Though I cannot say every pain and hurt is erased from my past I will say that I have made huge leaps and bounds from who I was as a person years ago. There is no secret words you can say to grow and let go of past people and pains.
Honestly the main thing is how badly do you want it?
We have two choices with each challenge we face that comes our way when we are in our “pits” so to speak.
1.) Let the pain and or challenge take us over and deter us, either keeping us in our pits or pushing us further down
2.) Choose to be so tired of being in our pits that we make the choice to take the challenge and rise above it and do everything we can possibly do to be better, to be happier, to let go.
There isn’t something magical that happens if your depressed or suffering. There isn’t going to be some knight to come sweep you from your pit and carry you away.
Because In our minds we can trap ourselves better then anyone can.
No one can hurt you better then yourself.
We are the only people who can free ourselves , even God gives us free will and if we choose (even unknowingly) to suffer,too hold on to the past or people or events then there is no one to free us but ourselves.
So when I found myself at a crossroads years ago I made my choice.
I decided to work on healing myself as much as possible and any advice (be careful which you take of course) and growth and learning I could do to help me I took in without ego or pride.
Instead of focusing on my pain and sadness I focused every ounce of energy onto getting better and changing my life.
It’s not easy at first. In a way staying in your pit for the moment in time can be easier but in the long run it isn’t. That’s why we sometimes chose to do something even if it’s bad for us.
We want the easy release….
So if you want to be free from your past CHOOSE to be free from your past. Choose to be happy, Choose to focus every ounce of energy you have to healing and that that focus and energy away from your sadness, your jealousy your whatever negative holding you back.
Today I am a way happier person when i decided to work on healing and letting go to every old thing olding me back.
N 4 years ago