I was struggling. Actually until two months ago, I was. What changed? I got a fairly decent job; I woke up one day and said to myself- “I am a Single Mum! Deal with it!!”
Not as simple as that.. I realised that if I did not get in shape, I was reducing my chances of being around for my daughter. What a wake up call that was.
I now play badminton at least thrice a week. How do I do that? I spend double the money I used to on child care. I can ill afford it, but hey I really do have to do this. My bouts of self pity and loneliness were increasing. It has definitely taken a back seat since I started playing.
I don’t think I am ready to sign of on this goal as yet…. 4 years ago
I have recently figured out that one of the resons I have trouble getting things done, doing them on time, and having enough time to do them is because I spend too much me time. obviously I must be on the other side of the scale as people who want to do this, so I am not saying that having more “me time” is something you shouldn’t do. But what I am saying is don’t get too addicted, you can get lost in the me time. all that time you spend not having me time can also be valuable, and helps you stay on track and balanced. I guess the best thing to do is be kinda ZEN and have time when you are working and doing things you need to do also be a time when you can reflect and think, like meditative work. 4 years ago
I JUST RECENTLY ENROLLED BACK IN SCHOOL AND WORK PART TIME ALONG WITH BEING A MOM OF 5 AND WIFE HOW DO I FIND TIME FOR JUST ME…RIGHT NOW IT SEEMS LIKE ALOT AND I’M ALWAYS ON THE GO BUT IN THE END IT WILL ALL PAY OFF AND BE WORTH IT SO I THINK IM DONE TRYING TO FIND “ME” TIME THIS IS “ME” MY LIFE AND I WOULD NEVER CHANGE IT..I WOULD CONSIDER THIS A LIFE WORTH LIVING! 5 years ago
“What about your time?”
Single parenting is tough. Hats off to the women who are single parents, work and raise happy children and find time for themselves, for things like health.
Once upon a time, I thought it would be easy. This is reality. I am posting here at 11.00 in the night about time for myself.
I wake up at 6.30, get daughter ready, drop of her at playschool, go to work, come back at 5.45, take her out for a walk,, play with her and she finally sleeps at 9.30. In between her need for attention, I get the house organised, try and sort my financial stuff. I sleep on an average at 12.00, getting in half hour of reading a magazine.
I would love to have an hour and a half to get back to shape. My physical fitness level is awful. I used to be sooo fit..( sigh). The only way I see this happening is a) I get wealthy b) A good maid comes my way, so that I don’t have to spend time in the evening catching up on household stuff or c) the lady who live next door comes through and gets a girl from up north to come and be a live-in help for me. Chance are bleak that any of the three will happen. If there are any prices for wishing and praying, I will probably get it.
One tired momma here! 5 years ago
10 Minutes-relaxing..soothing music
20 Minutes-on the treadmill. 5 years ago
I’ve been able to get more me time in by focusing on the positive and what’s important to me. Sometimes it’s lonesome, sometimes rewarding. Some of it involves other people, some involves just me. It all boils down focusing on what’s important and squeezing in time for it. Sometimes fitting it in feels like a strict, regimented schedule, but to me it’s better than not fitting it in. It’s all a balancing act. Life is busy, and the business deserves to be rewarded. 6 years ago
“Me” time for reading at leisure.
“Me” time to watch the rain fall.
“Me” time to write my friends overseas.
“Me” time to wander in a bookstore.
“Me” time to cook my favourite dishes. 6 years ago
I work three days a week so I get lots of me time to do my stuff but I need to spend more time with other people now, or just using my “me” time well. 6 years ago
this is nice. i’m in my room, i’m not doing stuff for my teachers or my friends or my parents. i’m chillin’.
i need to do this more often 6 years ago
I want to have more personal time for watching movies, playing games, and such. This will have to be accomplished by getting homework done earlier. 6 years ago