I need to make someone think they are being fun around. I usualy only do it at this camp i work at and this is going to happen very soon. all i need to do is talk to people 5 months ago
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Last night I went out with my group of friends from the Divorce Support Group that I organize. At one point during the evening, I looked around the room and realized that during the last year and a half I had been a part of making the group grow – getting the word out so people would have a place to come for support and healing. April of 2010 we were a meeting of 5 or 6 people who knew the strength of meeting together to share our stories and offer feedback and warmth. After deciding to join www.meetup.com we now have 250+ members on-line and 40+ members are actually attending the in-person events and meetings that are scheduled throughout the week. I, of course, am not the only one working to lead all of these meetings, but I have been instrumental in growing this group which originally helped ME so much when I was going through my own divorce. I am giving back by inspiring others to navigate through the sadness / depression / anxiety / loss / fear of their own break-ups. It is gratifying to see others flurish over weeks and months as I and my co-organizers inspire the newly separated to contemplate what they will do with their new-found freedom. How they will turn an extreme negative into a positive-life affirming bold joyful new stage of their journey. Sometimes, after the passage of time, in reflection, we find ourselves saying that we were really miserable in that marriage that we struggled to hold onto – and that now we are so much happier. Not every marriage needs to end when it hits a rocky path, but it is important to reflect on who each individual is to figure out how to proceed. I have inspired the growth of this group when there is no way around failing marriages (the group is mostly made up of people who are being left – rather than the ones who are doing the leaving.)
My main function in the group seems to be asking whether or not you choose to divorce – what are your personal goals apart from your spouse? In the next few years or decade, do you want to start a new career, volunteer to save something natural or help people somehow – “what’s your whale to save?” How are you going to make the world a better place? By painting pictures? By helping in a food pantry? By having really deep conversations with new-found friends? What made you tick 20 years ago? That might be a passion you’d like to pick up again, OR you might like to try something totally new. The thing is – I try to get people to start thinking about something other than how miserable they are that their spouse is leaving them for bits of time and they end up finding tiny bits of JOY where the depression starts to receed. That’s how it was for me when I went through it.
And the other thing I find happening is that I inspired others to take leadership roles and now THEY are highly energetic and doing massive amounts of organizing and inspiring many, many more people than I could ever reach on my own. One guy, Ron, has even created another whole new group about an hour away from our group! He’s coming to ours to learn the ropes, but he got so much out of what we do, that HE WAS INSPIRED to duplicate our process! Bob and I are going to go to his first few meetings to help him get started with the support circle. It’ll be tiring, but I am excited about the process growing and so many more people being helped. 8 months ago
About 3 weeks ago I met a really nice couple (friends of friends) – they have a daughter who just graduated from college with a teaching degree and she was looking for a job. She was getting worried, as school was about to start! I told them to bring her around the next time we got together the following week and that I’d love to meet her and see her resume so I could pass it along to the “powers that be” in my school district (I’ve been a teacher for almost a decade). Sooo.. . the next week – they showed up at the party with both of their daughters, a lovely bottle of wine and some tasty appetizers. We had some fabulous conversation and I was really quite impressed with Sara (the daughter) and said that I’d pass her resume along the following week – she was proactive enough to bring it along to the party! (smart girl). I told her that my district always hired right through the first few weeks as funding was approved last minute and they seemed to bring in new teachers these first few weeks. I took her resume to my principal WHO I INSPIRED TO HIRE SARA!!!! My principal was in a meeting, so I left her a note, saying that I was impressed with Sara and that we should get her in before some other district snatched her up! Well, the first day of school at 7:45am they called Sara and told her to come running in – she was hired because they had gotten new funding! She arrived and joined all the teachers in the professional development day. Now . . . we just have to see if the kids don’t eat Sara alive in the next month! They CAN be pretty brutal . . .urban school system – lots of difficult cases. . .
It was such a good feeling to help a young college grad get a job! I felt so thrilled to be able to be part of someone else’s journey. Even if she ends up hating it and going to some other district – I still am happy that I was able to help someone get their first job out of college. 8 months ago
I received a flurry of messages regarding a pencil drawing of mine recently.
A lot of them were praise but a few of them were from people who were motivated to work on their own artwork or hone their ability.
Those were the truly lovely messages and in fact had the opposite effect in that they have actually motivated me to keep drawing and inspired me to push myself further! :) 8 months ago
I hace a house. a nw house that i have moved into a while ago and its set to be th final one. kids are in school and we are all settled so its time to clean out the old. so whats the best way to do that. Ebay of course. i want something. well i actually want a new set of bowling gear. so what i did is gathered up all the kids old clothes and toys and bags and anything i could get my hands on and listed it on ebay. $2 or $3 or whatever i could get and now i am on my way and almost there to my goal and the house is the cleaner for it to. but as for the goal someone else saw what i was doing and saw it not only worked but it cleaned out the house at the same time and they took inspiration from me and started doing the same thing. it feels good to know that i have doen something so well and so passionatelt that it has inspired someone else to do it too. lets hope it keeps going and i get what i want. 8 months ago
I am going to give myself a thorough think over and see where I think I need to improve in my personality and my actions. I know lots of areas, but I am hoping to form some sort of plan. 9 months ago