I have always been a fairly good listener but what I had to learn was to stop interrupting when others were talking, stay focused and not allow any internal nor external distactions over whelm me. After the individual finshed speaking, I repeated back to the reciever in my own words what was said. Maintain eye contact. Careful not to prejudge an individual because thr person maybe more intelligent than they appear to be. 3 years ago
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I’m happy I succeded a bit in this! So when my loved one told me yesterday that he wanted to eat, we went to eat, and when he told me he could have helped me to eat my food I gave him my food as he was more hungry! I wish to listen to him in all other situations too! And in such a way give him what he wants! I want to listen to him attentively today and try to help him in everything! 4 years ago
I just don’t want to listent to them! Everybody has their own oppinion on what my life should be like, and everybody is telling this to me. And I’m totaly lost. Not because I am lost among what they all are saying but because in all this I can’t hear and think on what do I want by myself.
I have to learn to listen to myself and to my own real desires first!
Good luck to you all to!
Have a great day,
Maria :) 5 years ago
I talk to much. I love to talk, and I enjoy it, and I don’t want to stop, but I want to be able to and know when and how to listen, really listen. I want to be more balanced. If I can listen and make more precise comments and know when to, then I’ll be a much nicer person to talk to. I don’t plan to stop talking but I want to explore the listening side so I can hopefully pick up on things I wouldn’t do normally. 5 years ago
Ever since they changed the train schedule the bus keeps driving away when the train just arrives leaving a 30 minute wait or a 20 minute walk. Fair point to complain about as you would expect these days the 2 companies to Communicate with each other and listen to their customer but this is difficult obviously.
Anyway we know this is annoying so this was used as an excuse to start up a conversation with me, a friendly face :-). But I always have the feeling I end up telling my whole life story and I have learned nothing of the person I was talking to. It’s not always like that but I like to learn how to tell when a person is bored of my story, when to ask questions to keep the other person’s story going and how to deal with it politely if I have to listen to a person complaining. At work I actually stop that by telling the person what they have to do or what I am going to do to solve the problem. 6 years ago
To be frank, I just talk too much. When someone’s trying to tell me something, I keep trying to relate it to me and so I don’t really hear what I should. Once I can listen, I just feel like I’ll be a better friend and person. 7 years ago
In my life, I have observed that I have been gifted with many talents and skills. Life in general, barring my addiction issues, has been fairly easy for me, provided that I keep the correct outlook. Bad stuff happens to everyone (in my case, both parent died when I was 18, picked up a major drug habit, etc.). As long as I have an openmind, a willingness to be helpfull, and the ablilty to not think of myself for a few minutes, life is good.
I go through periods in my life where I chose not to listen to people. I will ask a question, with no intent on listening to what they have to say…as they are speaking, I am thinking of what I would like to say next…I have the ablility to understand and learn from what they are saying, I chose not to at times. I enjoy when I can help someone in any manner (mostly out of self interest…I help you, I have no time to think about me). Some (at times, most) of the time, I am not willing to stop thinking about me for a second and listen…I think when I am able to, life is much better for me.
I would like to put more effort into listen to others. 7 years ago
Listening allows you to focus on other people – it’s therapeutic, which means you can forget about your own issues and drift into another person’s world, of course, you need to listen carefully, but it does not mean you need to express and opinion or give advice the whole time! Just share the (other person’s) moment together – it is really enriching. 7 years ago