learn to flirt

This comic from Questionable Content shows how flirting can be done wrongly.

Not only did I flirt with the waiter last night, but I also winked at the guitar player when I put a tip in his jar. I got a huge smile for my efforts (on both counts).

It did take me two tries to flirt with the waiter – the first time I started laughing and couldn’t say anything. Which made my friend who was with me laugh, and then the waiter laughed, too. Of course, he had no idea what was so funny, but that didn’t seem to bother him.

I was helping out with a project at our city office today, and a man came in to pay his bill. He said something kind of flirty, and I thought, “Oh, boy, here’s my chance, can I do it?” I’m kind of surprised that I thought fast enough to come up with something to say, let alone say it so it didn’t sound stupid, but I did and it didn’t. I’m not sure, but I think he actually blushed. ;-)

My “Flirt Quotient” is 33% Flirt

Are you a Flirtatious Woman?

I found this quiz through one of the links on the side of the page. It’s designed for women, but I’m sure men can take it to, with a little adaptation.

A Funny Flirt

The direct approach has never worked for you. Instead, you like to charm guys by infiltrating their own territory and getting to know them in their own environment, like Sigourney Weaver in Gorillas in the Mist, but with beer instead of bananas. The strategy is to make yourself indispensable—be one of the guys, make jokes, be fun to hang around with, and avoid the games girls play as much as you can.

However, you’re well acquainted with the danger of being one of the guys. It’s that you can easily become…one of the guys. Watch out for that—make sure people know there are breasts under that Celtics jersey. “Women like this create intimacy through what I like to call the buddy system,” says Catherine Cardinal, PhD, author of The Ten Commandments of Relationships (Andrews McMeel, 2000). “You give the feeling of being in this together, whether ‘this’ is a difficult situation you want to get out of, like a parking ticket, or something great, like your marriage.” But when buddying up means you’re not taken seriously, learn when to assert yourself. “Never underestimate the power of touch,” Cardinal says. “A well-timed squeeze of the arm, pat on the shoulder, or hug reminds people that you’re a force to be reckoned with. A female force.”

Think Cameron Diaz. She’s the queen of the burping contest, yet she knows when to glam it up, and nobody ever forgets she’s a girl—because she doesn’t forget it, either.

I think have no option now but to say “I’ve done this”.

I had finished my chocolate cake and she said “There’s still some chocolate on your lip.” I said: “Would you like to lick it off?”

Of some sort. After much freaking out, I asked a friend of mine to ask his friend if he was interested in “hanging out” with me.

Pros: I’m taking charge of my flirting destiny!
Cons: I forgot the guy’s name and gave a similar, but wrong, name to my friend. Of course, now my friend has more fodder to poke fun at me.

Flirting is nerve-wracking.

Ellie made an entry on her “overcoming shyness” goal that could be of help with “learning to flirting”. You might want to check it out.

Forget what I might be learning in my Flirting for Success book, if you have a need to flirt your way out of a traffic ticket, take a lesson from the Tigerlicious Vamp sporting the notorious peepers

Thanks to the team for support and guidance and general confidence building – I am now capable of turning the charm on when it feels right. Thank you!