Appreciate people for who they are

i do but i just want to do it more :) 18 months ago

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My family… where do I start? We all look alike. We sound alike. But who we are, who we want to be, our “vision” of what life should be… well let’s just say we couldn’t be any different. Especially me.
I was always feisty. I guess it was inevitable I would be the wild flower. The free spirit, globe trotter, ect. My sisters are younger and they are settling down when I feel like I am just getting started. My parents have found religion and worry and deeper spiritual and emotional places that leave them worrying less about keeping up appearances and the world around them. ME?? I just want to learn and live. One thing has held true over the last year or so.I have learned to love all of them for who they are. I have learned to accept the fact that none of them have the desires and drives I have. And I understand that I really do not make much sense to them either.Changing my career, ignoring my biological clock (that I still swear I don’t have) and bouncing around just living rather than husband seeking or home planning. We have all learned to just let it be. And love one another for who we are as individuals. So I suppose I could say I am doing this. 2 years ago

i usually don’t appreciate people for who they are, and i look at their appearance rather than the personality. for example, if a scene kid was to come up to me i’d bash on them, only because i despise the way they act and the way they dress, and their hair looks like a raccoons nest. i know that everyone is different but i think i need to improve this one more, i hate labels, but apparently everyone does it either way.. 2 years ago

Hi ALL,

I was a cribber, no matter how good or bad things used to happen with me. I never appreciated anyone for good things done and most of all i had taken my near and dear ones for granted. But, i knew that i am wrong and nothing would change if i don’t change myself. I had bought a copy of this great book “how to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie which really turned my thought process upside down. If you guys need tips i can get some points from the book. But i would recommend each one of you to read the book page by page. I am sure after reading this book you would think before you say something to the other person. 2 years ago

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I don’t feel like appreciating people for who they are anymore. People are such a bunch of bastards that I don’t want to even know most of them.

My big problem is that I don’t have anything to gain from appreciating people. They might be more friendly to me but I don’t really need or want that. I am considering giving up on this goal. 4 years ago

I have been trying not to dwell on the shortcomings of other people after reading the advice in a book. Here are some examples of how nicely it worked.

My first dancing teacher was a bit of a nasty bitch. She insulted me quite often. I just took it without retaliating. I enjoyed her insults because I thought of it as part of her personality and that was what made her so special and interesting. Eventually the insults stopped and we got along really well after that. I believe that by showing acceptance for her defects, I made her feel better about herself and she liked me for it.

My current teacher is a bit unusual. The others call her grumpy. I imagined as if her weirdness wasn’t there and just concentrated on having a nice time with her. In return she has become very friendly towards me.

Dogs don’t care how ugly you are or how much money you have or if you are a total loser. They think you are the most wonderful person in the world no matter what you do. You could come home from murdering someone and your dog would still love you as if nothing had happened.

And here are some examples of not showing acceptance.

My bosses wife is a terrible cook. I straight out said to her that her food wasn’t very nice. I told her that the clothes she chose for her husband weren’t very nice. In social situations I would have a great time talking to everyone other than her. She now hates me and I am too scared to visit my boss for dinner in case she poisons my food.

My dad has trouble accepting my decisions, even on the simplest matters. He has always been trying to force me to make friends with people when I don’t like having friends and he can’t accept that. He has always told me to stop sitting in front of my pc all the time. He can’t accept that I like computers more than having friends or being outside. The result is that I now try to avoid having to talk to him because I know he will annoy me. 5 years ago

I don’t like how people think celebs are the most wonderful people in the world. They will do anything to meet them. Why don’t they instead appreciate the people who they do know instead of someone who they will never meet or never know well? I understand that celebs put a lot of work into becoming what they are and I admire that in them but I don’t think people should do all sorts of crazy things just to meet these people.

I have realized that I may never get the chance to meet a celeb but I will always be able to talk to the people who I know and appreciate them for who they are. 5 years ago

It’s almost impossible to appreciate some idiot that’s banging his head aganist the window and laughing about it…
I’m going to try to find something unique about everyone I look at tomorrow. Not anything physical. Just something rather odd.
Everyone’s unique even in the slightest way, whether I believe it currently or not. Even the preppy snobby girls that appear to have the same personality differ in some way.
I think if I can really make myself realize how unique, how real each human being is..it’ll really help me out to just appreciate them for who they are. 6 years ago