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just didnt work out. ended up living with the guy and the girl..turned me into a jealous freak. me and dude ended up just us together. and then had a terrible relationship that lasted years. 20 months ago


Maybe in the future, just maybe, I ‘d like to try it out. To see my boundaries. To question society. 2 years ago


Poly is a challenge, you need to make sure you have the right people and the right terms and the right boundaries with total honesty, it is not for the faint of heart but in the right situation can make life wonderful. 2 years ago

JezebelGrimoireThe difference between love and swinging...

I began looking for a relationship outside of my marriage at my husband’s suggestion.
Long story short- after two years of deep, meaningful relationships that ended because others wanted me and me alone, my husband began cheating on me.
This was a deeply layered, highly emotionally volatile situation.
It ended in me being choked and beaten up, moving into a women’s shelter with my daughter and (so far) nine months of seemingly endless divorce proceedings.

My advice- do it while you’re young- before you have children. experience what love is before you have committed yourself wholly to someone else.
It can be liberating and fulfilling knowing more than one person on sucj an intimate level. I feel like I’m all screwed upside inside now, unfortunately. 2 years ago


didn’t mean to enter into this kind of thing as i had always been monogamous before, but i can’t say that there are no benefits to this kind of setup. 3 years ago

jag73Yeah I like this want to do,lol

I am working on it. :-) 3 years ago

pooponastick69if its wat u feel is right then do it

honestly i knew since i was in middle school (or even before) that i liked boys and girls

my best friend in middle school was this girl deby
and she was the one i came out to first because i had developed feelings for her

me and her dated on and off because she would get a boyfriend and i would get one and we would keep breaking it off because of that

now im a senior in high school and she is a freshman in college

and we both have boyfriends

we talked to our boyfriends and they are both completely okay and supportive of me and deby being together
and im really happy that i dont have to only be with one person when i kno i love 2

if anyone has any questions
im completely open

:D 4 years ago


I can’t do this. Just the idea of when my boyfriend hangs out a little too close with girls bothers me, so unless I took a selfish route and only I was able to choose partners, it’s not going to happen. I still like the idea, I just think realistically it’s not for me, at least mentally in my life right now. 7 years ago

asp3I found out this was possible too late

Since my early relationship days no matter how ecstatically happy and in love I was with my partner, I always wanted relationships with other women as well. I thought this was a completely unrealistic situation and resigned myself to standard monogamous relationships.

After getting married for the second time, I found polyamory groups and people. During a brief period of time we opened up our marriage and I was able to pursue other relationships and did successfully have one such relationship. Unfortunately my wife was not comfortable with our open marriage and wanted us to go back to a monogamous relationship.

My wife is a wonderful woman and I love her very much, so I have decided that being with her is worth giving up my polyamory. I am at peace with my decision and am not angry or upset about choosing to remain monogamous, but I still know that I am polyamorous.

I have met many wonderful people in the poly community and have learned from them. There are some great folks out there living life the way I thought could only happen in dreams. If this is your dream, before becoming involved in a standard relationship do yourself a favor and learn more about polyamory and give it a try if it feels right. 8 years ago


well.. i managed to sustain a poly relationship for a short time but it never progressed very far. i loved what i had of it and i’m looking forward to experiencing more. 9 years ago


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