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10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

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SarabandIt will come

:) 1 month ago


SarabandRu~...

You understand that you now have a deadline for hanging that mirror? No pressure or anything, just that some of us won’t be able to move on if we have to leave here with it still unhung :-o

;)

hope you’re feeling better today :)1 month ago


SarabandYay!!

I am glad you are you and back where you should be. Our online world would not be the same without you :) 1 month ago


Saraband(((Kimber)))

My thoughts remain with you.

Stay strong, patient and open.

I make no claim that this is the right poem at the right time – only that it resonated with me today and I hope in some small way, it might do the same with you :)

Take good care, my friend

x

Wild Geese

You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

Mary Oliver1 month ago


SarabandI guess...

... we just don’t want to lose you :)

x 1 month ago


SarabandCheer!

Wonderful to have found your calling. Good luck with this, aaeeeiiii

:) 1 month ago


SarabandPlaying catch up here

So you have probably posted since this one and if I was patient and read I’d find out more anyway, but – hope the storm did not evolve in such dramatic proportions, and that you and yours, and your property, are safe (and dry!)

:) 1 month ago


SarabandDragonfly...

I am not going to analyse my reaction to reading this post, I’m simply going to act on it as best as I can in our 43t world, by sending you an enormous

((((((hug)))))!

Your post made me feel so happy for you! :)1 month ago


SarabandIt's June; it has to be Pimms and Strawberries!

20th June

Yesterday was difficult and frustrating. I found a comfortable place within myself eventually, by remembering that I had promised myself not so long ago that I’d take time this week to be gentle on myself and less pushy. So I relaxed into sitting with Cl and let the other – trivial stuff – go.

Calls with R & E did take place however, and left me concerned. Especially over E. The smallest of alarm bells is ringing. That said, a much larger alarm bell is sounding in regard to Cl. Here I have some big concerns. This is not quite how I envisaged my Thursday unfolding…

But now to today: Friday. B took Cl back to her uni digs impossibly early this morning and I’ve had my precious solitude for several hours. It’s like sinking into a warm bath :) But time now to get myself going. I have 3 friends coming round this afternoon – specifically for one of them who really needs some company and distraction but is struggling hard to allow others in. I’m hoping the forecast comes up trumps and delivers the sunshine we’re promised. I’m thinking Pimms and strawberries in the garden might be nice :) Even as I write this, the skies are brightening. Fingers crossed…

But first some shopping, some cleaning, some laundry, against a background of reflection on events of yesterday. I’m accepting that the ironing pile is beating me hands down at the moment. But I simply must make a decision on gifts for J & A…

Today’s Focus: give garden party.
Sounds so much nicer than ‘have friends round for tea’ ;)

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choices

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min

Solo walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

enjoy time with Ka, Ba and P

touch base with R

check on E

follow up with Cl

House and Garden:

laundry

whip round with Henry, duster and polish can

bathroom brush-up

garden

finish setting up new garden furniture

Shopping:

quick trip to market and supermarket

find and order birthday gifts for J and Afound at least

order toothpaste

Misc:

follow up re voucher

Queued:

clear the ironing pile

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:
Work again tomorrow. Retain balance 1 month ago


SarabandThursday 19th June

Thursday. This day – what was to have been my only clear day of quiet and solitude – now contains Cl. A strange day in many respects, challenging in some ways, sad in others… concerning, confusing – in fact ultimately baffling. With peripheral events adding their own twinges of unease. Deep breaths…

Joys, gratitude and happiness:

  • various phone conversations with various family members. Protracted, convoluted conversations with Cl
  • the garden furniture has arrived and B very sweetly put the table together despite everything, because he knew I hoped to use it tomorrow with friends arriving. All I need now is some sunshine tomorrow
  • a tiny sparrow having a dust bath
  • hearing Cl address her father as “Dad”; seeing B’s face after she’d asked (aged almost 20) for a goodness kiss
  • wonderful news of the medical variety from a long-suffering friend
  • Harri – always a source of comfort and solace
  • patience and compassion – for myself and for others

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” ~ Charles Dickens1 month ago


SarabandThe book is ...

