If a person is just not that into you- then stop being jealous of the person they are. Easier said than done right? 2 years ago
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I had a fleeting “epiphany” moment… I wonder if it will last.. Please do! 2 years ago
I went in for hypnotherapy to see if I could fix this problem of mine. Didn’t imagine it would take me back to some deepseated childhood insecurity issues. Who knew?
That was in December of 2010. It is now Feb 2011. So far, I think I’m okay. I’ve caught my boyfriend looking at other girls but I haven’t flipped out. One time he commented on someone being “hot” and I was quick to comment the guy she was with was hot too. That pretty much shut him up.
The hypnotherapist said to mirror what he does to me. I guess it kind of worked for once! 2 years ago
I’ve been with my boyfriend for exactly 2 Years, 1 Month and 1 day =D and each day I love him more and more.
There is one huge problem though, which is ME.
Not only am I jealous but I’m possessive too and I show it. I don’t mean for itthough and everytime I show it, in my head I’m thinking ‘Why am I doing this?’
I’ve used my past relationships and his (When he was with his ex, a girl came onto him and ended up kissing him at a party, his ex wasn’t there but once he realised what was happening he pushed the girl away. This has happened twice at different occasions whihc I know is strange. I know that he wasn’t happy in his past relationship because he used to be overweight and his ex was the only girl he thought he could get, which makes him sound horrible but to be honest the girl wasn’t that nice personality wise anyway, and I know that even though he wasn’t happy he wasn’t prepared to cheat which proves to me that I know he won’t cheat but the circumstances on how we got together are that he going to break up with his ex but couldn’t get the courage and we began texting and flirting. I knew him for a year by this time and was a close friend and he told me that he was breaking up with her becasue he wasn’t happy anymore. I also know that I was in the wrong here too) but as I was saying our past relationships and my personal history with men (Nearly all thr men in my family have cheated including my father) means that I find it hard to trust anyway but I do trust my BF.
He’s the best boyfriend any girl could ask for. He treats me if he has spare money, cooks me food, cuddles and watches films that he doesn’t like but knows that I do. But I just can’t get over him around other girls.
It began when he and I began college together (about 3 months off our 1 year anniversary) and there was a girl in his class that was a bit flirtatious with him. I spotted this and told him that I didn’t mind him being with her in a group of friends but not alone. My boyfriend didn’t think she was flirty or that she liked him but went along with it to please me and on occasions missed out on some social events because I was too worried etc.
Anyway we’ve finished college and he has now gone to university which is roughly about a 2 hour journey away from me. And I’ve gotten worse. I feel like in in competion with his new friends and even though he comes home every weekend and speaks to me once or twice a day on skype along with texts and phone calls (especially if skype is playing up), I know that he likes this but whenever he he is with his friends, I feel like he has more fun with them than he ever does with me . I worry when he goes out clubbing because the city he’s studying at is not safe (I know someone who got mugged there a couple of weeks ago) and I want him to text me roughly every half hour just to let me know thats he is safe, which he does to about 95% of the time. I know that this is controlling but I’m scared for him. But the 5% that he doesn’t do it, causes me to go mad sometimes and I get really bitchy towards him. I know that it doesn’t help that I’m living at home, trying to (but unsuccesfully) to get a job and I have a little bit of an addiction to facebook games.
Another big thing is, that there is another girl who I believe fancies him (which he doesn’t think) becasue when I went up there one time 9 and the first time I met her) she seemed quite flirty and ‘agreeable’ with everything he said. She even called him baby at one point. Therefore I hate this girl. But the problem is that she attends not only his university classes but his gymnastics classes too. She lives near him so on occasions he walks down with her and friends but there have been occasions wheere he just walks with her. I hate this and I know that by now your probably thinking that I don’t trust him but the truth is I really really do. He thinks that I don’t trust him around girls either but I know full well that if any girls came up to him and came onto him, he wouldn’t encourage them and if they did kiss him or touch him, then he would push them away.
Next year he has to move into student accomodation outside of the university grounds and he said to me that depending on how much I changed (as in became less jealous etc) then he would consider moving in with me. I tried so hard for those two weeks leading up to his decisiion to be on my best behaviour and then he turned around and agreed to move in with 7 of his friends (2 of which are men, the other 5 are girls which I know I shouldnt be bothered about but at least 3 of them are ‘slag like’). The thing that annoyed me the most was the fact that the day before this happened he said that I had really changed and he thought that there was a large possiblitltiy that we could move in together for the next year and also the fact that he agreed before even consulting me about moving in with them. He says it’s because they needed his answer on the spot but sometimes when we discuss it, it just doesn’t seem right. I know that I wouldnt be so bother as much if it was a bigger ratio of guys to girls but I feel betrayed that he would rather live with 5 girls than his own girlfirend.
I’m sorry if any of this doesn’t make sense but its 4am where I am and I started this after yet another arguement with my boyfriend even though he’s only been back at uni for just over a day.
I hope that I can change soon, for not only me, but for him and us.
I love him so much and I know that I need to change. There is so much that I havn’t said or i need to write more on some bits but i will hopefully get there. I’m hoping that this time I can change for good.
Thanks. xx 2 years ago
I don’t know why but my boyfriend leaves me with that sense of insecurity. Although I have a better appearance than him and generally I am more confident in terms of social interactions, I am afraid. He has a good relationship with girls and he is friendly with them. Am I too insecure or he just does not make me feel safe? 2 years ago
I have always had a jealous personality. Nothing out of the ordinary.. just enough to make myself crazy if I got too focused on one thing. I’m much better now, but I still have a ways to go! Even though I feel that I’ve got all I could want, I still find a way to be jealous at times. Silly. 3 years ago
I hate being jealous becuase when I am… I feel like its a mood that no one should ever feel becuase its not right or something. When thats not true. Jealousy is a mood that lets the one you care for know that you dont ever want to lose them. But then again it can get quite annoying. I hate being so jealous all the time. 3 years ago
I am also jealous all the time. Everytime he even TALKS to another girl, i get so jealous. He is actually extremely innocent. The most best boyfriend ever. I told him to stop talking to girls that are just his friends & he has. I feel so mean though. It would be so great if i could just forget all about it, not worry at all, but it’s hard. Even him looking at Meagan Fox on tv, i get sooooooooooooooo jealous it kills me. I end up feeling really moody, but i try not to let him see that but he can really tell.
Going to change, i am. I feel so possessive. 3 years ago