There hasn’t been many situations in which I have to say no yet but when something does come up and I say I can’t, especially to my mother I feel bad about it; mainly because she gives me a guilt trip to make me feel bad. Idk if she does it on purpose or not but it bother’s a lot. 1 month ago
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...or too kind? Heck, this puts anybody in precarious situations.
Oftentimes, going with the flow isn’t getting you anywhere good.
Learn to fight for yourself; have individuality and freedom, dammit. 2 months ago
I said yes to a cookie exchange that I didn’t have time to prepare for. I was up until midnight baking sugar cookies that didn’t turn out right. I got up super early and headed to the grocery store the next morning to buy cookies and then had to explain what happened to my coworkers. LESSON LEARNED MY FRIEND, LESSON LEARNED!!! 5 months ago
learning to say no, and gaining more will power when it comes to situations that will bring on later forms of regret. one of the hardest things to do, especially if you are trying to kick a habit, big or small. i, as well as many others, have been taken as a “victim”, of our own guilty conscious, but it is important not to give up and try again!. the first step to “saying no”, is recognizing that u need to say no. although it can be hard, and even if you give in one time, there will always be another chance to say no! stay positive everyone! as you are your own keeper! :) 6 months ago
I think I’ve been making pretty good progress on this goal. When asked to do something, my first instinct is to just say yes. However, I am working hard to rewire the “need to please” instinct in my brain.
I said no to a workshop that conflicted with another event I wanted to attend.
Today, my boss emailed me to ask if I could teach a class on a day I don’t normally work. This would ruin my day off, and add an extra day to my work week. I took a few hours and thought about it, then said I wasn’t available. And it’s no big deal. They can find someone else. That wasn’t so hard now, was it?
I made plans to hang out with my cousin, but when he asked if I wanted to go see a band that was playing, I answered honestly that I was tired from work, and I would rather catch up with him in a quiet environment over coffee. It’s just not my scene. I don’t think I have a scene, come to think of it :)
However, he followed up with an invite to coffee and a movie. I said yes right away, without asking what movie he wanted to see. I just found out that it’s a movie I wouldn’t even bother to see at all, let alone pay $15 to see it on the big screen. Bah. You win some, you lose some. 8 months ago
At first my “no”s were kind of hostile, evasive and defensive but they have now become calm, happy and compassionate. “thanks for asking but that’s not right for me at this time” for example. I no longer need to please others. :-) 9 months ago
I’ve been conditioned to say yes all my life. One of my last jobs was very deep in customer service, where I was trained to never say no unless there was no other option available to offer. This is a good customer service strategy, but it shouldn’t transfer over to other aspects of my life.
I’ve been finding myself in situations I didn’t ever want to be in lately, and these situations could all have been avoided if I would have said no. I could have saved myself a lot of time and energy by saying no. I could have saved myself from being walked on quite a bit if I had only said no a few more times.
So this goal is going to be about making better choices, which involves saying no. 9 months ago
This week I passed up a great library job. It would have been a great job to have on my resume, and the extra money would come in handy, However, it would lessen the amount of vacation time I will have over the next eight months and ruin my three day weekends, and I’m just not willing to give up my sanity for a few extra dollars.
Also, I will be taking three courses and working 18 hours a week at my other job. I have the tendency to bite off more than I can chew… and I think the addition of another job would be more than I could handle right now.
So I said no. And it actually feels good! 9 months ago