Rejoined an old dating site I’d given up on before. Added new pictures every month. Took pictures with my camera for practice and kept the nice ones, replied to guys who sounded promising, and just about when I was going to give up again six months or so later…I started talking to an awesome new guy, we went out a few times, and now he’s my boyfriend :P 20 months ago
How I did it: First, I looked online for some free legal documents on how to do a name change. Then, I looked up my county's courthouse address, got my legal documents notarized and had a witness sign, and went to file my petition for name change at the courthouse (~$300).
Be careful about getting online documents and bringing them to the courthouse; when I went, they asked me to fill out their own legal forms and not something I'd printed off the internet, so that was annoying.
After you file, you get to pick a court date about two months ahead of time. The next day, I called the local newspaper's Legal advertising section (the courthouse gave me the paper's number and who to ask for, how nice!) and you set up when you'll be running your ad in the paper, since you've got to let everyone know you're changing your name. Mine ran in the paper once a week for three weeks, and that cost me $90. After they've run the ad, the newspaper will give you a certificate of publication, which is proof that you've notified the public about your impending name change, in case creditors need to know. On the day of your court date, you will need that certificate of publication, plus another document that the courthouse gives you when you file with them, which is the judgment for the change of name.
Always leave enough time for you to get to court! Bring all of your name change papers in a folder to keep them organized. Bring your debit card or cash to get a certified copy of your judgment paper after the judge has signed it. On the judgment form, there will be the room and time and date of your hearing. Get there before court begins session - just walk in those doors and sit down, don't wait outside. When the judge calls for everyone to form a line, get right up and go. When it was my turn in line, I came up to the judge, told her my first name and last name (spelling out the last name), then told her that I was here for a name change. They may ask you what line you are - that happened to me. If you don't know it, the courtroom clerk will.
Then the judge will ask you if you're sure you want a name change. Say yes, and they will ask you the standard questions: have you ever committed a felony, have you molested anyone, are you doing this to avoid creditors, etc. When you're finished answering the questions, they will tell you to pick up a certified copy of the judgment, and you're done talking to the judge. I sat back down and waited about thirty minutes for other people to present their cases, and then the clerk took me downstairs and I bought a copy from the courthouse.
Then you can begin by changing your important info - cards, memberships, etc. - you've done it! Yay!! :)
Read how I did it… 15 months ago
I’ve gone to meet with this one guy a few times now, and we’re going to the city on Friday together…but I dunno if I could count those encounters as “dates” or not. Yes, we are mildly interested in each other, but I don’t really want a long term thing with this guy.
In the mean time, there’s this online fella who can be really top notch sometimes. Our personalities jibe. But sometimes, he can be really emotionally distant, so I’ve written him off a few times now. But it’s such a shame; we can talk about pretty much anything. But he also lives two states away. Eh.
Now, besides the first guy and the internet fella, I’ve been on a dating site and have gotten convos going with a few fellas there. One was just kind of an ass, but I only talked with him once. I wasn’t impressed, though. The other guy almost seems too nerdy for me, but I kind of doubt that. (You’re looking at Ms. Dungeons and Dragons, watches Dr. Who and pretty much abuses the hell out of any internet meme that comes her way…lol!)
Then there’s this one guy’s profile that I saw today…he seems like almost a carbon copy of me, but just a guy. I was so impressed that I messaged him 3/4ths of the way down his profile (lol). I just asked him point blank in the e-mail if he had a messenger so we could get to know each other better or something. I got a good feeling about him.
BUT! Guy #1 (Friday date fella) is my sister’s friend, and our cousin, who knows him too, texted me the other day (jokingly? I dunno?) asking, “You official yet?”
I’m 21, no kids, Associate degree, and I…just kind of don’t want to be in a long term relationship yet. There are too many possibles in my life, and I don’t want to just “end up” with some guy and get derailed. So, that makes me in the “short-term” category. But what the hell is short term, exactly?
What makes this confusing is I’m gray-A – may be asexual or demisexual, but not sure yet…so it’s more awkward. I feel like every guy I talk to wants sex out of me. I’m not looking for that, exactly. I am looking for an intelligent partner who wants to do fun things together (activities, like going camping or parasailing) and cuddle.
Somebody make things clear for me!! I feel the pressure!! But it’s good to be back in the game. :) 2 years ago
After researching, I’ve found that my favorite option out of the two I was considering (T. Rowe Price vs. Vanguard) requires a minimum of $1000 to open. From my research, I’ve been looking for an no-load index kind of fund, and the T. Rowe Price Roth seems to have a lot more foreign investments made – which makes the fund more risky than the Vanguard. While I like that, because I would like my financial decisions to reflect my idea of being a global citizen, I’m still at a loss for which to finally pick. In the end, since I just finished my emergency fund, I can start saving at least a thousand for this goal, too. So that deters me a lot longer than June, seeing as I have a grand total of $0 saved for it so far.
I dunno when I will reach that thousand, whether it will be by the end of this year or the beginning of the next, but it’s still on my goals list. Going to make a separate bank account today to start saving up. Wish me luck! 2 years ago
How I did it: I started at my community college the fall after I finished high school. Three and a half years later, after getting kicked out of my house and enduring all sorts of crazy things, because I sticked to it, I graduated this May. I just took all the classes that were required for this degree, and then petitioned for graduation. That's it, really. Read how I did it… 2 years ago
March was madness, and a lot of crazy things have happened. I really mean to get to this goal in June.
I forgot that I already began a 401k at my current job. When I leave this job, I need to roll it over into my Roth that I will be making. I was inspired by Get Rich Slowly and Suze Orman to do this.
So far, I have done a little looking around, and this article in particular has really made me rethink my strategy. I think I need to consult with some more advice before June. Out of all of the places, T. Rowe Price has me the most confident, but I won’t put any chips down until June. 2 years ago
After finishing school (will update that as soon as I take a picture with my diploma :D), I have decided that I will keep undergoing my own kind of study (autodidactism) with the help of Susan Wise Bauer and her mother’s books, The Well-Trained Mind and The Well-Educated Mind. Will come update this goal and switch the priorities around a little in the near future. Count on it! :) 2 years ago
How I did it: I have always bitten my nails until a few months ago. I planned to stop biting many times and never went through with it, and a key part in why I couldn't stop was because it was a stress coping mechanism. I would be lying if I said I wasn't really stressed sometimes in the last few months and had no more mechanism to cope with it. I kinda freaked out a lot.
What really helped me was noticing how my nails hurt so bad when I had bitten them to the quick, and to resolve to not cause that on myself anymore. Another really important thing was to have enforcements and alternatives to biting. Mine were
- Carrot sticks or gum when I wanted to put something in my mouth.
- $3 No-Bite polish every day applied to my nails. The taste was so horrible every time my fingers were even near to my face that I did not bite my nails even once.
The no-biting part was good after that. But I also bought a cheapie nails kit to do shape and groom my nails: a metal file, a cuticle pusher, a 4-in-1 buffer block, and a little metal nail clipper. I put them into an old glasses case and kept them out for whenever I felt bothered by how my nails looked, because if I got discouraged, then I wanted to wreck my progress. Another thing that bothered me was that I didn't want my having nails to make it difficult to open things or type, and the solution was simple: when they get too long, I file them down or clip them. :) Read how I did it… 2 years ago