Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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SarabandAnd from Bob1623

  • Judy MacDonald Johnston: Prepare for a good end of life
  • John Legend: ‘True Colors’
  • Charlie Todd: The shared experience of absurdity
  • Faith Jegede: What I’ve learned from my autistic brothers
  • JD Schramm: Break the silence for suicide attempt survivors
  • Jane Chen: A warm embrace that saves lives
  • Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days
  • Ernesto Sirolli: Want to help someone? Shut up and listen!

Thanks Bob! I’m sure there are loads on these lists that I’m missing out on :) 3 months ago


SarabandFrom Dragonfly's list:

  • Antonio Damasio – The quest to understand consciousness
  • Temple Grandin: The world needs all kinds of minds
  • Graham Hill: Less stuff, more happiness
  • Julian Treasure: 5 ways to listen better
  • Joan Halifax – Compassion and the true meaning of empathy
  • Karen Armstrong – Let’s Revive the Golden Rule

Hope I get to watch all of these! 3 months ago


SarabandIdeas and Inspiration

From Cornucopia’s completed list:

  • Drew Dudley: Everyday leadership
  • Chip Conley: Measuring what makes life worthwhile
  • Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability
  • Chip Kidd: Designing books is no laughing matter. OK, it is.
  • Evelyn Glennie: How to truly listen
  • Benjamin Zander: The transformative power of classical music
  • Dan Buettner: How to live to be 100+
  • Janine Shepherd: A broken body isn’t a broken person
  • Jessi Arrington: Wearing Nothing New

Makes me want to start watching right away! 3 months ago


SarabandIdeas from others

I’d like to take the opportunity whilst it’s still available to read through the lists of those who have completed this goal and take inspiration from what they’ve enjoyed or found worthwhile. A nice way of linking with some favourite 43ters too :) 3 months ago


SarabandTransferred

This goal has ‘travelled’ to PopClogs. It’s journey may prove to be well-timed: with the flat sale completed (soon -soon) it will be time to revisit priorities :) 3 months ago


Saraband 5 months ago


SarabandAnother goal to close

I plan to remain on 43t for as long it’s open but I’m also thinking forward and thinking about establishing my list on popclogs. I’m still undecided about capturing my past entries from this site but I do know that anything significant I write now will also be posted on popclogs so there’s little point in trying to catch up here. I shall post what I want, when I want :) 3 months ago


Saraband 9 months ago


SarabandUntitled

Starting the process of closing down goals. This one started well but I’ve not kept up the recording of new experiences – and if I’m honest, I’ve not kept up the momentum to have new experiences. There certainly have been some that never made it onto the list but I’m closing this goal for now. I suspect that making time to list experiences is less important to me than having the experience and maybe writing about it. (Which amuses me a little, knowing how much I love lists!)

Marking as done :) 3 months ago


SarabandDiscomfort

I’ve made real progress with this focus. Pretty much all of June has provided opportunities to practice!

:D 3 months ago


SarabandGet Things Done

28th June

The drama that is our life at present ended on a positive note yesterday. And over the course of the day I achieved far more than I’d anticipated. It may be that things will settle down a little now.

I have a day’s holiday today. I won’t be using it in quite the way that I’d chosen but instead I’ll continue as I left off yesterday and Get Things Done. Plus I’m really tempted to go shopping for the new jeans I’ve promised myself…

Today’s Focus: get things done, reclaim some routine

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choicesadequate

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challengedays 18 and 19

Read

1 glass only

MeditateI tried. That’s a start

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min

Solo walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

spend time with Clnot much time needed today

message J

ring Mum and Dad

House and Garden:

laundry

gardening

bathroom brush-up

whip round upstairs with Henry, duster and polish can

Shopping:

jeans?

Misc:

follow up re missed T voucher

consider and act re prime membership

Queued:

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:
Family party tomorrow! 3 months ago


SarabandFriday 27th June

Friday morning. The morning after the night before. I am up early; B & Cl are still sleeping. Hard to know what today will bring: the situation is such a mess and frankly unfathomable. I shall focus hard on noticing joys and gratitudes today.