... Blackberry Wine by Joanne Harris. (Best known as the author of Chocolat.) She’s an author I’ve long wanted to read but somehow never got around to. A while back a book of her short stories was chosen for our book club and I was very disappointed by it so I’m happy to have this second bite of the cherry.

Blackberry Wine is the current book club choice and it’s my first novel of hers. It’s not great literature; it’s an easy read but well-written for the most part with an engaging story line, a sprinkling of nostalgia and a spattering of humour, pathos, magic and originality.

My only beef is that I have to have finished it my next Wednesday evening and I’m not getting the luxury of taking my time and savouring. There are occasions when I wish I was a speed reader! 1 month ago


SarabandSmiling

You do make me smile GM – in the nicest possible way :)

I imagine your garden is beautiful. I’m feeling much better about mine since picking up this daily weeding habit. Events this week have meant there have been 2 days when I couldn’t work my weeding session – ooooh the frustration! And the satisfaction when I have been out there is brilliant!

I’m trying to apply similar principles to the garden as in Smile at the beauty I see in the Mirror. I need to stop looking so hard at the bad parts and instead enjoy and celebrate the good parts. And when I look at it as a whole it’s these good parts that need to jump out at me rather than the other way around. I’m working on that! 1 month ago


SarabandWednesday 18th June

Wednesday. I’ve been looking forward to today: lunch out with two dear friends. The weather got better and better; the venue was perfect. Just what was required to recharge :)

Much joy, gratitude and happiness today:

  • a lie-in with a wonderful book. I’m so enjoying it
  • getting back on Popclogs – timing entirely unconnected with the news re 43t. There are people there I’ve missed. And new icons :)
  • good company; chat and confidences
  • the National Herb Centre – beautiful venue on a beautiful summer’s day
    with yet more plant purchases ;)
  • B’s happiness at seeing his daughter for the first time in over a year (only the 2nd time in 2 years if memory serves)
    His happiness helped me set aside my own negative and suspicious reactions to her sudden reappearance and expectation that we would be ready, willing and available to entertain her with no notice
  • self-compassion for my aforementioned negative and suspicious thoughts
  • compassion for Cl and her current struggle
  • a lovely evening with B & Cl
  • being able to empathise, listen, encourage and not judge
  • sleep

‘Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me. I vow to live fully in each moment.’ ~Thich Nhat Hanh1 month ago


SarabandUnexpected visitor

19th June

Lunch out yesterday was perfect; the weather and setting and company combined. Two important calls interrupted proceedings though: one from the estate agent with encouraging news, the other from B with unexpected news. His daughter, Cl, wanted to come for the evening and possibly overnight. It required some internal struggling to subdue the feelings of righteous indignation at the lack of notice, disregard for our plans etc. This will be only the second time we’ve seen her in over 2 years, and B’s pleasure was enough to stop my churlishness at having my own lovely day disturbed by the need to get home, change beds etc.

I now know that Cl has come for space and support. Always an anxious young woman, she has developed OCD. Her hands are raw with the constant scrubbing. She’s only recently sought help and it seems that there is a good support system in place through her GP and her uni. In the 7 years I’ve known B, Cl has never stayed overnight with him/us. Last night she did – and she’s still with us now. So B is at work and Cl is watching tv and I’m readjusting my plans and hoping I’m supporting her in the right way. Not quite the Thursday I’d expected :)

Some things must go on today around Cl. The garden furniture is arriving any time and I hope we’ll have it in situ this evening, though it’s cool and cloudy at the moment so this may not be its inaugural evening. I’d like to continue catching up on Popclogs and keeping abreast of events on 43t but not sure I’ll get far with either today. I really do want to catch up with R though, and tame the ironing pile, and there is soooo much I could be doing in the garden. It’s ideal gardening weather too. Ah well…

Today’s Focus: give Cl what time she needs, slot a few chores around that

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choicesnot possible

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass onlyremarkably!

