I’m doing better, but after an awkward time on New Year’s it’s made me feel like I’ve got some way still to go in beating my social anxiety. This definitely has to take high priority going into the New Year, and am excited at the prospect of really getting out there and being able to get on with my life. 11 months ago
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I just found this website again. It’s been four years since I’ve last seen this website. I was so surprised to have even remembered my password after so long. I think I wrote this around 8th-9th grade. Since then, I have accomplished so much towards my goal to be less shy. In the tenth grade, I auditioned for my high school’s spring play, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. The director, Mr. Edgerton, said I had a wonderful voice and really connected with the song I chose, 30 days by nevershoutnever! I was cast as an Oompa-Loompa and I also became the musical composer, creating the melodies. The following years I had worked for Crew on How To Eat Like A Child and was cast as the Mother and Grandma in The Big Bad Wolf, Frieda and Charlie Brown’s understudy in You’re A Good Man, Charlie Brown!, Emma in The Invisible Man, and Smee in Peter Pan. I also participated in Forensic Speech and Debate for one year, competing in Storytelling and Poetry, and winning a 3rd place trophy for each. I had also won a 6th place medal for Poetry and won first place for Poetry in my district.
Nowadays, I spend my days at VCU, currently Undeclared, but leaning towards a degree in the school of Mass Communications. I think theatre and speech brought me out of my shy shell. I’m more interactive and loud and I have more than one family. I’m not afraid (as much) to express my feelings when I feel strongly about something. I feel that the relationships I have created throughout high school and college now are all because of what theatre has taught me: That people will accept you for who you are, you just have to find them. 12 months ago
I’ve made some progress with this since last updating here. I’ve been using the book ‘overcoming social anxiety and shyness’ by Gillian Butler, and have already found it’s made something of a difference to me. I went on a date last night, and even though I was nervous I was nowhere near as bad as I have been in the past. I’ve still got someway to go, and am keeping an offline diary, but I’m sure I can continue making good progress. 14 months ago
Speak with strangers. How? Simply by asking them… anything.
Try going out today and going up to a random stranger.
Make sure you look clean and smell okay. Also, make sure you walk with a straighter posture. Then, approach the person and say with a smile and making EYE contact:
“Excuse me. My watch is wrong, can you tell me what time is it?”
Or maybe… “Excuse me. Do you know where’s the nearest bus stop?”
After they answer you, give them a smile and MAINTAIN eye contact and say: “Thank you very much”.
Then walk away.
Try doing it several times today. In different places. Do it with someone at the supermarket, and with someone else at the mall, and with someone else at the street… and then do it more.
The results of it is very simple: it will make you feel more at ease at approaching people, and you’ll realize that you can make up a conversation by simply making a question. Do it and let us know what experiences you got from trying this! 19 months ago
I bought a book to help me through this a while back – and I really think it will. It needs to become a priority though – I know I can be confident and easy to get on with others, but all too often I get depressed and shut in on myself – this needs to stop. 2 years ago
Wow people I didn’t think I could get this far! I used to be really shy where I wouldn’t even talk to other people, or join in convo with my friends. But now im more confident, but not over confident just enough to know when to speak up or speak if needed. I actually start convos now, and try to laugh which I never did before in turn makes me enjoy the convo even more. What I did was believe in myself. Not only believing in myself but to not care what people thought of me or what I said, that was one big problem I had that made it harder for me to become confident because I thought that if I sounded stupid then or would say something stupid then I wouldn’t say what was on my mind. Also listening to what other people said helped, building better relationships with other people also helped me to build up my self esteem which in turn let me be more confident and know what other people like. Anyway I think you get where im at, have faith, believe in yourself and don’t judge yourself on what others judge you on, if you do, that’ll make you less confident of yourself and in turn you’ll feel more shy or insecure, and what you’re trying to accomplish is to become more confident. Goodluck and wish you the best! 3 years ago
I rode a train to an unknown place and met someone. I spoke up about the job I worked at and left it because it overwhelmed me. I learned to speak to a man outloud comfortably as much as I could. I had a business meeting recently in public. 3 years ago