help 43 people on 43 things

I have seriously neglected this goal, and 43things in general.

Lots of very valid reasons but thinking maybe its about time I tried to participate a little more. Having said that I’m away more than I am at home which doesnt make it easy :)

Someone on this site is having problems getting their deposit back from a housing agency. There’s a certain Mr Paul who works at the agency who is a complete smart ass but I am slowly backing him into a corner, in the nicest possible way of course.

Got to the point where I have a clear statement of what is required so now all I gotta do is help the person get what is needed.

We will get the deposit back !!!!!!!!

But numbers are not important. I keep this goal as a constant reminder that helping others is not such a bad thing to do.

Sometimes things look a little more complicated than they actually are.

Sometimes all it needs is to ask a few questions, make a few suggestions, and send over a powerpoint presentation.

Sometimes people create excuses which they actually think are barriers.

Sometimes people know the answers themselves they just need to know where to look for them.

Sometimes they find them :)

Took far longer than expected I am so pleased I sent it. Thats all I want, or need, to say.

The Pepa (my 2 y/o daughter) is the fastest scribbler known to earth, she has put her signature on everything that we own and I unsigned it all testing several cleaning products being the most effective the Magic Eraser of the bald guy (you know, I don’t remember the name, too lazy to get up and look I’m not trying to make a comercial), it takes the stains almost completely off, unfortunately it takes a layer of the surface of the object cleaned too.

Her brothers and sister learned to scribble on paper, but she had access to crayons before I could teach her because the siblings left them at her reach… now she thinks is ok to scribble no matter how many times she helped clean up or sat in time out.

We had just came back from picking up the kids from school and I was preparing them a snack then distributed and Pepita was not around, I thought maybe she fell sleep because she was too quiet… I went to look for her to give her the snack and I found her with her favorite color crayon… (Yup RED) in one hand and her bedroom covered in adorable pictures of odd little humanoid figures and scribbles… grrrr!!!!

Pepita went to the timeout chair all by herself with her head looking down at the floor; I didn’t even have to say anything I just gasped and she knew… I said …those beautiful pictures belong on paper Pepa!!! (I don’t want her to think I don’t appreciate her art but…ACK!!)
The crayons seem to color deeper and put more of them selves in the Texas heat…
I HATE THE HEAT!
First I killed the crayon which was already almost dead it had no peel and it was little and shinny and semi-melted so I grabbed it with a paper towel and squashed it then poked it with a tooth pick and threw it in the trash.

I went for my favorite cleaning thing and I cleaned the wall which now has a subtle pink shade, but the worse is her bed, it is a toddler white plastic chunky bed, the eraser took the hard lines of the scribbles but it also gave it a smudged pink stain…
Pepa sat in time out longer this time (she usually sits for two minutes)I feel bad poor Pepita but she needs to learn (snif! she was crying mommy is mad at me!!! bua I’m not really)

How do I get the pink stain out??? Help!!

_{The scribbles up there are only a detail in a little area of her bed (bed was all covered both boards side rails and even under the mattress). The humanoid figures represented me and her…how can I get mad at her for that lovely picture???}

Started by helping someone with a bit of life coaching via MSN. Have to admit i was very challenging but we got a plan lined up which is always a good way forward.

Next task 10,300 words to proof read and if you reading this then dont worry I will get it done.

Finally some unexpected help in that I managed to make someone smile who was having a tough day.

Three people in one day, nice feeling as i drag myself off to bed.

Good night 43things, good night fabulous people !!

... but i have been there when someone needed a friend to talk to. I know they found it difficult but I’m so so pleased they did because in the past they have found it easier to hide than confront. All I want them to do is to be just a little selfish and start putting themselves, and their needs before those of others. Sometimes its ok to do that, sometimes you have to do it.

Someone else asked me to help them tonight. Someone who I’ve helped before. Someone special. I hope I can !!

I know this is rather a cryptic post but best that way.

There is one 43er that is going trough a lot of trouble right now.
It seems like it all is coming down to him all at once…
This guy is Followingtheequator

His mom has cancer (he takes care of her no family helps), his puppy (well and old puppy) is sick, he is in between jobs and recently broke his tooth… someone bumped his car…sigh… something happens to him too often…

I’m trying to find him a cheap if not free dentist because he is in a lot of pain, but he can’t afford the dentist…
Anybody know of a service for this??? He is in Atlantic City.

He told me he doesn’t want to get up but has to because he is caring for his two; he has no energy to type, or to find info…
His mom is forgetting things and treating him bad, because she feels bad and she is not all “there”, she is also in lots of pain.

The vet told him to put Maggie to sleep (you know forever)... he says she is ok, just old.
I feel so helpless… I don’t know what I could do except to be his voice and scream for help because he gave up screaming.

I’ve kept this goal as an onging reminder that sometimes i should make time to help others. This morning i gave an hour to someone on 43thing who tomorrow will attend an interview. We agreed to hook up on MSN and I spent 60 mins just talking thru stuff related to the role they are going for. She asked questions, i gave answers. I asked questions, she gave answers. I’m hopeing it will help, and also give more confidence. If nothing she will be better prepared than she was yesterday.

If you read this my friend then good luck with your interview.

Now of course I’m running late, and need to get my butt in gear he he.