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min

Solo walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

chat with R

catch up with Mum and Dad

spend time with Cl

House and Garden:

clear the ironing pile

laundry

clean shower

garden

set up new garden furniture

Shopping:

continue search for birthday gifts for J and A

order toothpaste

Misc:

follow up re voucher

Extra Brownie Points For:

chat with E

Queued:

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:
Think through what’s needed for tomorrow’s afternoon gathering here. Scale it down if necessary. 1 month ago


Sarabandno. 5

Makes perfect sense. I’m in a similar space – I too have a list of those close to me who are struggling with things right now. Once there was a time I would have crumpled under the combination of guilt and the burden of carrying everyone else’s problems. It’s taken me a long time to learn that I can’t carry another’s problems; I can only walk alongside them. And matching their level of fear/worry/misery doesn’t help them, it only makes my efforts to support less effective.

Being strong and peaceful within yourself can only make you more compassionate, not less :) 1 month ago


Saraband(((((kimber)))))

Dearest K,

Sending much love and warmest thoughts for you all. Keeping a special place in my own heart for you at this dark time.

xx 1 month ago


SarabandTuesday 17th June

Tuesday. The chapter in which I slept well and briefly, waking every morning filled with energy and enthusiasm has definitely closed for the moment. I suspected as much for the past few days and this morning I’ve woken after broken sleep, feeling tired and heavy, with aching limbs and the start of a head cold. No matter, the cycle will turn again :)

Joy, gratitude and happiness today:

  • for this quiet mid-June Tuesday with birds a-plenty around the feeders
  • even after just a short space of time, the garden is looking so much better for my daily weeding sessions
  • opting not to walk this evening; accepting that rest is more important today
  • property programmes on tv. I’m watching less and less television these days but there are times when slumping on the sofa is the perfect activity of choice
  • looking in on Popclogs this morning – first time in ages it seemed; and then reading the confirmation of 43t’s closure. Sad to read this of course, but grateful that at least I now know and can process and plan accordingly.

“Joy is not in things; it is in us.” ~ Charles Wagner1 month ago


SarabandMonday 16th June

Monday. A bit of a struggle but I got there :)

Joys, happiness and gratitude for:

  • a long, long sleep. Clearly needed it
  • this mid-June Monday morning: soft sunshine and gentle breezes
  • feeling mellow and comfortable at work. It was a welcomed quiet day
  • walking when I’d rather not, followed by my promised weeding session which I most definitely didn’t want to do. Happy that I stuck with the plan and did both!
  • the Book of Days I picked up for a song at work today. I love it and know exactly what I want to use it for

‘When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.’ ~Marcus Aurelius1 month ago


SarabandLadies what lunch

18th June

I was right about yesterday: it was a struggle – one that I gave into once work was over. Kept the hair appointment but didn’t tackle the walk. Instead I opted for chilling out time in front of a string of property programmes – so my evening comprised of relaxation and some gentle day-dreaming. Didn’t attempt the weeding slot either – but will make up for it today I hope.

And so to today. Still not 100% so the focus today is self-care – replenishing some misplaced energy – with a sandwich filling of lunch with dear friends. Shaping up for a lovely day :)

There is also of course, the news about 43t. For today I’m going to let that lie. Time enough, fortunately, to think about savings entries etc…

Today’s Focus: restoring the energy reserves, time with friends

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choicesate out lunch and evening – did not make healthy evening choices (though it was delicious)

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps minjust

Solo walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

lunch with S and P

House and Garden:

clear the ironing pile

laundry

gardengot the weeding in at least

Shopping:

finish shopping order

continue search for birthday gifts for J and A

order toothpaste

Me:

Drop the pacewhere I could

Misc:

follow up re voucher

renew library books

Queued:

chat with R

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:

Keep the pace gentle 1 month ago


Sarabandcheer

Tho I haven’t got any. You about sum it up 1 month ago


SarabandHappy happy birthday!

