My domain name is stephanie-beth.com :) 6 months ago
How I did it: I had some gift money from relatives for Christmas in 2012, so I brought the perfume then, from strawberry net. Since I brought a few items I got a free sparkly eyeshadow :)
The perfume is nice but not really my taste. Still, it's nice to support an artist I love, and get reminded of her every time I smell my wrist. I guess the main reason it wasn't worth it is because it smelt nice but it was really expensive and not really my style. Read how I did it… 13 months ago
How I did it: My New Years Resolutions for 2012 were:
-Go to Parachute (christian music festival)
-Go hot air ballooning
-Get a massage
-Improve my prayer life
-Read the whole ''Message Bible''
-Swim with dolphins
-Read 50 books (I did about 35- I stopped counting after a while)
-Get a job (so close! but then my doctor said I'm not allowed to, because my medications were changed, and I got an additional diagnosis of ADD and Aspergers on top of my Bipolar)
-Buy an iPad
-Learn my land line/cellphone numbers
-Buy a wide angle lens
-Save up for a flash
-Make 100 new recipes
-Watch a live sports games
-Keep my blogs up to date
-Get my full licence and do a defensive driving course.
In the end, I only brought an ipad and a wide angle lens and learnt my phone numbers. It was a disappointment year as far as goals go, but I suffered from terrible depression and anxiety, settled into a different country and lived with my sister for the first time in five years, so it was a big adjustment period.
I didn't go to Parachute because I'm a bit freaked out, and no one close to me was willing to go, and I probably wouldn't have been able to afford it. I didn't go Hot Air Ballooning because it wasn't a big priority, and it is expensive! I didn't get a massage for similar reasons. I did not improve my prayer life, probably because I do not believe in God or love him anymore, although I would like to, so I will keep fighting! I didn't read any bible in depth either. I didn't swim with dolphins, because we spent most of the year inland, and didn't have money when we went away, plus I don't know if anyone would have done it with me. I didn't get a job, but I polished up my cv, got my name in 2-3 recruitment/tempting agencies and built connections. I also got more confidence in interviewing for jobs. I didn't save up for a flash, because money has been very tight and I didn't end up doing as much photography as I thought I would do. Flash photography also adds a huge learning curve to photography, so I didn't think I was ready or interested enough to spend $600. I didn't make 100 recipes, but I tried about six. Most of them were very difficult recipes and ended up being huge disasters! I didn't watch a live sports game, because I probably didn't have anyone to go with, I'm not that interested in Sports, and I'm not up with local events. I did not keep up to date with my blogs, because I wasn't getting feedback on them, and I have felt really depressed and unsure of myself, although I have written on a lot of forums, about things that could be turned into good blog posts, easily. I didn't get my full licence or do a defensive driving course, but I did hire a driving instructor for six lessons, and read through the road code once. I am now comfortable driving myself to many places. Read how I did it… 23 months ago
How I did it: As long as I've wanted a car, I've wanted a GPS. I hate reading maps (and I'm not great at it either!), and I'm terrible at taking heaps of instructions.
I got an ipad with the hope of using it as a GPS, among other things, but my dad said ''no way'' because then I would have to get 3G, and that would be expensive. It was disappointing for me.
I never asked for a GPS, I just figured it was something I would buy second hand when I got desperate, or had brought everything else I wanted or needed. To be honest, I didn't ask for anything for Christmas this year, so I had no idea what to expect.
Having a GPS will be an interesting experiance, because I recently found out that I have Aspergers, so I have trouble judging distance, weight etc. Something telling me to ''turn left in 20 metres'' will probably leave me dumbstruck. How far is 20 metres exactly?!? Read how I did it… 23 months ago
