the numerous hours spent with Mom in the two weeks since she had her most recent fracture have been extraordinarily stressful, I still think they have been a gift, to both of us, and have brought us closer. They have forced me into some soul-searching and forgiveness (which I’m sure she’s totally unaware of) that has been a very good thing.
I’m down to only spending 2 – 3 hours a day on various “Mom” stuff now, which is still a real sacrifice, but it’s been worth it, and she’s healing nicely. I think I’m marking this as “done”. 4 years ago
I’ve had an overdose of time with Mom this past week. Friday morning when she was at a hotel 3 hours away on her way to breakfast, she fell and fractured her upper humerus in several places. This has been a huge ordeal encompassing 3 different emergency rooms, insurance issues, coordination with surgeon’s offices and the senior village staff where she lives, and me serving the exhausting role of her 24/7 nursemaid for 3 1/2 days. The good news is she does not need that total shoulder replacement the first ER doctor mentioned, nor any surgery.
Also good is the fact that I discovered another health problem that, amazingly, she doesn’t even see as a problem. She gets up about every hour to pee, all night long, every night. When I told her this is not normal and we need to address it, she brushed it off. Maybe this explains some of her weirder behavior – sleep deprivation!
Also good was the way we were able to bond watching HGTV together one night. :) Here is David Bromstad, who I discovered I love. 4 years ago
after Thanksgiving I made time to go over and help her finish putting her garden to bed for the winter and bring in her Christmas trees & decorations and start setting them up.
I would have stayed longer and helped more, but she is funny – she is so very zealous about not being a burden that she sometimes kicks me out when I’m not even ready! I love her so much. :) 4 years ago
had cataract surgery yesterday, so I got to spend plenty of quality time with Mom. :) Love her! 5 years ago
was the first cataract surgery, so I was able to spend lots of time with Mom! I even watched her surgery (they have a camera and microphone set up). Which made me squirm in my chair intensely, but was fascinating, nonetheless. Dr. Lisa is great, and Mom was the perfect patient and is healing nicely. I’m very thankful! 5 years ago
been spending a bit more time with her lately, and last Thursday left work early to accompany her to the eye surgeon’s for a pre-surgical consultation with various people in their staff. She’s having cataract surgery soon, and her surgeon is Dr. Joyce Brothers’ daughter, Lisa. :) She’s a top-notch surgeon and a very nice lady. I’m so glad I was able to be there; Mom was really not with it enough that day to give good medical history, and there are a lot of scheduling things I was able to put on my calendar to help her with the surgery, preparation, and post-surgical check ups. 5 years ago
was planning on going to the family Easter dinner, I kind of pushed most of my somewhat-reluctant family out the door Sunday so we could see her. 5 years ago
mostly just phone calls, but the conversation of a couple of days ago had great news – her blood sugar levels have been reduced to an almost non-diabetic level, thanks to diet changes, etc. Yay! 5 years ago
has been made with this; though the “more time” often consists of time on the phone, rather than in person. I’ve offered to scan and print duplicates of old family photos so she can share some with my aunt, and this tickles her. I also gave her more money than usual for Christmas so she can afford to go on a trip with her friends this year. 5 years ago
talked on the phone, after her doctor’s appt. She was diagnosed with diabetes, but hopefully she’ll do a good job of controlling it with diet. 6 years ago