I know it’s late but the wishes are no less heartfelt for that. What a lovely day you had. May it mark the start of a special year for you :) 1 month ago


SarabandPianos

What a great idea! 1 month ago


SarabandJogging along gently

17th June

Yesterday was a bit of a struggle. I think today will be also. Nothing significant to add to today’s list: just chipping away at the same small things. Still looking for the right gifts for my nephews but I have some time as we’ll be taking them with us when we see them at the end of the month. So cards can go today, presents to follow. Squeezing in a hair appointment between work and walk – good use of time although I may regret it if the wind is strong while we’re walking! And looking forward to some good things later this week and to dropping the pace down a notch to match my energy levels.

Today’s Focus: jog along gently

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choicesI made the choices I seemed to need last evening. Thus they were not low-carb, sugar-free etc but were consciously chosen. No ill effects this mornings (other than blood sugar of course)

Make healthy work lunch

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min7000

Group walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

get cards in the post:

House and Garden:

garden

Shopping:

finish shopping order

Me:

Hair

Misc

follow up re voucher

Queued:

chat with R

finally clear the ironing pile

find birthday gifts for J and A

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:

Lunch with friends tomorrow :) 1 month ago


SarabandSunday 15th June

Sunday. First day in a long while that I haven’t noted down gratitudes as I go. So – retrospective gratitude, joy and happiness for:

  • this muted subdued grey Sunday. Why is everywhere so much quieter when the sun isn’t shining?
  • getting things done. Though it made much of Sunday feel like drudgery; it’s a good feeling at the end :)
  • fledglings a-plenty!
  • the new garden furniture is on order and will arrive on Thursday. Hooray!
  • taking some time for myself. And getting an early night!

‘When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.’ ~Marcus Aurelius1 month ago


SarabandSleepy start to Monday

16th June

I think perhaps the weeks of short nights are coming to an end: I went to bed very early last night and slept through B getting up and leaving for work this morning. Still quite sleepy now. There are things that must be done this week, and several nice things to look forward to as well, but around that I’m going to try to be gentle with myself. If energy levels are slipping I shall give myself the opportunity to replenish them :)

I cleared 4 of the 8 items on the queued list yesterday. I’m happy with that. Cleaning up the chairs is clearly going to take longer than I thought so that one will be around for a while. I’ll tackle it one chair at a time. The remainder will be done over the course of the week.

My queued list makes me smile: I have a master list on my pc – now there’s a queue. Some items have been sitting there for years! But if I stick to the rule that once something makes it onto this list it has to be tackled, then I shall see progress without feeling the weight of the loooooong list lurking in the background :)

This morning I need to address some administrative errors that the accounts dept of the rental agency have dropped in my lap. And I must make a decision and act on gifts for my nephews. Beyond that, it’s a working, walking day (with a 20 minute weed session tossed into the mix as well).

Today’s Focus: resolve gifts and errors, be kind to myself

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choices

Make healthy work lunch

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretches

5000 steps min15000

Group walk4 miles

TODAY:

Admin – flat:

Email agents re cancelled insurance

Email agents re their attempts to collect rent that isn’t due

House and Garden:

gardendaily weeding session

Shopping

find birthday gifts for J and Aongoing

Misc

follow up re voucher

Queued:

chat with R

finally clear the ironing pile

final clean of plaster dust: chairs7 out of 8 remaining

Future Focus:

Jog along gently 1 month ago


SarabandIt helps!

Thank you!

I took a look at your blog. Love the theme – so clean. And I like how each goal is a category.

I’m really tempted to do what you’ve done and go through from the beginning. Or maybe from the start of this year, or from when I returned to 43t last autumn. Decisions, decisions! I’ve toyed with a “life blog” for the last couple of years. Maybe this is the time :)

Thanks again, Meridia. Great inspiration and hopefully the push I need to get started. 1 month ago


SarabandStriding through the miles

A good week for walking. Another 16.5 miles clocked: 5 walks, 2 solo, 3 group. None were particularly long but it all adds up. I’m enjoying the combination of slower (and chattier) group walks and fast-paced solo sprints. Hoping for another solo sprint today.

