post an entry about how 43Things has changed my life and helped me to evolve into a better person

I’ve accomplished some things, such as learning how to crack an egg with one hand. but for me, the goals that I keep on my list act as reminders. I will always want to express myself, draw more, and paint. I’ve been finding my own way to do them somehow. some other goals are long term. I won’t be getting married any time soon, or owning my own gallery. But it’s interesting to see and recognize the little steps I’m taking toward fulfilling them.

43things est depuis longtemps pour moi, une sorte de carnet secret. J’y raconte ma vie, surtout ma vie sentimentale. Quand je vais bien, quand je vais moins bien. j’écris tout, je sais que des gens vont regarder mes petits mots.

messages à la mer, déclarations d’amour, tout, tout, j’ai vraiment tout écris depuis 2 ans.

Aujourd’hui, c’est une phase bien noir de ma vie qui recommence. Comme quand on se fait plaquer. Impossible de réagir, sortir la tête de l’eau, c’est ce qu’il faut faire, dès maintenant. Enfin, j’aimerai bien. Une machine à remonter le temps, ou à l’avancer je ne sais pas ce qu’il me faut.
RECULER dans le temps, pour prouver l’amour que je lui porte et lui faire comprendre qu’elle est importante pour moi.
AVANCER dans le temps, pour que ma peine disparaisse.

arggggg, je ne sais pas quoi faire. elle me manque tant.

This website lets me see my progress. It reminds me that yes, I am sucessful at what I do, and I find now that I’m not getting down on myself as much as I would about failure – or fear of.

how much 43things had changed me until my Internet wasn’t working. There were so many goals that I was still conscious of while I couldn’t get online. I make better choices. By better, I mean that I think more about my priorities, the reasons for my priorities, and the consequences of following or not following my priorities.

On the softer, less analytical side, 43T has been a way of meeting new friends. These friends have not only made me a better person through feedback, they have also given me many reasons to smile. Thanks, everyone!

I just never got around to this. Either I have evolved into a worse person, or I just can’t seem to find the time. Or both.

This site has been a source of much encouragement and strength for me. In times of desperation or depression, I’ve clicked around to read the entries of those who are in a simliar dilema, and the power of this can not be overestimated. The poignant writing of some users has brought me to tears. 43 things is not simply a website, it is an online community in which we edge on and challenge one another whilst providing support when required. In today’s fast-paced world of schedules and appointments, obligations and responsibility, often a timely reminder is needed for us to consider goals in every facet of our lives and make time for the things that truly matter. For me, 43 things has been that reminder.

43 Ways in Which 43 Things Has Changed My Life and helped Me to Evolve Into a Better Person

1. Everyday I question what I am doing towards meeting my goals.

2. Setting and working towards my goals means I am reflective and focussed on what is truly important to me.

3. Ordering my goals allows me to consider my priorities and allocate my time appropriately.

4. I feel an immense sense of achievement when I step closer to meeting a goal or get to click ‘I have done this’.

5. I am bursting with gratitude. Even in my darkest moments I appreciate hot running water or the giggles of my children.

6. I notice small things that might have slipped me by otherwise, such as a smile between an elderly couple or the beauty in a landscape.

7. I know I am not alone. I only have to read others entries to realise my struggles have worldwide companionship.

8. As I share my hard times I also have the pleasure and pride of sharing my achievements.

9. 43T has enabled me to make friendships all over the world.

10. As a result I have insights into international daily life that broaden my understanding of life outside of England.

11. I receive untold support and love from my 43T friends that touches and moves me in a way I thought could not be achieved online.

12. I have been given many extremely wise and useful pieces of advice that have impacted my life on a daily basis from the tea I drink to the way I challenge my own distorted thinking.

13. I have realised that sometimes I have advice worth sharing and so I share it.

14. I love receiving cheers. I feel pride and recognition when I receive them.

15. I love giving cheers. In giving them to others I can mark my support for their goals, words and actions.

16. I have been inspired by others achievements and commitments to meeting goals to work harder myself.

17. I have received invitations and ideas for goals that I would never have tried otherwise.

18. I have discovered new things such as Postsecret that I never would have stumbled upon without 43T.

19. As a result I have posted four secrets that have unburdened me of angst that I have carried for years.

20. I also then took my sister and her girlfriend to the Postsecret exhibition which I feel enhanced and deepened our relationships.

21. I have shared both 43T and discoveries I have made here with family, friends and colleagues.

22. I value my time deeply and try to use it efficiently. Although I spend a lot of time on 43T I feel it has resulted in the rest of my day being spent more productively.

23. I spend more time with my children and focus on the quality of that time. As a result I feel we are all happier in our relationships.

24. I have rediscovered the commitment, love and joy I have for my marriage.

25. I have donated a large amount of clothing and household items to charity.

26. Even though I have not yet adopted it as a goal ‘Leave a smaller ecological footprint’ seems to be ever present in my mind whenever I go to throw something away, thus I am recycling more.

27. I am much more proactive. Instead of daydreaming about the things I want to do, I am setting them down in black and white and taking action to achieve them.

28. My levels of motivation are far higher than they have been before due to being accountable to others.

29. I am focussed on the future whilst also living in the moment.

30. I am reading again.

31. By identifying 43 things I like about my job I have realised there are many advantages to my chosen career and I feel more settled at work.

32. I am consciously driving within the speed limit at all times and therefore posing less of a risk to life and limb than I have done previously.

33. I am registered on the organ donation register so that I might be able to help someone else live when I die.

34. I have sought help from the appropriate professionals where I have needed to. Often it would be easier to run away but accountability and support have stopped me doing that.

35. I have begun to practice yoga and it has without a doubt changed my life profoundly. I am calmer, happier and have a greater sense of peace in my life (and I am more flexible too)!

36. I am living with more honesty and integrity than ever before.

37. I am learning who I am and who I want to be as well as letting go of the parts I don’t want or need anymore.

38. I have realised that I do actually like myself. It has taken a lot of changes for me to be able to say that with conviction and consequently my self-esteem has started to recover.

39. I like feeling part of a team with a common goal. I never feel alone.

40. I enjoy supporting my friends, family and colleagues in my real life to identify and work towards their goals too.

41.The continual support and love from fellow 43T-ers and the absence of negativity or abuse has restored my faith in humankind.

42. I am touched by the strength of my fellow 43T-ers and given hope in their ability to overcome adversities.

43. I feel a part of a amazingly warm like-minded community where we are companionably striving towards improving ourselves and changing our lives whilst having fun and enjoying love, support and laughter along the way!

43 Things weaved its way into my life when I was frustrated with being stuck in a small town going to a rinky-dink community college to pass the time. It helped me remember that there was still a big exciting world out there full of exciting and dynamic people doing daring and even downright silly things.

43 Things soothed my adventorous yearnings and helped keep my writing sword sharp and unrusted.

A Jolly Good Cheerie-Ho to the Robots and all the people of 43 Things. I would also like to thank my agent and Tom Stoppard since f#@&ng Gwyneth Paltrow never did.

have encouraged me with the goals I already had and inspired to try new things by seeing their goals. Okay… no long entry… but lots of encouragement and inspiration!

THANKS to all the wonderful people on 43T who have encouraged and inspired me here. Hope I can do the same in return.

This site has focused my goals and reminded me of all the others who care and are trying too. i really like not being alone in things. Good luck everyone!