I was thinking about this goal as I walked home earlier and realised that inspiring someone is just a small part of what I actually want to accomplish in my life.
When Im gone (or preferably before), I want people to remember me and miss me, I want people to be sad that I’m gone. I want to have meant something to them. That is what I strive for in all of my relationships no matter how fleeting or small. I want to make a good impression, I want to be looked up to and felt proud to know and to be wanted around and in their lives at the good times and bad. I want people to want me to be there for them because they know I care.
I dont care so much for leaving material things behind. It all comes down to having touched someones life and making a positive impact of it.
I care so much for other people and maybe part of it comes down to caring too much about what those people think of me… but if cared. I want to be wanted. I want to be loved. 1 month ago
Rick Warren’s son’s death really really shakes me. And I only started to getting to know his pastoral style and apologetic style thru interviews that John piper that he himself conducts with Rick warren (damn their both really great). I know i’m late haha and Rick Warren’s son has passed away. But I meant to comment on it anyway….
I can’t believe that Rick Warren’s son took his own life. He was in deep depression and he had a lot of suicidal thoughts. Rick Warren’s church (yes this time I’m referring to Papa Warren) claim was that even though Rick Warren’s son had a really good spirit and has capacity to encourage people, he past away. Mostly im grieved and mad at God and am like….”How could you do this????” Rick Warren’s son past away at the age of 27. I can’t fucking rack my brain around it, I just can’t. disclaimer: if you are agnostic or athiest or any other religion and feeling uncomfortable at anytime you can be like I’ll pass and go to another 43things entry post, I won’t be offended I swear
I Have bipolar type II disorder and definitely experienced what Rick warren has gone through, in fact I went to seek professional help wobblebaby farts to prove jokingly my credientials that come off as boasting anyways i’ve come a long way and am the thoughts (suicidal) are way less intense than they used to be. Still, the onset of many manic (but mostly depressive episodes) are very inconvenient and unnecessary and when it happens feels this certain level of intensity knowing that this is something I need (not a choice) to adapt too. On another point, it sickens me when someone wants to take away their life, and that’s when suicide watch and professionals and talking hotlines and friends and family and bakeract are handy. Those problems that seem like so unsolvable at its superficiality or seem like they are like tree roots grounded planted firmly in a aquatic environment or seems like it matters like terribly matters so much in its core if not fixed has a exceptionally delayed possibility, a delayed yet profoundly good things to come. Even the problems would cause us to take a detour, perhaps unfair yet good intentioned backroads, something that will build us our character and our perspective in our dealings of our destiny. This burden yet conquerable trails can one day impact others and little do we know may be a deal breaker for the better, deciding between breathing and taking one’s life away. 1 month ago
Taken from somebody’s 43T page. Sorry, I forgot the name of who I copied it from my clioboard yesterday.
Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow. Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so. One day I shall dig my nails into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, or stretch myself taut, or raise my hands to the sky and want, more than all the world, your return.
—Mary Jean Iron 3 months ago
Now I just had a first hand experience about how touching it is and how sweet to receive kindness from somebody when you need it the most. Such a wonderful feeling. What an impact it makes to somebody’s bad day.. 3 months ago
Love this quote!
My life as I lived it had often seemed to me like a story that has no beginning and no end. I had the feeling that I was a historical fragment, an excerpt for which the preceding and succeeding text was missing. I could well imagine that I might have lived in former centuries and there encountered questions I was not yet able to answer; that I had to be born again because I had not fulfilled the task that was given to me.
—> Carl Jung 3 months ago
I need to make someone think they are being fun around. I usualy only do it at this camp i work at and this is going to happen very soon. all i need to do is talk to people 11 months ago
Be the reason for change or model of life to someone. 12 months ago
Last night I went out with my group of friends from the Divorce Support Group that I organize. At one point during the evening, I looked around the room and realized that during the last year and a half I had been a part of making the group grow – getting the word out so people would have a place to come for support and healing. April of 2010 we were a meeting of 5 or 6 people who knew the strength of meeting together to share our stories and offer feedback and warmth. After deciding to join www.meetup.com we now have 250+ members on-line and 40+ members are actually attending the in-person events and meetings that are scheduled throughout the week. I, of course, am not the only one working to lead all of these meetings, but I have been instrumental in growing this group which originally helped ME so much when I was going through my own divorce. I am giving back by inspiring others to navigate through the sadness / depression / anxiety / loss / fear of their own break-ups. It is gratifying to see others flurish over weeks and months as I and my co-organizers inspire the newly separated to contemplate what they will do with their new-found freedom. How they will turn an extreme negative into a positive-life affirming bold joyful new stage of their journey. Sometimes, after the passage of time, in reflection, we find ourselves saying that we were really miserable in that marriage that we struggled to hold onto – and that now we are so much happier. Not every marriage needs to end when it hits a rocky path, but it is important to reflect on who each individual is to figure out how to proceed. I have inspired the growth of this group when there is no way around failing marriages (the group is mostly made up of people who are being left – rather than the ones who are doing the leaving.)
My main function in the group seems to be asking whether or not you choose to divorce – what are your personal goals apart from your spouse? In the next few years or decade, do you want to start a new career, volunteer to save something natural or help people somehow – “what’s your whale to save?” How are you going to make the world a better place? By painting pictures? By helping in a food pantry? By having really deep conversations with new-found friends? What made you tick 20 years ago? That might be a passion you’d like to pick up again, OR you might like to try something totally new. The thing is – I try to get people to start thinking about something other than how miserable they are that their spouse is leaving them for bits of time and they end up finding tiny bits of JOY where the depression starts to receed. That’s how it was for me when I went through it.
And the other thing I find happening is that I inspired others to take leadership roles and now THEY are highly energetic and doing massive amounts of organizing and inspiring many, many more people than I could ever reach on my own. One guy, Ron, has even created another whole new group about an hour away from our group! He’s coming to ours to learn the ropes, but he got so much out of what we do, that HE WAS INSPIRED to duplicate our process! Bob and I are going to go to his first few meetings to help him get started with the support circle. It’ll be tiring, but I am excited about the process growing and so many more people being helped. 14 months ago
About 3 weeks ago I met a really nice couple (friends of friends) – they have a daughter who just graduated from college with a teaching degree and she was looking for a job. She was getting worried, as school was about to start! I told them to bring her around the next time we got together the following week and that I’d love to meet her and see her resume so I could pass it along to the “powers that be” in my school district (I’ve been a teacher for almost a decade). Sooo.. . the next week – they showed up at the party with both of their daughters, a lovely bottle of wine and some tasty appetizers. We had some fabulous conversation and I was really quite impressed with Sara (the daughter) and said that I’d pass her resume along the following week – she was proactive enough to bring it along to the party! (smart girl). I told her that my district always hired right through the first few weeks as funding was approved last minute and they seemed to bring in new teachers these first few weeks. I took her resume to my principal WHO I INSPIRED TO HIRE SARA!!!! My principal was in a meeting, so I left her a note, saying that I was impressed with Sara and that we should get her in before some other district snatched her up! Well, the first day of school at 7:45am they called Sara and told her to come running in – she was hired because they had gotten new funding! She arrived and joined all the teachers in the professional development day. Now . . . we just have to see if the kids don’t eat Sara alive in the next month! They CAN be pretty brutal . . .urban school system – lots of difficult cases. . .
It was such a good feeling to help a young college grad get a job! I felt so thrilled to be able to be part of someone else’s journey. Even if she ends up hating it and going to some other district – I still am happy that I was able to help someone get their first job out of college. 15 months ago