Well, I cleaned and tidied it like it’s never been cleaned and tidied. And put plastic on the windows to make sure it’s cozy in there. We don’t want to have to stay under the covers ALL the time!
We talked about some other changes we could make that would make it nice in there: getting some more artwork and some mirrors, etc.
But even just tidying it up makes a huge difference. Being in there gives me a sense of calm, now.
said my sweetie last night. And he’s right. Sure, the cabinet organization is still evolving, but we do have working counter space, places to put things away, and a process for shopping and cooking and cleaning up that seems to work. Ahh, what a relief!
We are doing those cosmetic things it’s easy to look past once you’ve lived somewhere for a while: putting artwork up and such. In just the past few days, it’s started feeling much more homey around here. And tomorrow it will be filled with loving family and friends. What better way to create a nurturing love nest?
We have had lots of changes in our lives lately: employment and work schedule changes, changes in our physical environment (moving and rearranging), changes in the animal population in our household. We are moving towards a morning routine that works for all of us. And today I see the light at the end of the tunnel!
I am even considering purchasing a fancy programmable cat feeder to eliminate morning meow assaults. I think this could fit into the October budget.
Good sleep and a functional morning routine will make our home a much more nurturing love nest for all of us. Ahhhh!
What a relief! To be able to walk down the hallway without picking your way around things, ahhhh! To be able to carry something down the hall without having to lift it over or wrangle it around things. Hooray!
(though not yet beautiful). Our kitchen has less than 5 boxes in it! It takes a lot of time and energy, but we are actually moving much faster than I thought we would on this. Yay, us!
Well, we didn’t succeed with this goal at our last apartment, but now we have a chance to start over in a new place. My sweetie is feeling a little overwhelmed by the disorganization and at a loss as to where to start. But he says moving helped him feel confident in his ability to organize things, so I’m trying to help him build on that, and hold on to the momentum we’ve got going from our move.
I trust that our work in counseling and our improved communication will help us achieve this goal together.
For the second time since we moved here, we had dinner guests! We did a really good job of working together to make this happen. Sweetie did all the cooking, as he usually does these days, while I tidied the entire place.
I was afraid that cleaning for guests might take me some places I’ve been in the past, places I didn’t want to go again: the pit of crabbiness (that our place isn’t what I want it to be) and the black hole of blame and recriminations about whose fault that might be (mine? never!). I set an intention before we began that I wanted to enjoy the preparations with my partner, as well as enjoying my time with our guests. To go from zero to nurturing love nest in just a few hours seemed impossible, but I decided to just do the best I could to make it look better and not be too much of a perfectionist.
So hooray! We put on some great music and had a good time planning and executing our plan, I steered clear of the emotional mire, we had a nice evening with guests, we devoured an amazing Indian feast thanks to Sweetie’s culinary skills, our guests did the dishes (we should all be so lucky!) and the next morning our place looks great! I think we’ll do this again sometime, just like normal people do!
We have acquired quite a bit of new furniture recently, and it’s forcing us to rearrange and reorganize many of the spaces in our home. This weekend we began going through the kitchen boxes that have been in storage since we moved here, and sorting them into groups: things to keep in storage, things to bring into active use, things to give away, and projects that need work to become useful (like that great hanging fruit basket that needs a hook to hang from).
after a stalemate of many months. It feels like we are a team again.
A month or so ago sweetie rented a Rug Doctor and we shampooed everything we could get our hands on. Then, just before Thanksgiving, he invited a friend over to help while I was away. When I came back, we had a dining room! We were able to put it to immediate use and entertain his family over the holiday. I have been longing to entertain ever since we first moved in here.
Last night as I was about to hop onto my elliptical machine, sweetie invited me to try his custom “Box Moving Glute-Buster workout” by moving about 50 of his boxes down into the basement. He didn’t have to ask me twice! (I moved them all myself, and he encouraged me to run the two flights back up the stairs for maximum cardio.) What a workout! But it felt great to create that much living space for us to share.