2. See two movies in a row
3. Go in a row boat under the stars
4. Make pizza and icecream together
5. Paint ball!
6. Take a cooking class
7. Go dancing
10. Bake Off
12. See a Basketball game together
13. Take a pottery class
14. Have a movie Marathon
15. Go to a costume party (or a million)
16. Go in a hot air balloon
17. Road Trip!
18. Go hiking
19. Make a gingerbread house
20. Go snorkling
21. Collect shells
23. Go whale watching, swim with dolphins
24. Board games
25. Just Dance on Wii
26. Do a 5k event together
28. Candle lit dinner
29. Go to a concert
30. Make-out at the back of a movie
31. Picnic under the stars
32. Fly kites
33. Go to a fair
34. Go to an Amusement park
35. Go swimming!
36. Play cricket
37. Drive motorbikes
50. 23 months ago
How I did it: I got a xtrainer from my parents 3 months ago, for my 23rd Birthday. I've struggled with my weight all my life, but before I got diagnosed with Bipolar II, I had lost a lot of weight, by joining Weight Watchers, living on my own and exercising my butt off!
When I got put on Epilium, my weight when up another 30 kilos! I was already 25 kilo's overweight, so as you can imagine, I wasn't thrilled!
My dad got a cheap xtrainer in England, which I started using for an hour every day, until my sister came over from New Zealand with Chocolates for me. While she was there, we went out for Turkish, had Indian at home and lots of treats. I stopped working out for a while and my weight continued to go up.
In 2012, I resolved to reach my goal weight once and for all. For a month, I walked for two and a half hours a day, but I didn't lose any weight! I had also resolved to have the best year of my life, but instead, I had a nasty falling out with a friend on New Years day, and then on and off for most of 2012, I had suicidal thoughts and wanted to die. I had lost ten kilo's in the last year of England because I had been sick for a week, then I started doing lots of walking and cross training. I put all of that weight back on in 2012, plus another 5 kilos!
I realised that my life was awful, and it was time to sink or swim. I couldn't continue with things the way they were, so I talked to my parents, and they got me a psychiatrist, and I found a free women wellness coach.
Around September, someone posted an advertisement on facebook for cheap exercise equipment. There was a 24 hour sale, and everything was discounted by 50%! I combed through the website carefully, and decided what I wanted. I found a indoor bike, and a xtrainer. I didn't have the money to buy them, but I am very persuasive when I want something, and knew if someone would lend me the money, I would find someway to pay them back by the end of 2013! I came up with a proposition for my parents and showed them. They spent a while talking, then told me they would be willing to lend me money for the xtrainer only (couldn't see the point in a bike!) because it was something the whole family would use, and my dad and I both used the one we had in England, but had to give away when we moved home.
When we first got the xtrainer, the monitor didn't work properly, it squeaked like crazy and the screws kept falling out! I guess you get what you pay for... I spent a few weeks in despair, thinking I would never get to use it, then I made a complaint to the website I brought it off. They sent me some information packs about the squeaking, and told me I'd have to keep re tightening the screws for the first few uses. Then disaster struck, and my dog tripped over the power cord and pulled it out from the machine! Originally the website was going to send a repairman out for free to fix the problems I was having, but I made the mistake of telling them what I assumed had happened (I wasn't there when the cord broke, so I'm assuming it was the dog who did it...). The lady on the phone for the company was really rude to me saying it was my fault, and they wouldn't supply a mechanic. I was really worried. Regardless, they sent out a replacement cord and monitor. I tried dissembling the xtrainer myself, but I couldn't pull it apart.
I gave up, and started using the xtrainer without the monitor. I still got a good workout if I stayed on it long enough!
My mum paid for some guys to come out and do some repairs around our house, and mentioned my xtrainer. One of them saw the faults in the machine immediately and replaced the power cord for me. The xtrainer worked again! Unfortunately it was still squeaky.
My plan had been to watch movies while I worked out, but the machine made too much noise! I had to play loud music in my headphones to drown out the noise! I didn't really like being on it, so I only ended up using the xtrainer once or twice a week for a while. Sometimes I would do up to four days in a row, but I just got really demotivated. My eating habits were mostly bad, I would go through short periods of being good.
