Make love to my husband more often

I caught my husband off guard this weekend, early in the afternoon. I was surprised at how caught off guard he was – but all is well that ends well. It did indeed end well, but I guess I’m just going to have to surprise him more, and more, and more…some habits are worth perfecting! And we’re already doing mighty good.

Thou husband can inspire sex by cleaning the faucets, with vinegar, when he initiates said household improvement with no request or feedback from wife. What an inspiration, domestic foreplay.

So he is working 2 jobs and rest is at a premium. I wasn’t necessarily feeling anything but extreme fatigue when I got a little tap on my shoulder some 4 days ago. I chuckled this morning, visiting my mother, with all of my children who had decided they wanted to have a group sleep going on – - what I wouldn’t do to have the only thing next to me be my husband and his tap. So, when I get off the road and return home, I know exactly how I’ll be bringing in the New Year. Three kids later – some things we just do very well.

When your evil mother in law is sleeping downstairs. Okay, it is our house and we’ve certainly earned the right. And last but not least – stress relief, stress relief, stress relief.

just for him. When I was going through my entries I laughed a bit. I have definitely added this goal for my husband, but membership (or marriage I should say!) has its privileges.

Who ever said quick was always bad. Husband has second job, time alone is rare and difficult and making love is a good physical outlet. Hmmmmm – redefining quick is a good start. Not a quickie – how about, the express lane, efficient and effective networking, intense fellowship, rapido, okay….I should stop now. But effectively, if we redefine what it is, maybe it is easier to prioritize and accomplish these goals.

Socks off. So, the alter ego hasn’t necessarily had the most spontaneity. I doubt I even spelled in right – it isn’t in me. I’m a planner, I schedule stuff, I use my Franklin, I assign priorities, I adjust stuff to fit in the schedule…..

Last week, husband decides he wants to come home for lunch. He was not interested in the tuna salad I had prepared the day before. And with the boys watching a video and our bedroom door locked (we didn’t have a lock in the old house) I tried to rock my husbands world.

Here’s what we now know – we are new at mid-day getaways, but a willing spirit conquers many other things. So, being a wife – I worked to block out the laundry, the overdue consulting assignment, the stuff that was stacking up around us, and just focus on the needs of 1 person – my husband. Perfection, well, uhhh – no. Willing and committed – yep, that would have been us. Humorous, yes, that too. But, sometimes to blow his socks off, all you have to be willing to do is take yours off. (My pooh socks, I’m referring to.)

In order to accomplish more of the goals we set, one must of course use time better, make time or eliminate time wasters. If this is a priority, our new work/life schedule demands that I must use my time more wisely.

I think that may include my enjoyment of 43 things…..urggh.

1. Making your husband happy can make you happy as well.

2. Life is short – people should know that you love them by both word and deed.

3. Making love is more than a physical expression – its an emotional connection.

4. I have yet to understand why married folks have more difficulty talking about intimacy than those who aren’t married.

5. Each day is a new opportunity to change a life – including those related to you.

In becoming a better wife I have had to learn that intimacy is a major priority and need for my husband. I used to think my low libido was about my weight, but 35 lbs. later it was still about the same. The issue wasn’t my physical weight, it was my mental weight. I have decided to approach this like I would approach a ministry for other people – I’m very good at reaching out to other people! So – I’m reaching out to my husband.

I am initiating sex.
I am being more creative.
I am talking and emailing dirty.
I am ministering to the needs of my husband.
More important than the millions of things I can sometimes fill up my day with – I’m searching for opportunities to make his day.

Doesn’t mean this issue is conquered – just means I’ve decided to do something about my attitude and my approach. Plus, it is a lot more fun than considering what it must do to him to be rejected by his wife.