I just got rejected on 3 progressively lesser levels. I’d be so upset that and afraid I’d lose her forever that I settled for a lesser level of involvement/intimacy, and everything went well for days… Until she suddenly cut me off, with total silence, until I forced her to respond. Then she ordered me to step back even further. Weird, huh? Nuts, crazy, insane are words to describe her AND the situation. And I’m supposed to keep trying? I don’t think so! 2 months ago
Entries from everyone
There’s only one way to learn.I’ve never put my self out there.I never risked my pride.I never did a lot of things.
But it’s time.I want to look someone in the eye and say “I really like you” and have them say no to me.Sure it might hurt at first,but I’ll get over it.And one day I’ll be able to look back and think,”Huh,at least I know” instead of always going back to what if.
So I’m gonna tell people what I think.I’m going to ask crushes how they feel.I’m going to get regected!
I’m going to learn. 2 months ago
It’s a really silly goal! I laughed when I saw it, and thus, decided to add it to my list. I really can’t recommend aiming for rejection, though. (It’s simply too easy to achieve.) 6 months ago
it wasn’t really a goal. I wanted to be there for someone and I tried to make a friend. It didn’t work and it hurt. 9 months ago
In my mind, this is pretty much the definite version of ‘try to meet people’ or ‘flirt more’. 14 months ago
getting rejected means I’m taking more chances.
I do this when I go out, but I haven’t done that much (recession limitations). 16 months ago
so they appreciate more when they aren’t they have to understand not everything is always going go their way. 17 months ago
I am currently doing this, but not enough. I think this may be a goal i will be doing for the rest of my life. Rejection is practice for success. 19 months ago
Rejection is just part of the process for getting anything that’s worth having in life. Whether you are dating, trying to land that promotion, or applying for a loan, you’re going to hear “NO” far many more times in life then you will hear “YES”. The important thing is to remember that every “no” brings you that much closer to a “yes”, and no doesn’t mean forever, it just means “not now.” If you’re not willing to try because you are afraid of hearing the no, then how much closer does that bring you to achieving your goal?
Does a waitress sit there and cry every time someones says “no” to having a coffee or dessert at the end of a meal? Yet she still goes on asking just the same, and eventually someone accepts her offer. And look at little kids. They’re the best example of not taking rejection personally. They do however scream and cry sometimes(which is just another tactic to try and get to that yes, and more times then not it works.)
So I say, bring on the rejection! Embrace it, hold your head up high, and as my dad used to tell me, remember that “success is nothing sure, I’ve cried. It’s failure that will win, when nothings tried.” 21 months ago