Last month, I complained to my dad about the squecking for the millionth time, and he suggested oiling it! He told me to get some CRC spray from the garage. He sprayed it on every visible screw. Unfortunately, it still squcked! I was irritated, because there were hundreds of reviews for the xtrainer online, and they all raved about what a good product it was, and how it was so quiet, they could watch tv while they were using it!
I got on the xtrainer the next day, and it was finally silent like promised! I was so happy! I didn't end up using the machine for about a week after that.
I started using the machine more after that. It also didn't bother me as much when other family members came in to use it, because it was quieter, so if I was having a nap, it didn't disturb me!
I made a few challenges for myself. Use the xtrainer backwards for a certain period of time. Use the handle bars as well as the pedals for a specific amount of time.
Do a mixture of xtraining and rowing.
I have achieved one of those goals so far! It's funny, because the xtrainer was always one of the machines I hated using the most at the gym! The other was the rowing machine. I guess it takes some getting used to. I'm hoping to get down to 80 kilos so I can run a 5k without damaging my knees. I'm still a long way off, but maybe by the start of 2014, I'll be ready! Read how I did it… 23 months ago
How I did it: I decided who I would shop for. I decided to buy something for one of my friends, everyone in my immediate family, my Nana, one of my Aunts and whoever would show up on Christmas day.
I talked to my immediate family to see what they would like, and tried to buy exactly what they wanted.
For 8+ months, I have talked about getting my mother a slow cooker, but she picked a really expensive one, so I don't have the money to get it yet. It will be useful for the whole family. I was going to get her the Big Bang Theory season 5, but it was too expensive. I ended up getting her a bird cage accessory holder, in white. I got myself a black one, and she liked it, so it seems like a safe gift.
I brought a stocking and my sister said she would fill it. I asked her to get mum to sew my name into the top part and my mother said ''I will not play into her silly, childish fantasies.'' I was pretty offended by that, I haven't had a stocking/pillow case from ''santa'' for over ten years now, and my cousins who are much older than me STILL get them from their mum- plus their mum spends like $200 on each one. I was kind of upset, but then my other sister found out about it, and also liked the idea, so she made stockings for both of us sisters, and her boyfriend who will be joining us on Christmas day. My other sister is also making me a stocking, so now I'm making two stockings for my siblings as well. I have nearly finished, and they are awesome now! I am kinda jealous, I wish I didn't have to give them away. Read how I did it… 23 months ago
’’Sometimes you have to look at what you want for yourself. Not because you think anyone cares if you succeed, not because you think someone is watching or will reward you somehow, and not because you are going to get recognition.’‘
-Isn’t this kind of the point of 43things? To set goals and accomplish things for ourselves? I do things knowing they won’t turn out the way I wanted, because I know I’ll regret it more if I don’t do them.
’’Maybe weight loss doesn’t even have to be a goal. You can just look at increasing your strength, speed, or endurance, and not even bother looking at the scale anymore. Sometimes weight is just too much pressure.’‘
That’s kind of my goal, I don’t even know if it’s possible for me to lose weight. I had success a few years ago, but then I went on medications that made it very hard to lose weight or even maintain a healthy weight and I 99% believe that it’s not possible for me to lose weight. I never lose more than 2 or 3 kilos, and I need to lose a lot more than that. I kind of think if I can perfect my exercise habits the food thing will sort itself out, because if I’m burning lots of calories I won’t want to waste them on junk food? I can’t really remember how to do it, or how to be successful. I wanted to count calories on my own, but I don’t have enough discipline to do this by myself. I’m thinking of doing Weight Watchers with my dad or joining Overeaters Anonymous. My medications have changed now, so it should be a bit easier to lose weight.
’’I think I misunderstood what you said in your post, I originally thought you meant that doing a 12K once a month was your main exercise, but from your second comment, I am getting that you use it as motivation to build your endurance in between too. That makes a big difference.’‘
Pretty much. Its a motivation tool to do better and stay healthy between events. It’s also a good way to mark each month and see my progress through pictures and my race times. My dad has agreed to join me once every three months.