Friday evening. It feels rather like we are living in a soap opera at the moment: so much drama. And we’re certainly living on shifting sands: nothing stays the same for more than a few hours. But for today at least, change is progress :)

Joys, gratitudes and happiness:

  • soft sunshine after rain
  • kindness and support from Cellar staff: arrangements made to shuffle my work days this week to provide transport for getting Cl to appointments if necessary
  • Cl and her mother have spoken: a successful meeting
  • B and Cl’s mother have spoken: a significant step
  • kind words for me from Cl’s mother: that took grace and courage
  • catching Murray’s match :)
  • achieving a number of little things. Little things add up

“In the book of life, the answers aren’t in the back.” ~ Charlie Brown, Peanuts3 months ago


SarabandThursday 26th June

Thursday. The sense of oppression that marked the start of yesterday had melted away by this morning. I embarked upon this last Thursday of June feeling quiet and joyful, with a spirit of hopefulness and acceptance. It ended very differently.

Gratitudes, joys and happiness today:

  • soft sunshine, gentle cool breezes
  • the view of the shady border from the French windows
  • a new book begun (the delicate translation of an Irene Nemirovsky)
  • deciding to “take the day off” and spend it with Cl as it was her last day here
  • remaining outwardly calm when the call came from B to say he was turning around and going back to retrieve Cl for the third time in 10 days – less than 30 minutes after returning her to her mother’s this evening
  • having the skills and the temperament to listen and support; remembering the Golden Rule
  • B’s restraint and dignity in the face of his own pain and anger
  • rain
  • sleep. When it came.

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind always.”Plato3 months ago


SarabandFTF: Garden 15th to 25th June

Circumstances have meant that tackling just 20 minutes of weeding a day has slipped down the agenda. However I have made more progress than I imagined: one long border and the greenhouse bed have been weeded fully which leaves just the long shady border to tackle. And I’ve been planting. I still keep on acquiring plants too, but overall the list of plants awaiting a permanent home is diminishing.

We now have our new garden furniture which is a joy. I love it! The garden can now be used rather than simply worked on. It has a human face and belongs to the house.

Over this past week the shady border has burst into colour. Tall foxgloves climb from the mass of foliage at the top end of the border: native speckled pink, and creamy white, self-seeded from the originals bought and planted two years ago, and much-loved by the bees. The lime-green fronds and pinpricks of white self-sown feverfew peek through the branches of the lilac bush. Ladies mantle, planted as the tiniest of plantlets, now billows and spills along much of the border’s edge with its frothy yellow blooms softening and masking the coarse leaves of the foxgloves.

The fragrant, creamy philadelphus is in bloom also but is lost behind the rampant growth of aconitum which will come into flower next month I think. I shall need to either move the philadelphus or train it into more upright habits for next summer.

Further along the roses have really come into play, rivalling the geum for attention. These roses were not well-chosen – or were not chosen at all – but they’re putting out a brilliant show this year regardless. And geraniums – cranesbill – in shades of pink, blue and white intermix with everything.

Forth Bridge Tasks

weeding

watering

edgesB tackled these at the weekend. It makes such a difference :)

deadheading

QUEUED

tidy front garden

tidy greenhouse

plant lavender

plant dahlias1 has been planted

plant new penstemon

transplant existing penstemons

plant new achillea

plant bluebells from Dad

transplant contorted hazel sapling

replant patio tubs

replant front tub

plant out verbenas

plant out ammi

plant remaining bedding plants

plant new arrivals from Mum

“There is in all visible things… a hidden wholeness.”
- Thomas Merton 3 months ago


SarabandCheer cheer cheer!!

So exciting! So glad all is well :) 4 months ago


Sarabandoof!

Poor you! I would be stressed too! But keeping it in perspective is the thing to do. Hopefully you will have a better day tomorrow!

:) 4 months ago


SarabandSo very sorry to hear this

My heartfelt thoughts reach out to you. Wren’s eloquence says everything I’d like to say and more.

Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time

(((((Kimber))))) 4 months ago


Saraband(((hugs)))

This is wonderful, Meridia. Honest, heartfelt and true. Just as your father showed great courage in working through the anger that kept him locked in bitterness, so you have shown great courage in stepping back, seeing the changes and telling him how you feel and felt.

Your post tells of forgiveness and pride – and also I think, of love.

I salute you both :)

x 4 months ago


SarabandYay

for the new tent :) 4 months ago


SarabandA trouble shared

27th June

My cherished day alone is not going to happen today. B drove Cl home last night as arranged and she left happy and calm, only to beg him to come back and get her before he’d got even half way home. There are some serious issues within that family dynamic and the fears that B has harboured for the past 8 years over the situation for his daughters appear to have been well-founded. I have no idea how this situation will pan out. I fear it may not end well. I hope I am wrong.

Yesterday was a non-starter so far as getting things done was concerned. I lost the morning to the laptop as Cl slept until noon and I was reluctant to risk disturbing her. We spent the afternoon talking and watching some tennis. The evening was lost to drama.

Today is likely to be a repeat of yesterday I suspect. But for my own sake it’s imperative that I get back some of my normal routines. My life has been suspended for the past 10 days: diet, exercise, household chores, my own family needs… B has elected to work from home today which I’m pleased about. He is exhausted. I am exhausted too – we are all worn down from what’s going on and what’s coming into the open.

Although I am tired, I’m also very calm this morning, and accepting of what this day will bring. It’s almost impossible to predict and I’m going to make no hard and fast plans beyond doing what I can that is ‘normal’ and being available when called upon.

I cannot see a path ahead but perhaps that’s just as well: this is not my journey; I am merely a fellow traveller who can hopefully carry some of the burden.

Today’s Focus: Cl and B. Take each moment as it comes

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choiceshurrah!

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min

Solo walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

spend time with Cl

buy and post card for Vtoo late -will send text instead

Admin – flat:

await call from agentsdidn’t hear yesterday – follow this up AM

House and Garden:

laundry

gardening

clear the ironing

bathroom brush-up

whip round with Henry, duster and polish candownstairs

Shopping:

Run errands in town

Misc:

follow up re missed T voucher

consider and act re prime membership

Me:

try again to order some good jeans for myself (failed after hours of trying yesterday)

Extra Brownie Points For:

text R

email S

email C

email Dad re loan

banking

bought steam cleaner

bottle bank

Queued:

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:4 months ago


SarabandWhat a great list!

:) 4 months ago


SarabandYes

I’m on popclogs and it will become my primary site when we lose 43t. I like its feel and do find it has quite a community within it now. There are some VERY quirky goals if that’s what you’re looking for! 4 months ago


SarabandWhile the sun shines...

26th June

Yesterday was a day which climbed steadily from a fairly low starting point and ended with joy and thankfulness.

It was hard work; I was tense and slightly resentful to begin with. It was a good feeling to watch this tightness melt away; an even better feeling to see Cl triumph over her anxiety demons and a better feeling yet to have a truly positive call from my estate agent! The day was wonderfully topped off by a warm, stimulating book club meeting with relaxation and laughter – matched when I got home by the relaxed joy in the faces of B and his daughter. I went to bed happy :)

It seems that Cl is heading home this evening. We shall see how this plan evolves. Before that I need to broach a couple of delicate matters with her at B’s request. I’m hoping too, for another call from the agent with firm news on the timescale for the sale. Other necessaries are mostly domestic and garden related. At Cl’s insistence I took an hour in the garden yesterday rather than cleaning. I’m pleased that I did so; it did me more good than cleaning! As the weather is forecast to turn tomorrow, I’ll try to do the same today.

The timing of Cl’s departure means I won’t get my group walk again tonight but that can’t be helped. I may try to make time for a quick couple of miles here. And it would be lovely to watch a spot of tennis. I promised myself I’d watch Wimbledon this year. Day 4 today and so far I’ve seen not a single ball!