So far this month – 19.51 month ago


SarabandFTF: Garden 14th/15th June

Sunday
I was pleased to get even a little achieved in the garden after work yesterday. It’s cooler out today so I hope to tackle a few more items on the queued list. Though of course, more things must be added all the time so the queued list is a forth bridge task in itself.

Today’s photo: the fledgling patio bed

Forth Bridge Tasks

weedingsunny border almost finished

watering

edges

deadheading

QUEUED

tidy front garden

tidy greenhouse

plant lavender

plant dahlias

plant out verbenas

plant out ammi

plant remaining bedding plantssome

plant new arrivals from Mumin situ ready for planting

This weekend’s achievements

50 mins hard weeding

transplanted primroses in readiness for planting up front tub

add o more to patio tubspleased with how they’re looking now

replant front tub

agree garden furniture with b

sweep and clear front and porch

“There is in all visible things… a hidden wholeness.”
- Thomas Merton 1 month ago


SarabandQuell that Queue

15th June

Good Morning Sunday! The usual early start to what seems likely to be a greyish day. But an upbeat mood prevails. It’s going to be a good day :)

I’m liking the notion of thinking one day about the focus for the next. I woke today knowing what I want to achieve. Today I plan to quell that queue. Too many things there and they need to be dealt with. A key thing is to find presents for my nephews’ impending 18th birthdays. More difficult with twins. I made a good start yesterday, browsing in the Cellar during our dead period. So I may not achieve this one today, but I’ll definitely move it forward by browsing a while online too. Plus it’s Father’s Day so a call to Dad is important. After that it’s the usual things with hopefully a little time to chill a bit too.

Today’s Focus: Father’s Day, present progress, queue quelling

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” ― William Morris

DAILY:

Mind, Body, Spirit

Set daily goals

43t

Popclogs

43 refugees

Test blood sugar levels

WLR

Make healthy food choices

Take supplements: black cohosh, calcium, kerela, greens

Gratitudes

Happify

Forgiveness Challenge

Read

1 glass only

Meditate

Power nap

House and Garden

Tidy

Bathrooms

Shine sink

Cat corner

Water plants

Feed birds

Exercise

Stretchesand planks

5000 steps min5000 just

Walk

TODAY:

Relationships, Friends and Family:

Ba, P, S

call Dad on Father’s Day

ring C

chat with R

reply to CM

House and Garden:

garden

finally clear the ironing pile

Henry’s workout

bathroom brush-up

shoo out the spiders, flick duster around

House and Garden 2: revamping the dining room

final clean of plaster dust: chairs1 out of 8

clean dining room windows and doors

Shopping

continue birthday gifts hunt for J and A

Misc

follow up re voucher

Cooking

cook two curries

Me:

make time for down time

Extra Brownie Points For:

book shopping delivery slot

Queued:
Apparently nothing! :D

Future Focus:
Make a decision on presents, flat businesssigh1 month ago


SarabandSaturday 14th June

Saturday. A muted start to the day both in the weather and at work. But life is far from muted for me :) Still so much to be grateful for.

Joys, grats & happiness:

  • sleep. I slept so deeply that it was mid-afternoon before the memory surfaced of being jerked awake at least twice by the tremendous thunderstorm that raged in the early hours. I woke only long enough to ask where Harri was before returning to the land of Nod. Heard plenty about it all day though: the storm grew more ferocious with every telling ;)
  • the freshness of the air after the overnight rain
  • work: a strange day – we were empty all morning because of the town carnival and manically busy for the last few hours. Many customers were short-tempered today – perhaps because of the heat. Grateful that I was able to meet their tetchiness with smiles and goodwill
  • cocao nibs and toasted coconut – great new low carb snack :)
  • energy and vigour once work was over – garden and walking time

‘When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.’ ~Marcus Aurelius1 month ago


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