’’Maybe keeping track of how much you walk/exercise each day could become a reward system. Maybe every week that you walk 5K every day you could give yourself some kind of cheer.’‘
-I have a reward system set up but I haven’t been able to enforce it. I don’t really have spare money at the moment.
’’It’s great that you stick to 10,000 steps a day, and it must suck, given that you have health issues.’‘
-Its an ideal, not a reality. I go through phases of doing 10,000 steps a day because I feel like I have to. I’m confused by it… if I do that many steps a day, do I still have to do other exercise? The experts recommend 30 minutes-1 hour of exercise a day, but I’m not sure if the steps go towards that or not. It take me about two and a half hours to get 10,000 steps. People on sparkpeople.com have told me to try and be active for 10 minutes of every hour, but I’m a total computer/couch potato and I don’t want to change that… the thought of being constantly active does not appeal to me. Maybe just doing something at the start and end of the day?
’’Lots of luck with your goals, you seem to work pretty hard to improve your health, and that’s what is important.’‘
-Thanks. I’m working with a few different people to sort out my life at the moment. My parents, my doctor, my psychiatrist and I’m about to get a free life coach. It’s really rough at the moment, having all my problems laid out infront of me, I constantly feel like I’m at breaking point, I hate being accountable to so many people, its hard feeling tied down at 23, not being able to make your own decisions etc. Having to go to bed at a certain time, eat a certain way etc. I’m looking forward to being trusted with my own life again.
Why thank-you! ;) 2 years ago
I’m not allowed to work for a while, so obviously paying off my student loan isn’t going to happen just yet.
I asked my parents to throw some money at it for Christmas but I think they’ve already brought my presents. I would be nice for it to shrink by a hundred dollars or so. 2 years ago
I’m not allowed to work for six months or so. I’m seeing a psychiatrist and she doesn’t think I’m well enough. I’m going to work on some personal goals for now and do some volunteer work. I’m disappointed to give up this goal, I got so close!
When will my life begin?!? 2 years ago
I don’t know about you, but it seems like no-one ever really cares what I’m doing. I didn’t get to celebrate my 21st with a big party like my friends, and when I watched others cross the finish line for their 5k, everyone either had someone walking/running it with them or someone cheering them on from the other side- I had neither and it really stung. I’m a sensitive person, plus I have Bipolar II, ADD and Aspergers, so I’m often depressed. And yes, I am overweight. I’ve seen stories of thousands of people on sparkpeople doing a 5k and talking about how great they feel now rah rah rah, and I honestly don’t get it. Maybe when people have sucky experiances, they keep it to themselves, I don’t know. I’m just being honest. Maybe it’s because they trained in advance, or once had trouble even walking to their letter box or they ran it. I don’t know. I just know I didn’t feel the same way. I live with a critical mother, and find it hard to ever feel proud of my accomplishments or anything I ever do. I’ve also grown up in a culture with ’’tall poppy syndrome’’ where people that celebrate their sucess are often cut down by other people and bullied for ever feeling good about themselves.
I think committing to one event a month is good. It’s better than nothing. I’ve just been diagnosed with a whole lot of illnesses so I’m not allowed to work or study. I need to do something. In the past, I’ve found it really hard to lose weight without working out. I can’t just fix my eating habits, I need some sort of motivation not to eat crap all the time, and working out provides that. I think going out once a month will give me motivation inbetween events, to do better. I have a xtrainer that I try to spend an hour on at a time when I do it. I want to use it everyday, but at the moment its more like 0-3 times a week. I’m lazy. I’m sick of needing to lose weight. The whole topic is stale now. I’ve been on medications for the last five years that make it impossible to lose weight. I’ve just come off those medications, and I have no idea what to do with myself. If losing weight were easy, everyone would be slim.
I don’t like walking. It’s going to be even harder now because my ipod just broke and I can’t afford to buy a new one. I’ve always been taught that you need to do 10,000+ steps a day to maintain a good fitness level and good health. I think its important to do this even if you don’t enjoy it. It’s hard for me, as my default mode is couch potato/computer nerd, but these haven’t been as accessible to me in the last six months so I have been slightly more active.