Today’s Focus: Cl. Some cleaning, finish ironing, garden. Ideally some tennis

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choices

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min

Solo walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

spend time with Cl

buy and post card for V

Admin – flat:

await call from agents

House and Garden:

laundry

gardening

{color:green} clear the ironing

bathroom brush-up

whip round with Henry, duster and polish can

Shopping:

Run errands in town

Misc:

follow up re missed T voucher

consider and act re prime membership

Me:

watch tennis

Queued:

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:

The possibility of a day alone tomorrow :) 4 months ago


SarabandWednesday 25th June

Wednesday 25th June. The first of five days off work. These little interludes seem to come around so regularly; I love the way I’ve organized my leave this year! This one is going to be different of course, with Cl here and B at work. I am craving solitude and downtime which is simply not happening at the moment. This is not easy.

Joys, grats and happiness:

  • sleeping in a little, then taking tea back to bed and finishing my book
  • talking, talking, talking… and finally Cl was able to make the calls that were causing her such stress :)
  • sunshine – without the humidity
  • precious laptop time – the opportunities are becoming fewer
  • the gifts have arrived for my nephews – I’m really pleased with them
  • a late-afternoon call from my agents – my buyer finally has a mortgage offer! Things could move fast now :)
  • an evening walk to and from book club under silent summer skies: animated conversation; good wine and wonderful cheeses; a welcome diversion from the eggshell tensions at home
  • coming home late to the relaxed and shining faces of B & Cl. They’d had a good evening too :)

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind always.” ~ Plato~ 4 months ago


SarabandCheer!

Thank you, AFtC, I did sleep well last night and today is a brand new day.

Thank you for your kind wishes.

I like the quote too :) :)4 months ago


SarabandJust keep going

25th June

Yesterday never got started as far as this goal was concerned. And it’s already afternoon today and I’m still not started. Cl’s presence takes a great deal of time and energy: paradoxically she is no trouble yet very high-maintenance. B had a bad day too yesterday. I feel I’m walking a tightrope trying to pick my way between them and support whilst remaining on the periphery. A delicate balancing act.

With 5 days at home ahead of me now, this would normally be a time of replenishment and catching up on chores etc. I shall try and get something done today besides being there for Cl. And I must get a form back to the estate agents that has been languishing since last week. This evening is Book Club, which will offer some welcome relief.

Today’s Focus: Cl, B, as required. Some cleaning, some ironing. Necessary admin re flat. Ideally some downtime

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choices

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min6600+

Solo walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

spend time with Cl

quick chat with Mum and Dad before their few days away

text with my sister C re her birthday

Admin – flat:

complete and return form to agents

follow up re council tax

cheque to T for work re flat

House and Garden:

1 hrs ironing

bathroom brush-up

whip round with Henry, duster and polish can

Shopping:

receive and unpack shopping

Misc:

follow up re vouchernot necessary

Me:

Book Club

Queued:

clear the ironing pile

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Extra Brownie Points For:

gardening

Future Focus:4 months ago


SarabandTuesday 24th June

Tuesday. A better day at work. A tough evening at home.
Joy, gratitude and happiness today:

  • kind enquiries from my manageress
  • lovely customers
  • after work catch-up with S, admiring the engagement ring, hearing about her wedding plans
  • feeling that I’ve eased things a little for B & Cl – neither of whom had an easy day
  • rich red wine
  • sleep – which feels like my only escape at the moment :)

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.”Charles Dickens4 months ago


SarabandMonday 23rd June

Monday. It was hard to get myself into work this morning. We had to leave Cl at home on her own all day. Not the easiest of days for a variety of reasons but there’s always something to be grateful for :)

Joys, gratitudes and happiness:

  • sunshine. And a little less humidity
  • although she found it hard, Cl coped
  • the nasty accident that befell a customer at work was dealt with professionally and with care and compassion
  • I found a sweet little plaque to hang in the kitchen
  • feeling useful

‘When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.’ ~Marcus Aurelius4 months ago


SarabandFinale

Yes, we skip the commercials too. We’ve caught up now. I liked the fact that all the lose ends were tied up. (Or killed off…)

:) 4 months ago


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