I accepted to do this in a weak moment.
I have no little girls of my own and behave like a little girl myself, a great deal of the time (even though the expiration date on my little girl days has long since lapsed, but that has nothing to do with this subject). So you see, worrying if you have the right role models is not exactly something that keeps me awake at night. I spend time with you when we are both in the mood for each other. Shhhh, but I even break some of the rules with you. Should things look like they are about to get sticky, I call your mum.
I find myself writing this because of EBear. I met him around here and was instantly drawn to irreverence and a wicked sense of fun. Before I realized the man has loads of substance, I was hooked into eFriendship (and later into eSiblingship because of his substance, but that again has nothing to so with this Thing).
I have no idea how this Thing worked its way into my self indulgent set of Things. I routinely turn down good Things that are too much trouble. EBear says I could sell ice to eskimos. I am sending the headhunters out to recruit him for the team on this mission.
Who am I kidding? What are the chances that any little girl is going to read this?
If the wise woman in me writes this, a few adults who have no need for women role models may read this and nod their heads.
If the little girl in me writes this, it my be good for a few laughs by half (probably less) of the above mentioned set.
But since I took this on, here I am.
We have already established that the chances of any little girl reading this are bleak. I come from the Corporate background, we start by establishing a target market. Even for unrealistic products. So before I launch into listing names, I feel I must establish one thing. Which set of little girls who wont read this, am I addressing?
Is it the little girl of middle-class India, caught between tradition and its expectations of a woman’s role that are so contrary to the fast emerging world of equal opportunity?
Is it the little girl of the Western world (where this issue is passe because women established liberation is the 1970s) who lives in an environment that is understood by me only from books, movies and business visits?
Is it the little girl of yuppie, upwardly-mobile, double-income, Indian parents, living in an almost Western cocoon, who could have been mine?
Hmmmm…
I pick the little girl who is wondering what she wants to be. Uber-cool or reasonably cool? Nothing-matters-so-what-is-the-point or everything-matters-and-I-can-make-a-difference? Super-model or Leader of corporation/cause-that-matters/country?
A woman can be both. Or everything. Fun and serious. Glamorous and intelligent. Soft and independant. Quirky and responsible. I know of women who are, and it will be fun to list them.
Good. In establishing who you are little girl, I killed two birds with one stone (ugh…nasty expression…birds are not for killing).
Bird 1: Identified you, although you will never read this.
Bird 2: Identified the selection criteria for role models. Uni-dimensional ones are out. Which is good. I find the uni-dimensional ones rather tedious.
(Before we move on … the birds are alive and unhurt…may all stones thrown at birds strike the thrower instead.)
This little girl, was just the preamble. The list itself will come later. Since no little girl is reading this and waiting with baited breath, the next instalment can afford to take its time.