a thought provoking book from the library this week. It’s called Idle Parenting and although it’s a little tongue in cheek, it’s really given me things to think about. For instance, I worry about my children being bored in the house and I get stressed out if I haven’t taken them out or whatever. But this author explains how we spend so much money travelling to a set destination to walk around, half the time pretending that we are having a good time, because of the amount of cash we have spent on the day. Wouldn’t it be so much easier and relaxing to spend quality time in or around the home area, building dens, having picnics, maybe even camping out in the garden. It doesn’t take a lot to try and conjure up imaginative ways to entertain our children and ourselves.
Also, my children tend to be a little obsessed with the TV and I must admit, I spend most evenings in front of it, watching some pointless show that really has no pupose in making my life better. Why do I do this?? This week, I have made a conscious effort to drag the girls away from the bright lights and fuzzy images and try other things. Painting, sticking, dancing, listening to music, putting on little shows, play-doh….could see myself running out of ideas soon but it does seem to be working. 21 months ago
To the Napton Festival yesterday. Poppy had a fruit shoot from my friend and she went into a right hyper, which only backs up my theory that she cannot drink these things!! It was there and she was thirsty, but I did bring it all on myself. Ella was bullied into buying a bracelet by her friend, which the friend then proceeded to gove to her mother, leaving ella really upset.
Apart from these negatives, I think the rest of the day was enjoyed. I love bringing them to these events. 22 months ago
It was my little Ella’s birthday yesterday. I can’t believe she’s 7 years old. How has that happened?? She invited some friends to her bowling party and she seemed to have a lovely time. She got some nice presents too, including an I-pod touch. I’m jealous!! She’s also tottering about in a pair of high heeled Hannah Montanna shoes. Poppy’s jealous!! 23 months ago
I had an exciting idea that I know Ella would love. I thought one Saturday, we could jump in the car and drive down to Glastonbury town. I loved it there but felt we didn’t have enough time to explore, however d wasn’t keen at all.
We could spend the night in a B&B and it would give us some quality time with each other. I love her so much, but I feel that I don’t show it enough. I’m too busy with housework, gettong stressed, etc. Also, we don’t have any time alone, which I think is sad. I told d of my plan and he looked miserable about it to begin with. He then proceeded to make me feel guilty by saying ‘poor Poppy’. I didn’t need to hear this, as I already felt a little mean at the idea of leaving Poppy behind. But it means she could have some bonding dadfy time and she’s only 3. I find it difficult looking in shops and stuff as she gets so bored easily and tends to wander off. Maybe he’d like me to take both of them, but that would mean no special bonding time with Ella. Grrr…he really makes me mad sometimes. He seems to put my ideas down constantly, without sny regard to how I feel. I’m still doing the plan though ; ) 23 months ago
The marvel of Stonehenge we jumped back in the car and drove another hour to Glastonbury. I have found my true home. It honestly felt that I belonged there. The atmosphere was laid-back mystical and there were shops selling crystals, tarot, incense and I foind a lovely bookstore. It was full of spiritual books, angel books, buddhism books, witchcraft books and so many others…oh I want to go back already. D weren’t feeling the vibe though. He was miserable and moody and ruined the good feeling a little. He then drove top speed the whole way back which really pissed me off. I would have quite happily drove myself if he’d wanted me to. Sometimes, I feel like we’re on different planets….. 23 months ago
It’s a place full of magical mystery and I love the fact that ella gets as excited about it as me. It’s roped off, so you can’t actually go inside the stones but it was still wonderful. 23 months ago
Tomorrow. I thought it would be good to drive down to Glastonbury town as well while we’re down south. Apparently it has some hippie, new age shops, just the sort of things that I love. Full of crystals, self help books etc and I know ellaz will love it as well. Yet when I mentioned to d about glastonbury he weren’t keen on the extra 40 miles drive. No enthusiasm, as usual, but i’m happy to go with the girls alone. 23 months ago
After work yesterday I FINALLY got some “alone” time to play with just my daughter. Her big brother tends to take charge when they play together and I would like her to have more opportunity to lead in play. So she chose the straws and connectors and wanted to make a bridge. We worked on it for an hour or so, me guiding her towards figuring out supports and angles on her own.
The bridge turned into a “castle”, which I pointed out looked a lot like my university. I showed her a picture of SFU and explained that it was a “Quadrangle” and we called it “the Quad”. She renamed her castle the “mendrangle” and told me that “it’s where we’ll put dead men to remember them. Because if you’re going to battle bad guys you really should have a place to put the bodies.” She’s such a sweet little girl.
The second best part of my day was when I was telling hubby how awful my day was, that everything I did today I screwed up (mostly at work kind of stuff). Daughter walked over and said “Not true, you made the best castle ever” and gave me a hug. 4 years ago
I keep forgetting to make entries under this goal. But tonight was really to cheesy to forget.
The kids get so excited by the discovery channel song that I showed them this version and then we watched and listened to different versions of “I love the mountains” with arms round each other and swinging back and forth to the music.
Then daughter wanted to put on a show, so we set that up. She sang her own wonderful version of the boom de ya da song, including every member of the family and my favourite lines:
I love my sushi
I LOVE to be ME!!! (shouted)
Boom de ya dah
Boom de ya dah…. 4 years ago
So we’ve started another year of soccer for son and I make sure one of us is always stays to cheer for games and practices. That seems to be more of a no-brainer than an accomplishment, yet I’m surprised how many parents don’t come.
Also have started son in beavers (boy scouts) and am trying to do as much volunteer work with the troupe as is allowable. He’s already a boy scout at heart, so I’m sure he will have some wonderful memories of the crafts and good works.
Also have him back in his Active Kids Club, one afternoon a week of organized games and crafts with the kids from his school. He goes to school out of area, so Beavers connects him with neighbourhood kids, and Kids club is a chance to bond with children who go to the same school.
Poor daughter, her soccer doesn’t start for another week and she’s too young for the other things. I was afraid she’d feel left out, so I arranged for son to have a sleepover at granny’s on Saturday so that daughter could have some “special time” just about her. We rented some girly movies, read the books she picked, made her favourite foods and did some colouring together. 4 years ago
