love does not consist in staring at each other but in looking outward in the same direction 1 month ago
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Is that unconditional in the truest sense ? 18 months ago
How to love somebody properly ?
Most importantly how to forgive that person ? 18 months ago
Lately it’s been really difficult to feel anything but love towards everyone and everything… it feels pretty amazing knowing how judgemental and close-minded I’ve been in the past (I still probably am without even noticing it, but I’ve definitely made progress). I truly feel genuinely loving towards almost everyone these days :)
There are a couple of people (relatives…) that seem to raise my blood pressure still and while I can understand in theory why they act the way they do, that loving and accepting vibe while being with them has so far been impossible to achieve. I’ve no problems treating them with kindness because that’s what I’ve always done with them, but I can’t feel the same genuine acceptance and unconditional love towards them that I feel towards other people. I’m not sure if it’s something I should just accept I can’t do, or whether it’s simply a sign that I’ve a lot more growing to do… after all, what I feel towards these two people isn’t really about them in the end but me.
Ps. You are loved :) 20 months ago
But never stupidly.
There’s a difference.
Choose the one who is worth every atom of your being. 22 months ago
Think I’m a weird tree-hugging love-is-all-you-need airy fairy hippie? No? Don’t worry, you probably will after reading this… :D
While often quite difficult, some days “loving unconditionally” is almost ridiculously easy. I’ve been so full of joy and peace the last few days that I’ve felt as if I were radiating love energy today :-) Perhaps it’s just a coincidence or my imagination, but it’s almost as if others around me felt it too… All strangers I’ve smiled at have smiled back, and that’s not at all the norm in Finland, believe me – more often than not you not only don’t get a smile back but are also labeled as a weirdo, a drunk or – if you’re lucky – as a foreigner… But today even those who seemed completely miserable just a moment before have given a broad smile back, and everyone I’ve talked to has been extremely nice. Even those who seemed to have got up on the wrong side of bed suddenly started to be in a good mood, joking around and smiling :) Whether this is a coincidence or not, I definitely want more days like this one! 23 months ago
I’ve tried to come up with a description of what unconditional love means for me but haven’t had much success. Usually unconditional love is said to be that of a mother for her child, but I feel it doesn’t describe what I personally want to achieve with this goal.
By ‘love’ I don’t mean the emotion of love but rather a permanent feeling of being connected to everyone else. I couldn’t come up with a better explanation but then I found this text by The Dalai Lama and it explains exactly what I tried to find words for but couldn’t (it just uses the word ‘compassion’ instead of ‘love’):
“First of all, we must be clear about what we mean by compassion. Many forms of compassionate feeling are mixed with desire and attachment. For instance, the love parents feel of their child is often strongly associated with their own emotional needs, so it is not fully compassionate. Again, in marriage, the love between husband and wife – particularly at the beginning, when each partner still may not know the other’s deeper character very well – depends more on attachment than genuine love. Our desire can be so strong that the person to whom we are attached appears to be good, when in fact he or she is very negative. In addition, we have a tendency to exaggerate small positive qualities. Thus when one partner’s attitude changes, the other partner is often disappointed and his or her attitude changes too. This is an indication that love has been motivated more by personal need than by genuine care for the other individual.
True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively.
Whether people are beautiful and friendly or unattractive and disruptive, ultimately they are human beings, just like oneself. Like oneself, they want happiness and do not want suffering. Furthermore, their right to overcome suffering and be happy is equal to one’s own. Now, when you recognize that all beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it, you automatically feel empathy and closeness for them. Through accustoming your mind to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others: the wish to help them actively overcome their problems. Nor is this wish selective; it applies equally to all. As long as they are human beings experiencing pleasure and pain just as you do, there is no logical basis to discriminate between them or to alter your concern for them if they behave negatively.
Because we all share an identical need for love, it is possible to feel that anybody we meet, in whatever circumstances, is a brother or sister. No matter how new the face or how different the dress and behavior, there is no significant division between us and other people. It is foolish to dwell on external differences, because our basic natures are the same.
I try to treat whoever I meet as an old friend. This gives me a genuine feeling of happiness. It is the practice of compassion.”
The Dalai Lama (the whole text here) 2 years ago
everyday you can love more and more and more…
for ever, and always….
that´s love for your family, for yourself, for your friends and for your life. 2 years ago