instead of the white part of green onions, and I used chives instead of the green part of green onions, because I didn’t have green onions (and I’m not very partial to them, anyway).

I used veggie broth, white wine, and tamari instead of beef broth, because I don’t eat red meat.

It looked to me like he used fresh pappardelle in his demonstration and called them “egg noodles.” There were no pappardelle at the market where I shopped this weekend, so I used regular egg noodles.

It all turned out SO GOOD, though I think it needed more mushrooms – maybe mine were smaller than his? Also, fresh pappardelle would be even more scrumptious.

I can’t list this under my goal of Recipes for Maintaining a Healthy Weight, because…well…duh. 3 weeks ago

::thud!:: 3 weeks ago

I don’t know what kind. Animals? Bacteria? Intelligent beings? But given the enormity of the universe, I would be extremely surprised if we were the only planet with life on it. 3 weeks ago

had a ginormous _{^{late, 1:00}} breakfast, too:

2-egg omelet with turkey, cheddar, mushrooms, and artichoke hearts (me – I couldn’t finish)
2 egg omelet with avocado and something-I-forget-what (him)

Hash browns, extra crispy (me)/regular (him)

English muffins (both)

Coffee (both)

I am thinking perhaps a smoothie is in order for dinner…! 3 weeks ago

My eyes seem to be frozen on Chocolate Caramel Bread Pudding.3 weeks ago

sound soooooooooo good…craving ‘em now! 3 weeks ago

took 6-8 weeks to heal. Be sure to wear sturdy shoes! 3 weeks ago

This is why I personally can’t stand public pools. In the words of the glorious Edina Monsoon, “I’m not dipping one toe in that smoothie of human excrement!”

3 weeks ago

fecal tea bag…”

LMAO!!!!! 3 weeks ago

It’s awfully cute-sounding. :-( 3 weeks ago

His isn’t sarcasm, just snippiness. But I made that same point to someone-who-shall-remain-nameless (not TripleB) who would always let huge ones rip right next to me and then say, “It just slipped out!” I said, “Really? You mean you can’t control your flatulent outbursts at work, either? Or is it just around ME?”

_{In that case I suspected it was passive-aggressive, but still…!}3 weeks ago

I’ve done that. It stinks. Sorry that happened!! 3 weeks ago

Duh.

_{Look for the 5-minute bobbers with the most angelic expressions on their faces. ;-D}3 weeks ago

has been a train wreck. Too many weird, off-routine happenings, tax return psychology, accidental automatic withdrawals that then got reversed back into my account, extra driving trips that were longer distances than usual, etc.

As an example, though, of how the envelope/cash only system helps: Today when I did my weekly shopping, I used my debit card and not cash. I also did not take the time to make a list. Even though I didn’t think I was buying that much, I spent twice as much on groceries as I do when I stick to the envelope system.

I will really need to buckle down again for May. No debit card, no credit card. (Except to buy new running shoes – mine are wearing out and you can’t put a price on preserving your knees!) 3 weeks ago

people who drive recklessly, whether in a car, on a motorcycle, or on a bicycle or skateboard. I ask that they are kept safe, and that they do no harm to others.

I wish people would just drive as if it were their children in the other cars on the road. Or keep in mind how their mothers will feel if they are harmed in an accident.

Even jerks need a blessing every once in while. If only for the sake of mothers and fathers everywhere. 3 weeks ago

when he is hungry, tired, or bummed out. It’s like those feelings over-ride his need to be pleasant and solicitous to those around him.

To make a vast generalization,I part of this is a male/female thing. I went to hear a scientist speak about differences between male and female brains, and it was very fascinating. She said that if you showed her two brain scans, she would not be able to identify gender. But if you showed her scans of two brains over time, she could tell with strong accuracy which was male and which was female by the way the brains developed.

One thing that female brains are more attuned to are nonverbal cues such as tone of voice. This is because they have stronger and more complex connections between the right and left brain hemisphere, and it is the right side of the brain that processes that information.

This scientist said that these are generalizations – you will find women with more typically “male” brain structures and men with more typically “female” brain structures – but a lot of the brain development is dependent on the same hormones that determine your gender in the first place, so the patterns of brain structure generally hold true.

Interesting, huh?

Though I still think you’re right – whether you’re male or female, a lot of it just depends on making the effort to use a kind tone! 3 weeks ago

I like the idea of a glass of water being drunk _{drank? drinken? lol! never sure on that one!} in my honor.

You will not be sorry with the smoothie! 3 weeks ago

I haven’t been getting as many of those micronutrients in as I am used to, and I think that might be part of it. Are you getting in enough of that stuff? 3 weeks ago

to have to deal with that at work every day…! 3 weeks ago

is getting so good! 3 weeks ago

Diplomatically of course. But better than enabling. 3 weeks ago

So true. 3 weeks ago

people who have never advanced beyond those years…! X-) 3 weeks ago

I already produced one, thanks to your list.

X-)

_{It’s about getting used to TripleB’s way in the beginning of our relationship – I wasn’t used to the strong-and-silent type.}3 weeks ago