I have not been doing a very good job on this one. My husband and I got into a huge argument yesterday, which lasted all day. sigh I hate those days. Neither one of use have been doing enough. We’ve just been doing the bare minimum for each other and it finally came to a head. Hopefully we can sort everything out and start again, one step at a time, and work harder. For marriage is work, and we need to work on it for each other. 2 years ago
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I had a chat with a single coworker today about this. And I don’t think I am doing a very good job of this. However, I know comparing a marriage to a single, newly dating someone, is not a fair assessment. But when she asked me some questions and I also got her anwsers in return, I was shocked. Maybe the problem lies with me (apparently it does). IDK. 3 years ago
I’m afraid I am not doing such a good job at this goal. I have a hard time stop thinking about me, and think about him and WE. Sigh. :-/ 3 years ago
Me and my common law husband have been together for 8 years. We have 2 beautiful girls together, about a week ago I found out he was talking to another girl. Nothing sexual happened and when I confronted her she said they were just friends! My husband told me he wasn’t happy wit me anymore and wanted to go our own ways…. of course I begged and cried for us to try one last time. We sat down and he told me everything that bothered him… most of it was that I don’t show him love, I don’t respect his family or give him his own space. I started to change all that and today he tells me he just isn’t happy anymore and can’t do it!!! Is this relationship over or do I keep trying…. will my persistance make him happy again or will I just be smothering him and pushibg him farther away…. I just love him to much to end it! 3 years ago
My husband and i used to be so good together. the time when we first started dating was the best time of my life. All i want in life is to get that back but we have gotten so bad that we get annoyed with each other all the time. Even though we really love each other i feel like if we didn’t get married and have kids we would NOT be together. we fight all the time and its over such stupid stuff. Most of it is me because i am SO stressed and easily upset or irritated but the more i do that the more he withdraws and does other stuff without me and hates being around me so i get more jealous, more upset, etc. and he stays away from me more. How can i make him happy and get him to like me again and see that this time it is for real so he can open up to me and not see me as this person who is holding his life back but as his best friend and partner like he used to? 4 years ago
I want to make my husband feeled loved he says i belittle him and make hm feel like dirt and thts not wht i want to do i want to make him feel like he is my king I love my baby and i want ways of showing him the each and everyday 4 years ago
I have been with my husband for 2 years. We have a child, we are constantly stressed. What can I do to make him want to stay with me for me not because we have kids. we are on the verge of Divorce. WE ARE NOT HAPPY! How can I fix us? 4 years ago
I am sad that I haven’t been working very hard on this lately. I should be making this my priority every day. He tries so hard to greet me when I come home and tell me he loves me, etc. I come home from work angry and tired and just want to be left alone. I snap at him. Even though it’s not him I am upset at. I just have a very stressful job and I hate it, so I get down. I need to work on switching it off when I come home and just be happy that I am with him and that he tries so hard for me, he dereves me to try so hard for him. :-) 4 years ago
I have been married for 1 year and all we do is fight. He is never happy and im never happy. I try so hard to make him happy. I dont know what to do any more.. I dont want to loose him because i love him so much..He is the best thing that has ever happend to me. 4 years ago
We have been married for exactly one month and one day. I really, really want to keep our relationship alive and vibrant. We have so much fun together, and are generally happy. But I see sometimes that he goes above and beyond when all I am doing is sitting on the couch watching TV.
I need to try harder, to strive to make him happy the way he makes me. I need to look beyond the messy house, that I make more money than him, etc. and just be happy and make him happy back.
I am reading a great book right now, and I would highly recommend it, The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage by Laura Schlessinger. I just started reading it, but it is an EYE OPENER even at this early stage of my marriage! I never came to terms with the fact that I have been playing the little girl, and I want to be taken care of, and someday I will be found out a fraud. I need to just put my big girl panties on and GROW UP! Instead of complaining about the mess, I need to clean. Instead of ordering out every night and complaining about finances, I need to cook my own dinner. Etcetera. It is eye opening. 4 years ago