3) To the natural history museum, Hamleys and Harrods in London
4) To a swimming pool with slides and rapids
5) To the Dorset seaside
6) To the library to pick out a book each.
7) To charity and vintage shops to find old treasures and bargains.
8) To a homely and old fashioned tea shop for a cream tea.
9) To the woods/countryside for Sunday afternoon walks.
10) Cake baking – just for fun and to make a really impressive one on their birthdays.
11) Over to my siblings’ houses so they can grow up being friends with their cousins.
12) To Camden Market
13) To the Zoo
14) To the aquarium
15) To Paris to show them where I used to live and my favourite places to go.
16) Camping, even if it’s only in the garden.
17) Let them choose seeds from the garden centre and plant them together in the garden so they can watch their flowers grow.
18) Get a paddling pool for the garden to play in in the Summer.
19) Buy the oldest a doll to play with when the next baby is born, so that they have their own baby to look after too.
20) Make hand and feet print pictures in paint to remember just how small they were.
21) Keep a height chart with marked ages on the wall.
22) Have pancakes for breakfast on special occasions.
23) Make home videos of them learning to walk.
24) Make a scrap book together of photos and other memories.
25) Go on a boat trip.
26) Teach girls to plait and do their hair.
27) Go to the cinema
28) Go to the theatre
29) Read to them every night.
30) Sing to ‘Sweet baby James’ to them when they can’t sleep.
31) See my parents at least twice a year.
32) Go to the park
33) Feed the ducks at the river.
34) Go to the London Dungeons.
35) Teach them to ride a bike.
36) Watch Disney films together.
37) Give them baths with bubbles to play with.
38) Have a family meal as often as possible.
39) Put their drawings up on the wall.
40) Make a blanket fort.
41) Go to fireworks and have sparklers on Guy Fawkes night.
42) Make a design and carve a pumpkin together on Halloween.
43) Send them valentines cards on Valentines day.
44) Take them to buy Fathers’ day presents.
45) Get my mum and dad to record them a tape of them reading a story so it can be kept forever.
46) Do an Easter egg hunt for them.
47) Make treasure hunts for them with lots of clues.
48) Play car games on long journeys.
49) Have picnics when the weather’s nice.
50) Fly a kite together.
51) Play poohsticks
52) Play hide and seek.
53) Read Beatrix Potter books, The Mr men series, the Maisy series, The moomin series, Dr Monsoon Taggert’s amazing finishing academy, The cuckoo clock, Roald Dahl books, Harry Potter books.
54) Go fishing.
55) Get a pet.
56) Get my old clothes and toys down from my parents’ attic.
57) Have a tooth fairy purse to put the money in for their milk teeth.
58) Watch the snowman and father christmas cartoon on Christmas day
59) Go to church on Christmas Eve. 16 months ago
From what I can see it’s possible to see the Northern lights from several different countries.
It’s not possible to know then the lights will occur so unless you’ve got all the time in the world, it’s ‘book your trip and hope for the best, you could easily be disappointed.
Booking some sort of package deal with guidance about where to go is mythically expensive, but going blindly could easily result in a disaster.
What is one meant to do?
I really, really want to go.
Anyone? help? 16 months ago
Starting from September I will be doing my postgrad study and though this means further loans and a grant to cover about a third of my tuition fees, I shall be supporting myself, using my savings and the money I worked for.
Maybe I should feel dread or worry at losing the financial help my parents have given me during my undergrad, but I actually find it strangely liberating. I am taking control and responsibility for my own life and it makes me feel independent and powerful, like I’m taking on the world alone! 18 months ago
... It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
I have always felt that I wanted that crazy feeling of needing someone to breathe, being challenged, having your world turned upside down. I thought that’s what I needed for someone to keep my attention, let alone for me to love them.
I have always had this fear of committing to someone, for fear that if this current relationship wasn’t right, then I’d be letting my soul mate pass me by in the mean time. In all honesty, I think this has only lead me to push people away, to draw them in and then suggest they’re not good enough because of my own irrational anxiety.
Yesterday I told my boyfriend who has been patiently ‘seeing’ me, with ‘no pressure or committment’ for three months, that I wanted us to be together officially, completely out of my choice, because I love what we have and I want it to last.
I have a good feeling about this :) 19 months ago
A couple of months ago I realised that things had become so bad with one of my oldest and best friends that it looked like perhaps the damage was irreparable. So I decided to write her letter.
I sat for hours, jotting down key points that I wanted to make sure I made, changing the wording, thinking, crying, apologising.
It’s amazing to me how easily things can deteriorate. We both did some regretable things, but when everything is subjective, to step out of ourselves in order to try and see it from the other person’s point of view becomes increasingly difficult. I often find myself overthinking things, thinking that if I forget to do something or misjudge something then it will have terrible consequences when of course, it usually doesn’t. Other times things seem to fall to pieces where I never would have predicted it. It’s always the way I suppose.
In this instance I found myself picturing moments in the future I want her to be there for. I want her to be a bridesmaid at my wedding, I want her to be a god mother to one of my children.
Thanks to our now, exchange of letters, I think that’s going to be possible
:) 19 months ago
Gah…this is going to be paaainful.
Wish me luck! 23 months ago
Conversation with the ex about what being in love truly means.
Nothing could be more helpful for getting over each other!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXU00WFsAlM 23 months ago
This does sound like a very sensible attitude, I’m going to try to see it that way too.
Hope you continue to go forward with this too!
Oh, and you have some brilliant goals on your list! 23 months ago
I removed ‘lose weight’ from here in favour of this…just because I think It will actually do me far more good to accept myself as I am than obsess over being thinner.
Literally…I wish I could just accept myself and stop picking at my every imperfection.
blah, being a woman! 23 months ago
how oh how do I go about doing this? please send help :) 23 months ago
One minute past midnight…happy Christmas.
Even though we’ve agreed being friends is the best thing for both of us now, I’ve never wanted to tell you I love you more than now.
You said you’d like it if we still spoke regularly, every day even…
Well, since we made that decision, 2 weeks ago, we must have spent the equivalent of 24 hours on the phone trying to talk everything through so we can move on…
I still really, really haven’t.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWcyIpul8OE 23 months ago
It was really nice to know someone out there is feeling like this and is giving their support.
Nice not to feel so alone about it.
I hope you manage to fix things, seems like there’s still hope there! 23 months ago
I can’t tell people what I’m most worried about, what I feel insecure about, when I have feelings for them…
Something pretty common, I’m sure…but there should be at least one person in the world who you’re able to do that with.
New biggest aim. 1 year ago